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Original poster

Petty AIBU but… sandwiches!

389 replies

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 12:55

I make my partner sandwiches to take to the office most weekdays.

I do this in the evening then put them in the fridge for him to take in the morning.

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

This annoys me as it seems so lazy and I have sandwiches to make again for the next day. He could save the ones I made for the following day.

I’d love to know if this would annoy others too. It drives me mad.

OP posts:
fortheloveofflowers · 15/05/2023 14:38

YABU to be making a grown man sandwiches 🤷‍♀️

Rubyupbeat · 15/05/2023 14:40

Why are you knocking her for making his sandwiches, she has said he does lots and this is how the jobs are divided up.

Ktime · 15/05/2023 14:41

DanceMonster · 15/05/2023 14:35

I know, I said that about 2 pages ago.
My point was that if there is a sandwich in the fridge (as per the scenario in the OP, the one we’re discussing), and he wanted a sandwich for his lunch, what would be the point in making another sandwich?

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No point but if they have an arrangement that he gets sandwiches for days he works OOH, for him to engineer it that he gets sandwiches every day then he is is not playing fair, and OP should making his sandwiches as a protest.

Ktime · 15/05/2023 14:41

*stop making

diddl · 15/05/2023 14:42

He should tell OP he is WFH the next so OP doesn't have to make him a sandwich.

This isn't rocket science, people.

I agree, Op is pissed off at making sandwiches unnecessarily.

PinkStarAtNight · 15/05/2023 14:46

Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 13:22

Not weird. If he’s home he has access to our Freud he, toaster, cooker etc
and can make whatever. The reason
for taking sandwiches into the office is that those things aren’t at the office.

I would have thought that was obvious. Maybe not!

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I don't know how long your OH gets for his lunch break, but I WFH and I find that my 30 min lunch isn't really enough time to make something (even egg on toast) eat it and relax/feel as though I have had a break. Being at home doesn't give him anymore time to make and eat food so he probably appreciates having the sandwiches there (and I know that everyone has said it already but its U to expect him to save them and eat two day old sandwiches!)

If this is the way you have divided up tasks (assuming his allocated tasks are equal) then I'm not sure why you have a problem with it. Making sandwiches isn't that hard surely? And he is grateful for them and eats them. I don't see the problem.

Mumof4alsoabonus · 15/05/2023 14:47

I would be much more annoyed if he didn’t eat them that day after I made them. But as before get him to make his own.

Moveoverdarlin · 15/05/2023 14:52

Sandwiches are a pretty boring lunch option. 2 day old sandwiches are beyond depressing.

Scalottia · 15/05/2023 14:56

Moveoverdarlin · 15/05/2023 14:52

Sandwiches are a pretty boring lunch option. 2 day old sandwiches are beyond depressing.

Nah I love a good sandwich - an easy and delicious lunch option! Have never had a 2 day old one though.

PleaseJustText · 15/05/2023 14:57

I'm too lazy but my old manager used to make a week of sandwiches and stick them in the freezer. Apparently they defrost in the fridge overnight and taste fine the next day.

Theelephantinthecastle · 15/05/2023 15:02

I think it's weird to include as part of "joint jobs" to be divided between you anything that is purely for one of you. Like a packed lunch.

We have jobs divided up between us but this division does not include anything that is only for one of us. So for example DH doesn't drink coffee so buying coffee pods and descaling and cleaning the machine is not a task we would put in the joint pile, it's entirely for me and it wouldn't occur to me to suggest that DH does it. Similarly DH has a lot of dry clean only suits, it wouldn't occur to him to suggest that I take them, it's his thing because he knows what he wants cleaned and when.

Similarly on the lunch, he knows when he wants a packed lunch and what he fancies eating, it's entirely for his benefit, I think it's weird to make it a household chore.

Totally different to dinner which most couples eat together. And I can also see if both of you are having a packed lunch why you might share the task.

CoronationKicking · 15/05/2023 15:03

"He should tell OP he is WFH the next so OP doesn't have to make him a sandwich.

This isn't rocket science, people.

I agree, Op is pissed off at making sandwiches unnecessarily."

It wasn't unnecessary, he ate the sandwich for his lunch. Exactly what it was intended for.

TheNine · 15/05/2023 15:05

YABU for making him sandwiches in the first place!! Tell the lazy toad to fuck off

greyhairnomore · 15/05/2023 15:06

You're making him sandwiches for lunch - he's eating them for lunch ...

2023forme · 15/05/2023 15:06

If he decides to work from home instead, he still eats the sandwiches, despite lots of other options instead - eggs on toast, salad, quiche etc we have in the house.

To be honest @Flyinggeesei234 I thought you were going to say the complete opposite ie the sandwiches were there but he chose to make something else.

When does he decide to WFH - can he just make that decision on the morning? Can he not decide the night before and then no sandwiches need made?

Overall I think YABU. I get that this is the way you have split the chores, but if you hate making the sandwiches, don't!

Saucemonkey · 15/05/2023 15:06

Sandwiches in the fridge are only ok for 24 hours

Irequireausername · 15/05/2023 15:06

What kind of sandwiches do you make? Can't take that long surely.

Original poster
Flyinggeesei234 · 15/05/2023 15:16

Thanks all. Repetitive posts about 2 day sandwiches are getting silly now so I won’t read more.

Thanks to others for input. I’m glad i
posted, it did help.

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 15/05/2023 15:19

Ktime · 15/05/2023 14:30

Why should she ask him? He needs to tell her or not get anysandwiches!

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Because she's the one who is unhappy with the way things are!

QOD · 15/05/2023 15:19

this makes me lol - i make my husbands lunches twice a week - if he wants it made for him, he eats what he's given ... I make 3 days worth on sunday and 2 days worth on weds ... wrap it well in placcy sandwich bags and put in the fridge
but i hear ya re eating them when at home - lazy git

I work from home sedentary 25 hrs, he does 40 hours manual work.

horseyhorsey17 · 15/05/2023 15:25

Echoing everyone else saying two-day-old sandwiches are rank. The issue here seems to be that you resent making your husband's sandwiches - so don't do it! He's a big boy, he can make his own.

Ktime · 15/05/2023 15:26

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 15/05/2023 15:19

Because she's the one who is unhappy with the way things are!

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So he no longer gets sandwiches. She is not his secretary, she doesn't have to ask him every day if he is WFH the next day.

Badbudgeter · 15/05/2023 15:26

I wouldn’t want an old sandwich. Has to be same day. If I forget to take my sandwich to work I have it for tea!

BellaVita · 15/05/2023 15:28

Seriously OP 🙄

Honestly, why are you whinging? He is eating them.

MummyDummyNow · 15/05/2023 15:29

For starters he should be making his own lunch wether he's at home or work. But sandwiches made the night before aren't great, let alone 2 day old sarnies!