My parents own two houses (one they live in and the other they rent out). The mortgage on the house they rent out is coming to an end and my parents have been deciding if they want to keep their current tenants or sell up. That was until today when my dad mentioned 'gifting' the house to my sister (aged 20) as another option. Obviously I know that the house belongs to my parents and they are free to do whatever they want with it, but I couldn't help feeling upset about this.
I'm 27 and bought my property aged 25 through hard work and years of saving, so I feel that it is unfair that I had to work so hard to buy my house and my sister just gets gifted with one. My sister could sense I was a bit annoyed over the situation and said something along the lines of 'I don't know what your problem is, you already have your own house'
So, AIBU unreasonable for feeling a bit pissed off that my sister may be given a house basically for free when I had to work so hard for mine?
AIBU?
To be upset about my sister being given a house by my parents
mammamia77 · 13/05/2023 20:44
Isinglass20 · 15/05/2023 22:56
So the deal is your sister becomes full time carer to your parents when the time arrives 😊😊
Boomshock · 16/05/2023 14:58
All these people saying "you own a house"....🤔Have you never heard of mortgages?
JazbayGrapes · 16/05/2023 09:22
I'd say YABU. You own your house. A house as a gift from parents comes with strings attached. My own parents helped Dsis to build a house. But then they're quite controlling and I moved to another country.
Isinglass20 · 15/05/2023 22:56
So the deal is your sister becomes full time carer to your parents when the time arrives 😊😊
caringcarer · 15/05/2023 19:05
OP we are at the moment selling a house to my youngest son for £50k undervalue and we got a low valuation from EA too as we took out old kitchen and took up old laminate for valuation for mortgage company and house having new laminate and kitchen before he buys it so he's probably getting closer to £65k in value. I've told my older two children who already have a house that you get will be inheriting less when we die. We have other properties in a Ltd company they can inherit from. Our reasons for doing this is our youngest has saved hard to save up £10k on his own in a LISA. Other DC got a £10k deposit help when they bought their homes. I spoke to older DC before I made you get the offer. He is single and house prices have risen so buying at full price would mean he could not buy his own home. My other children said they are ok with it. Do you think your parents would even it up in their will? You could ask if they are just letting your sister live there whilst she saves a deposit or gifting it to her outright as you still presumably have a mortgage. It always causes issues when parents treat DC differently and don't keep things fair.
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Whiteroomjoy · 15/05/2023 19:48
Some poster saying they would do this if one child was better off, had better career, better prospects.
here’s the warning…
even the most comfortably off, in secure jobs, with roofs over theirs heads can end up loosing almost everything . You simply don’t know what’s round the corner. My ex worked in professional roles until he was in his forties, and then developed sever and enduring mental illness - he didn’t work ever again beyond 43 . It was only my job that kept us with roof over our heads, and we were in debt a lot of the time. We then did come out of that bleak period, as I got promotions and better pay, but it shows how close being destitute is to most people who, on the face of it, have secure jobs , good salaries
There are people who end up living hand to mouth due to physical illnesses and disabilities that develop later in life
redunancy can take a heavy toll
and in the meantime the “poorer” sibling with the “inheritance” can use that money to make more money and end far better off, never mind that they could (extreme I know) win the lottery or premium bonds for all you know
the situation people are in right now, is not a given for how they will be in the future. The world changes. Peoples lives change. Not always for the better .
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