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Am I ruining the holiday?

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jasmine92 · 15/05/2023 10:14

DP has not said as much but I just feel bad.

We spent a lot of money on a much needed holiday as we’ve been super stressed - we booked a really remote, hot location with the plan being nothing but sunbathing.
We’ve got here and it’s freezing cold, and it’s expected to be until we leave. I feel gutted because a) we spent a lot of money, b) there’s literally nothing else to do and c) he suggested other locations that I said no to because I have been before, and I should’ve gone for them as they’re really hot right now.

I keep mentioning the weather, DP keeps telling me to “make the most of it”, “it’s done now”, “it’s out of our control” etc but I just hate being cold and there’s literally nothing else to do. He told me off for looking at the weather and told me not to look again. But I just am so annoyed. Also gutted as I packed only dresses.

Also, I really wanted a holiday for us to just get away from everything as we’ve been so stressed. I said let’s just put our phones down for the week, and let’s not talk about anything going on at home that’s stressful, and let’s talk about different stuff, but he keeps scrolling each time I even walk 2 metres away. He said I put too much pressure on the holiday by saying this.
I then got upset during breakfast as he wasn’t really saying much and he said he felt pressured to make conversation. He also said he’d had 3 hours sleep and I wasn’t being understanding.

I just feel like a misery guts but I can’t help but be upset, and I don’t feel like he’s understanding. Am I unreasonable?

OP posts:
Pipsquiggle · 15/05/2023 22:15

OP hasn't been back for 12 hours. I am hoping she's had a lovely day:

Walking
Eating
Drinking
Sexing
Reading
Shopping......

Gem89415 · 15/05/2023 22:15

We are currently on a Greek island and yes it’s not as scorching as it has been previous years but we’ve still had a pool day today and a beach day yesterday! Tomorrow has forecast a bad storm so we’ve planned a day in the hotel bar and bought games and toys to entertain the 6 children we have between us!! Make the most of what you’ve got you can’t change it and the way I see it is you’ve not go to go to work!!
check Poseidon weather as it’s what the fishermen use so is normally pretty accurate and just plan things around the predicted rain xx

SchoolTripDrama · 15/05/2023 22:18

TorviShieldMaiden · 15/05/2023 11:05

For reference it was 16-17 degrees in North Yorkshire this weekend and I was wearing shorts and t-shirt and got sunburn. Go for a walk!

To me, cold weather is below about 10 degrees, to be freezing it would be lower than that. 20 f degrees is lovely weather.

It was 21 degrees in Harrogate for an hour yesterday I was practically on the floor 🫠

Doone21 · 15/05/2023 22:41

You're ruining the holiday not the weather. Yes it's cold but suck it up. Stay in bed and shag all day or build blanket forts and eat pizza but shut the fuck up complaining.

VintageBlossomHill · 15/05/2023 22:58

Yes you’re disappointed but give yourself a shake and get on with making the most of it. (Meant in the nicest possible way - I need a good kick in the ass sometimes too)

I’m going to a funeral tomorrow of youngish mum of three who had a horrendous last few months. Count your blessings and enjoy time with people who love you.

LadyFlumpalot · 15/05/2023 23:06

I feel your pain OP. We've booked to go to Greece in a couple of weeks. This time last year when we booked, the weather was 34 and wall to wall sunshine where we are going. This year, it's barely into the 20's and raining at the moment. I've bought loads of summer dresses but gunna chuck some leggings and jumpers in as well!

notangelinajolie · 15/05/2023 23:07

I don't think anywhere in Greece is ever scorching in May.

If it's any consolation it was freezing when I went in May too. However, me and my friend came back with the best tan - it may have been cold but we sunbathed regardless of the weather. The suns rays still managed to get through the clouds. People we met at the airport going home were amazed - I don't think they believed us when we said we'd sat shivering on the beach all holiday.

If you can't bear the cold - then you need get out and about and explore. Make the most of it and do something different. You may just enjoy it.

LudicrouslyCapaciousBag · 15/05/2023 23:08

I think you know you are. You have fallen into the trap of thinking that you would be totally different people on holiday but wherever you go, there you are.

Hire a car. I know it is expensive. Do it anyway. Drive to a shop and buy a jumper. Let DP use his bloody phone if he wants and stop proscribing topics of conversation.

Zone2NorthLondon · 15/05/2023 23:09

Yes you’re being a moan. Get a jacket, go to some cafes, tavernas, read with a jacket on

DorritLittle · 15/05/2023 23:20

Sorry your holiday is disappointing. That’s really crap. However I thought you were in somewhere really remote. There is surely other stuff to do in Greece OP? Take in an ancient wonder of the world? Go on a boat trip? Eat some Greek food?

Ihatepickingausername3 · 15/05/2023 23:25

Potentially OP. Make the best of a bad situation. It’s still a holiday even if it isn’t scorching but I do get the disappointment!

Ihatepickingausername3 · 15/05/2023 23:27

^^ I’d love to be on a beach… scorching or not though so I'm biased!

Kwooooo · 15/05/2023 23:27

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pollyglot · 15/05/2023 23:29

You sound so uptight and controlling. It's all about you, and the poor man is trying to be calm and accommodating. There has to be SOMETHING interesting to do, even if it's just walking and talking.

MorrisZapp · 15/05/2023 23:42

Lol at the idea she 'buys some jeans'. The chances of there being a decent pair of jeans that fit the OP in an out of season Greek holiday resort when the rest of us are sobbing in Marks and Spencers changing rooms are zero. OP, if you find these magical jeans let me know and I'll fly out myself.

Happinessisnowhere · 15/05/2023 23:45

Ah. That really sucks that it's cold. I'm sure most people would be grumpy having had spent a big chunk of money on going somewhere supposed to be hot and it turns out not to be.
Thing is its done now.
You can choose to stay grumpy a
or you can choose to make the most of it, even if that means reading in your hotel room and catching up on sleep.

FiveShelties · 15/05/2023 23:48

Another 'Post and run' thread - what a surprise.🤔

Vgbeat · 16/05/2023 00:39

As Billy Connelly said no such thing as bad weather only bad clothes. Go drinking, sit in a cafe and read, wander and explore

erakakitzi · 16/05/2023 03:09

Hi there, I am from Greece. Sorry to say but May is not always 100% sunbathing weather. Not sure where exactly you are in the country but if you want pm to give some recommendations. I would have been the same as you if the weather was shit but let’s be honest there is nothing you can do. Sorry relax and enjoy!

OddSockSeeker · 16/05/2023 03:22

Greece is so beautiful especially at this time of year. 🌺This will probably be the only time you go to that area so go out and explore. Ask for local walk ideas. There are so many incredible walks. The endorphins will do you good. Your treasure is in front of you and you can’t see it. Poor partner sounds really sad. You have the power to change the whole holiday and make a happy memory instead of a miserable one. Long walks, gorgeous dins and some lovely evenings having fun together. You can change this around! C’mon! Be responsible for the energy you’re bringing to the relationship. ✨

MysteryBelle · 16/05/2023 03:23

You’re in Greece and you’ve nothing to do because it’s not hot? Are you serious? I would love a holiday there to explore everything and it has nothing to do with lying on a hot beach which you can do lots of other places.

You do know there’s a few interesting things in Greece, I mean come on. And you’ve never been. There is an embarrassment of riches to discover.

I agree with you on taking a break from the phone scrolling. So I’m with you on that and I agree with your husband on making the most of your holiday, easily done in my opinion!

FakeyMcFakeFace · 16/05/2023 03:24

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serendipitea · 16/05/2023 03:59

Any one of several online retailers can quickly deliver jeans and jumpers to any address in Greece, I am sure...

user1492757084 · 16/05/2023 04:11

Stop looking at the negatives.
That is ruining the holiday.

Swimming in the sea is fine if it's cold - the sea doesn't change temperature that much.
Plan to go on walks - be more adventurous.
Eat out at a different place each meal.
Get to know the locals and the customs and research places to visit.
Go to the churches, the gardens etc.
Try to see more but dress for the weather.

Helpmeimtired · 16/05/2023 04:36

I presume you used your phone to post this thread…but he can’t use his.