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Would DH be unreasonable to wear a short suit to a wedding?

253 replies

toastofthetown · 13/05/2023 17:42

We have a few weddings coming up this July and August. Given the very hot weather last year and that DH runs warm, he’s considering wearing a short suit if the weather is hot. We’re young, and the weddings we’ve been invited to are relaxed and casual, rather than a traditional occasion. We’re not part of the wedding party, and as DH is tall he tends to be at the back of photos. Here are some examples for styles he’s looking at. I know some of these are styled casually, but DH will be in a shirt and smart shoes. I know it’s bit left field but would be interested to see what the view is as DH is considered about sweltering in a traditional suit but also doesn’t want to go totally rogue.

Would DH be unreasonable to wear a short suit to a wedding?
Would DH be unreasonable to wear a short suit to a wedding?
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Lovemebetter · 13/05/2023 19:27

Bad, even on the model.

SpringIntoChaos · 13/05/2023 19:30

Is the wedding in Bermuda? If yes...crack on. If it's in Brum...hard no 🤣🤣

LinMortisanass · 13/05/2023 19:35

If he wants to be forever known as "that dick who wore shorts to a wedding", then yes, tell him to wear them.

Chickenkeev · 13/05/2023 19:38

Seriously, wtf is with all the judgement? We've all seen women in the depths of winter in less than warm dresses. They wear them to look good, certainly not for functionality. Let the fellas freeze their bollix off too if they so wish!

EsmeSusanOgg · 13/05/2023 19:39

SophieJo · 13/05/2023 17:44

Only for beach weddings.

Or if cleared by the bride and groom.

Sissynova · 13/05/2023 19:40

LinMortisanass · 13/05/2023 19:35

If he wants to be forever known as "that dick who wore shorts to a wedding", then yes, tell him to wear them.

Nope, sounds like you’re just nastier than anyone I know!

pigsDOfly · 13/05/2023 19:42

Good grief no.

Not really getting his logic tbh.

Apart from the fact that they look ridiculous, what is the point in having bare legs if he's then going to stick a suit jacket over his shirt - I'm assuming he's planning on wearing a shirt - when the whole point is attempting to keep cool.

Also trying to imagine what sort of 'smart' shoes would look good with something like that; bare legs and smart shoes don't really tie up.

A pair of light linen trousers and a well cut shirt would look elegant and be just as cool.

HarrietJet · 13/05/2023 19:42

Chickenkeev · 13/05/2023 19:38

Seriously, wtf is with all the judgement? We've all seen women in the depths of winter in less than warm dresses. They wear them to look good, certainly not for functionality. Let the fellas freeze their bollix off too if they so wish!

Sure, looking good is why people dress up for weddings, but that suit only looks good if you're going on safari.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 13/05/2023 19:43

No

BadBarry · 13/05/2023 19:43

I would ask the bridge and groom but if you don't check in with them I'd go safe and wear full length trousers.

FloweryGardener · 13/05/2023 19:44

🤣

HungryandIknowit · 13/05/2023 19:45

Not a chance. Linen would be better.

InBeautifulKindWays · 13/05/2023 19:46

Sissynova · 13/05/2023 19:18

Some people just like to be outlandish with their opinion and act like their opinion holds any value. The reality is a lot of these comments are not generally in the circle of friends wedding at cool casual venue, and more like are attending as an aunt or neighbour so OP should take them with a pinch of salt.
Their advice for op would probably be some awful a line dress with a bolero or cardigan.

And then some are just downright nasty ‘people will laugh for years’.

Most normal human beings will not laugh at another adult for their personal style. Only a total dickhead would in fact, and it says more about the person making the comment than anyone else.

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I agree. I think most people commenting are probably older/a bit old fashioned/don’t try new trends and very judgemental and unkind. Who wants advice from those sorts?

Chickenkeev · 13/05/2023 19:46

HarrietJet · 13/05/2023 19:42

Sure, looking good is why people dress up for weddings, but that suit only looks good if you're going on safari.

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That's totally subjective though. Personally i think it's grand. Different alright but grand. I wandered about in runners on my wedding day. Comfort is king imo!

FurElise · 13/05/2023 19:52

God no. And then double no. And no again. Just in case it's not clear - NO.

Tempone · 13/05/2023 20:06

So many comments about Wright etc, yuck yuck. Is body positivity only for women?

Chickenkeev · 13/05/2023 20:07

FurElise · 13/05/2023 19:52

God no. And then double no. And no again. Just in case it's not clear - NO.

Why exactly?

Frabbits · 13/05/2023 20:08

They look fucking stupid. So no.

Paddingtonsmarmlade · 13/05/2023 20:11

Unless he is under 6 no.

SleepingStandingUp · 13/05/2023 20:11

Iknowthis1 · 13/05/2023 18:42

The looks is so unusual that it might actually take attention away from the bride.

Yes, the whole time she's walking down the aisle, people will be canning for a view of his legs. During the cutting of the cake, the first dance, people will just be agog at male legs.

🙄

AprilDrizzle · 13/05/2023 20:14

No

Lightweight suit, short sleeve shirt under jacket

Maybe linen shorts and polo shirt for evening

SleepingStandingUp · 13/05/2023 20:15

LinMortisanass · 13/05/2023 19:35

If he wants to be forever known as "that dick who wore shorts to a wedding", then yes, tell him to wear them.

Says more about you than OPs DP

Soothingaftersun · 13/05/2023 20:16

To the posters saying some comments are unkind. Reading between the lines OP is not 100% confident about DH's short suit idea, hence she's asked Mumsnet if he will look like a dickhead. And the overwhelming majority have helpfully said Yes.

Thatbloomindog · 13/05/2023 20:17

OP if it helps I think it’s fine. I married a couple of years ago. Had a barn wedding. Not religious. Expected people to make the effort dressing up for the occasion though etc. I would have been completely happy for anyone wearing this. Much better than some of the awful badly fitting cheap shiny suits some people wear on these occasions. Which are ‘proper attire’.
As long as he is clean and the clothes are clean and pressed and it’s obvious he’s made an effort I think it’s completely fine.
For reference we are 45 🤷🏼‍♀️

Tempone · 13/05/2023 20:18

To the posters saying some comments are unkind. Reading between the lines OP is not 100% confident about DH's short suit idea, hence she's asked Mumsnet if he will look like a dickhead. And the overwhelming majority have helpfully said Yes.

You cab express yourself clearly without being unkind.e.g. "I don't like it personally and prefer linen trosers'.

No need to comment on weight, attention seeking, piss taking skinny legs etc.

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