To be upset about my sister being given a house by my parents

[mammamia77]

My parents own two houses (one they live in and the other they rent out). The mortgage on the house they rent out is coming to an end and my parents have been deciding if they want to keep their current tenants or sell up. That was until today when my dad mentioned 'gifting' the house to my sister (aged 20) as another option. Obviously I know that the house belongs to my parents and they are free to do whatever they want with it, but I couldn't help feeling upset about this.

I'm 27 and bought my property aged 25 through hard work and years of saving, so I feel that it is unfair that I had to work so hard to buy my house and my sister just gets gifted with one. My sister could sense I was a bit annoyed over the situation and said something along the lines of 'I don't know what your problem is, you already have your own house'

So, AIBU unreasonable for feeling a bit pissed off that my sister may be given a house basically for free when I had to work so hard for mine?

I'm going to make some allowances for your sister as she is very young and perhaps lacking in wisdom but it is very poor form that she would go along with this. My father recently came in to some money and he is very generously offering to pay off my (small) mortgage. The very first think I said after 'thank you' was would my sister (much better off than me) be getting the same amount because if not, I'd be giving her half of what I got. I will never let money come between us or allow my parents to act in a way that is as grossly unfair as your situation, my sister feels the same.

Not unreasonable at all. My mother was always giving stuff to my older and very demanding sister whilst giving me nothing mainly because I wasnt demanding and was very independent. It never really bothered me until after my mother died and my older siblings helped themselves to all my parents' stuff - as usual I walked away with almost nothing.

My thoughts exactly. What goes around...

Zombie

Two years ago my parents bought my brother a house worth £550k but it was put in their names and he lives in it rent free.
My parents told us that when they die this property would transfer to him before the estate is divided and then us daughters would be compensated.
Their home is worth £1.5 million they live in the tax free Channel Islands so there will be not inheritance tax.
We have since learnt that the will does not compensate.
my father has dementia so can not comment but mother has offered to pay off my mortgage and sisters which all happen to be £150k. We are all a lot older than our brother, worked hard, had health and marital breakdowns and feel it’s unfair that the will is not going to adjust for the difference of £400k, but my mum is adamant that the estate will be split 4 ways and after the transfer of the smaller house to my brother.
My sisters and I think there is nothing we can do about this but we are very hurt, if it’s not for us we have 8 children between us that would eventually benefit from the money.
Has anyone else experienced such a situation and has any advise?

Zombie thread.

YANBU you'll have a mortgage for years becuase you worked hard. She won't becuase she hasn't bothered to save and is complaining about living at home. It's like she's being rewarded and you're being punished.

They could just let her live there rent free till she's 25 so she can save. She'd still be getting a better deal than you becuase she'd have a whole house instead of a bedroom but financially it'd be equal.