Told to leave a group.

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I got into trouble at a meeting of people with a common interest. In the beginning, I explained that I had ADHD and asked that if I said anything inappropriate, please tell me, and I'll apologise and stop.
Guess what happened?. I did say something, and instead of telling me to stop, someone challenged my statement, and it went downhill after that.
A lady sitting next to me said that she also had ADHD, but that I should have recognised a line that I should not have crossed.
I told her that I didn't have that ability, I only knew if I got it wrong by the reaction it produced, good or bad.
She told me that wasn't true. She was also prone to inappropriate speech and behaviour but knew what boundaries she shouldn't cross.
Anyway, I was banned from the group, which was hurtful but not unusual. ADHD has cost me friends, jobs, and strained family relationships all my life.

She doesn't need a black parent to be African

Mentioning pronouns and gender in the same sentence again implies that it's a choice or a fad. It belittles trans people.

They kicked her out for being racist, not transphobic

There are millions of non black Africans. Like Egyptians, Algerians, Moroccans, many other countries. Or should they not describe themselves as African either? And the OP says she is mixed race, not white.

No but the form she was discussing with her group was about ethnicity and you do need to be black or have a black parent to legitimately identify as ethnically black African. That's why OP's ambiguity about her racial heritage is incredibly frustrating - I would guess she's mixed race but does not have a black parent since she keeps on mentioning having a tan and not identifying as black.

@LateAF ah sorry, I understand. So, on that basis, she'd be a white African?

There is an island called Ireland, consisting of 32 counties.

There is a country called Ireland (the Republic of Ireland) made up of 26 counties.

The remaining 6 counties constitute Northern Ireland.

There is no "Southern Ireland"

No, she’d be mixed race or white.

I honestly don’t do my head in trying to fill these forms in as often ethnicity doesn’t fall into neat little boxes. I go with white other and have done with it.

Id choose whatever is the nearest match and not give it any more headspace.

Id definitely not expect to be confronted over what I’d selected though. You can be fair skinned and light haired and be mixed race like Harry and Meghans two kids. Their complexion doesn’t make them any less mixed. I’m no fan of the Sussexes but absolutely no one has the right to challenge Meghan about her race, how dark her skin is, how she chooses to wear her hair etc. There’s a lot of racism in this country. Some very subtle some overt. No one has the right to tell you what your heritage is .

Thank you. I'll try that.

I get you op I’m also mixed race I’m as much the non white part of me as the white part but people can get real weird about mixed race people because they like a nice neat box, we don’t really have a box always.Barrack Obama is mixed and is described as the first black president of the USA. His Mother is white also Meghan Markle is mixed and very much volts forward her non white side.

People cannot choose their sexuality.

That notion leads to conversion therapy. And that's abhorrent.

Thank you, I had no idea. 😊

Is it South Africa you come from OP? Some people are very ready to assume racism will be forthcoming when they hear that accent and it may have meant they felt slightly prejudiced against you already if you're also light skinned. If they believed they were listening to a white person with a SA accent claiming to be African because they were born there it will have triggered a strong knee-jerk reaction.
That's not okay, but people do make these snap judgements. If you do want a way to mention your race and nationality in future, maybe saying 'As I'm half Kenyan and Zimbabwean and was born in Africa, I am African.' I'm not saying you should explain, but that would be one way to do so if you wanted to.

They didn't say stop. They said, "That's rascist," and more or less ganged up on me.

What did you say, specifically? What was the sentence or comment that they said was racist?

Basically, I was born in Africa and described myself as African on an ethnicity form at work. I shared this in the group and was called a racist, and banned from the group.

I thought it was

" a meeting of people with a common interest."

described myself as African on an ethnicity form at work.

Is your ethnicity African?

I'm sorry, I worded it badly.

It was a book club.

How is a book club work?

I was trying to answer people, but the thread ran away, so I told people to look at my OP to find their answer. It's tedious repeating myself.

Basically, I was born in Africa and described myself as African on an ethnicity form at work. I shared this in the group and was called a racist, and banned from the group.

But what was the actual wording and how did the topic come up?

They had a new book to read each month, then come together to discuss our takeaway on it.

I’m really confused. What does natural tan mean? Surely everyone has a natural tan?