Am I ruining the holiday?

[jasmine92]

DP has not said as much but I just feel bad.

We spent a lot of money on a much needed holiday as we’ve been super stressed - we booked a really remote, hot location with the plan being nothing but sunbathing.
We’ve got here and it’s freezing cold, and it’s expected to be until we leave. I feel gutted because a) we spent a lot of money, b) there’s literally nothing else to do and c) he suggested other locations that I said no to because I have been before, and I should’ve gone for them as they’re really hot right now.

I keep mentioning the weather, DP keeps telling me to “make the most of it”, “it’s done now”, “it’s out of our control” etc but I just hate being cold and there’s literally nothing else to do. He told me off for looking at the weather and told me not to look again. But I just am so annoyed. Also gutted as I packed only dresses.

Also, I really wanted a holiday for us to just get away from everything as we’ve been so stressed. I said let’s just put our phones down for the week, and let’s not talk about anything going on at home that’s stressful, and let’s talk about different stuff, but he keeps scrolling each time I even walk 2 metres away. He said I put too much pressure on the holiday by saying this.
I then got upset during breakfast as he wasn’t really saying much and he said he felt pressured to make conversation. He also said he’d had 3 hours sleep and I wasn’t being understanding.

I just feel like a misery guts but I can’t help but be upset, and I don’t feel like he’s understanding. Am I unreasonable?

Well, it's not the height of the tourist season, so some activities may not be available. But you can still go shopping (I would, for a pair of trousers and a long sleeve top), browse the Greek supermarkets, go to museums or sights of special interest like castles, fortresses, etc, go for walks (more pleasant in lower temperatures anyway), watch TV in your apartment, read your books in your apartment, take your books and a sunny disposition to a local taverna/cafe for a relaxed long lunch? Or look for any organised trips (boat trips to islands/around the coast are a good bet, you can sit inside if it's too cold out), maybe look for a gym, bar with pool tables, an arcade?

Obviously these are all more active than sitting in the sun by a pool, but it's better to make the most of what you do have than hankering after what you can't have.

Greece is my most favourite place in the world, so I'd happily swap places with you now, even if it's not as hot as we'd like (I got married in Greece at the end of May, it was absolutely scorching in a rare heatwave - 40 during the day, over 30 at night - just bliss)

@FrenchandSaunders I'd much rather be in Greece in the wind and rain to be honest 😂

I would too, if I had my hiking jacket and boots. But the original poster isn't coping, for whatever reason. Maybe the relationship is a bit rocky. And people are sold holidays.

I feel for her and think it's not unreasonable to have a bad case of buyer's remorse. Does it always help to suck it up and keep a stiff upper lip? Sometimes it's better to cut your losses - after a good cry.

Yeah sorry but you need to just make the best of it. Go for walks, still read your books, eat lovely food, have lots of sex/cuddles/whatever

I hate the cold too but its is not going to be scorching at this time of the year. That is something you misunderstood... I have learnt that when I am warm as opposed to just wrapping my thin cardigan around my thin t-shirt just go out and buy a couple of hoodies. Put on some socks and proper closed toe shoes (unless you havent brought anything like this!).

You can look a weather forecasts on the BBC 14 days in advance which is very useful to look at just before you go.

Yes, you are to blame and yes, you are spoiling it for both of you....

Put on your warmest clothes or buy a warm sweatshirt, pack a picnic and get out walking, there must be places to explore nearby. Just getting out in the fresh air, and appreciating what you have, will do you the world of good.
Sitting in a hotel room moaning means yes, you will have a rubbish holiday, book a couple of local trips and definitely change your mindset.
You can make your holiday a success but no one else will do it for you.

Greece is a windy place.
You knew that right?

@Muddygreenfingers

is that a rhetorical question?

obviously she didn’t know

I love the heat and a lazy beach holiday too.

But if you want a hot beach holiday. Then you don't book Greece in May.

It's still spring. Typical temperature is early to low 20s.

ITs not hot in Greece in May.

Op has a bad case of having made a mistake. She booked the wrong holiday.

So she has two choices. To be miserable all week. Or go and buy a jumper or two and try and make the best of it

It’s windy as fuck.

It's blindingly obvious that op didn't do even the most basic research into.the destination.

But she can't change it now and thus has to either suck it up or be miserable

Sorry, but no way anyone books Greece or anywhere in Europe in May and expects "scorching" weather. I always go away in May, usually on a city break, and the weather is always hit or miss. Couple of naff days and a couple of sunny days. You pack and plan accordingly. Stop moaning and go out and do stuff. No way are you so remote in Greece. Hire a car and crack on.

Get on a sodding bus somewhere!

Having visited a load of the Greek Islands and have some family over there I agree that early/mid May is unlikely to be scorching or even particularly hot, but that's neither here nor there now. I love a boat trip so I'd do that (trip to Ithaca from Kephalonia is a brilliant one, on the offchance you're in Keph!) and enjoy a mooch around the markets of another islands/try the food etc. There will be somewhere you can buy some warmer clothes. Sometimes larger hotels will give you day access to their spa/indoor pool facilities for a fee, or you can seek out beauty salons or masseurs in the local area. You're not a work or stuck at home so try to enjoy the change x

Hang on - 'There's nothing else to do'?
In Greece? The cradle of Western civilization, the birthplace of democracy; philosophy, and literature, political science, mathematical principles and the Olympic Games? That Greece?

Yes you are. Go and buy some warmer clothes and go for a walk, wander round town, get some lunch… yes it’s annoying the weather is rubbish but you can’t change that so make the best of it… or sit and mope about, have a shit time and annoy your DH. Come on OP, you can do it!

Weather in the 20s is perfect as you can do anything. It's not too hot to do more active things and it's not too cold to sit and read a book in the sunshine. The light you get in the Mediterranean in the early evening as the sun starts to dip is just wonderful- and there will be loads of that at this time of year. God that endless blueness in Greece. For a lot of the year though it's so hot you can barely move.

I got a tan in the north east of England this weekend just from sitting outside a pub in a t-shirt and jeans. It must surely be warm enough in Greece to do that!

Buy a sweater and sit outside in the wonderful fresh air reading your books and even playing on your phones.

YABVU. You chose the holiday and he can’t control the weather. Why cant he scroll through his phone - how much attention do you need.

you sound like a control freak.

I kind of get what OP means, I love hot, sunny holidays.

But I'm afraid they have gone into this holiday woefully unprepared.

Paying a lot of money for a holiday in Greece in May and expecting hot weather was a tall order.

Best to pay extra and go in July.

You seem to really struggle with change and are making things miserable for your partner. The mobile phone rule is mad?!

Ask the hotel staff to switch the heating on for your room so you're at least more comfortable there.

If you and DH like a drink, get yourselves some nice wine and snacks etc.

Take this holiday as an opportunity to lock yourselves away and have great sex, watch films together, do whatever you want just the two of you! You don't have to be sunbathing to have fun

Geography. On the holiday threads there are always people planning holidays in the med in the last week of October half term and there is always someone who comes along and swears it will be scorching.
I have absolutely been freezing on a beach in the Algarve in July, rained on in Greece in September and had a whole week of rain and cloud in Majorca in early October.

I've had amazing weather in Europe at the end of October.

BUT we booked the time off and then didn't book our flights until a few days before when we could see the weather forecast.

Depending on where you are staying there may be Tours that will pick you up for no extra cost

Sounds like you're not being very enjoyable to be around. Its his holiday too, and you're moaning about going to a place you picked in the first place?