Thrown under the bus at work

[Ceci03]

So am I being over sensitive. I'll try to make it short. Started new job end Jan. It's been hard learning new software and processes mostly left to my own devices. Little to zero training. Expected to pick things up from others on the team when they are v busy.

Anyway am on leave today but forgot to turn off my teams notifications. A colleague put up a very long message basically explaining to everyone (everyone is on this chat even people not in our team and all the managers) that I made a mistake. She adds a screenshot where I said I would do something but forgot . She explains how she is sorting it out. Which would take her a couple of minutes. It would
Have taken her longer to write out the essay/message on teams than fix it for today and message me privately so I can finish sorting it or talk to me on Tuesday.
I'm so upset. And obviously morto . I made a mistake and I'm sorry of course and I want to fix it. It's not a major thing it's easily sorted I'll just do it first thing on Tues and apologize.
Nobody has commented or replied to her message which makes me wonder are they a bit wtf has she written all
That out on teams. I'm hoping the rest of the team know me enough to know I try v hard and want to do a good job.
I thought this person was a friend. I would never do that. Put it so public and screenshot it .
Aibu

You can't trust her at all going forward and if I was her manager I would have told her to delete it from the group chat. Did everyone need to know you hadn't done the thing? As in was she trying to stop unnecessary work for others (while going about it the wrong way)?

I would keep my distance from her.

Also, get those notifications knocked off!

Not being over sensitive, thats so unprofessional. I wouldn't like to work somewhere with a blame and shame culture like that.

I don’t think you made a mistake really. It was an oversight. Minor. She’s made herself look unbelievably petty.

“Hi colleague, sorry, my bad, it slipped my mind. But it will take you 3 minutes to do xyz if you know what you’re doing. It’s very straightforward. Do you need help?”

Yeah that's shit
If it happens at my work we screenshot it, ping it over to the person directly and say "hey, spotted this, I've fixed it for you, just so you know for next time"

Just message on Teams “Thank you for bringing this to everyone’s attention I will address as appropriate in person”

No nobody needed to know.

Would you just ignore it and move on.

I'm tempted to tell one of the managers I was upset. But is that being a "drama queen"

Definitely shitty of her for making a bit deal out of something that sounds like it could be easily fixed.

@kyse that's exactly what I would do and have done. Or I would have just said it to them on Tues morn just said look don't worry but blah blah blah.

I would move past this one. She had made a fool of herself for doing this and people will see that she can’t quite be trusted. Managers have a long memory for little things like this.

Thanks am so uncertain if I'm over reacting or over sensitive . Am trying really hard to get things right. It's been hard tbh

Is this the first time you've forgotten something that you're aware of? I wonder if she has been picking up slack (possibly yours, probably from several others) and not communicated this to anyone and has had enough. However putting it in a message to everyone is really off, and that's why no one has replied.

I wouldn't go to manager- she's made herself look petty and ridiculous all on her own, and manager will have seen this.

She’s being unprofessional. Ignore it.

Second this

Do dignified silence

I'd message back on teams and say "hi xxx, thank you for notifying me of the mistake. I'm on leave today but am happy to rectify when I return on Tuesday. In future could I ask that errors are brought to my/my line manager's attention as a first port of call, rather than in an open audience, so I have the opportunity to rectify the error. Thank you, and I'm happy to discuss further on Tuesday"

That way you're showing a professional attitude but also highlighting how unprofessional she is.

I'd just ignore if I were you. Keep your distance from the colleague though, she's not your friend. She just made herself look extremely petty.

YANBU.

But in all honesty, she's the one that looks petty. If someone did that in my workplace, they'd be shot down and we'd all think they were a twat.

Do you trust your manager to deal with her?

I don't think she's had to do something I've missed before. She's never said anything. She's been away for nearly 4 weeks so I haven't seen that much of her Tbf

Ignore. She's made herself look like a nasty petty minded arsehole.

How long has she been working there btw?

I'm always wary of people who've worked somewhere a while and jump on new starters to be "friends" with right away. It usually means that everyone else already knows they're a nasty piece of work and avoids them!!!

Not to say you shouldn't be friendly with colleagues, but definitely let time be on your side and take it slowly

I've had people at work like this. It's good to know what she's like now. Never trust her again and never help her. She maybe has form for this or she will be found out.

She's just put up another message about the same thing. She's copied the whole thing and written an update explaining how she sorted it. Nobody has replied or commented. Gonna turn off my notifications now it's spoilt my day off.

I've seen a lot of this go on, and don't have quite the rosy view that everyone else does about the situation.

In my case, I'd spotted some procedural errors in a few places, spoken to the team's line manager about them in a just FYI kind of way, and she acted in much the same way as your colleague. Same line manager called me up to blast me for talking to other colleagues about things I was unfamiliar with as a new starter (a very innocent question about service delivery in this person's project). This woman was basically very insecure about her position, but also did nothing to make herself look better in her reactions.

Informed my line manager, and she basically wimped out of dealing with it, and told me that I should be going through that person only for such matters. There was a culture of secrecy and cowardice about handling things like this that made my job impossible.

Just a word of caution that yes, as other people say, this shouldn't be an issue for you - but I would see it as a red flag if they don't deal with issues like this proactively.

reply and dsy

thanks for bringing this to my (and everyone elses) attention. It's great that you have managed to sort out what seems to be a minor error so quickly. Well done.

and then this bit as per PP

In future could I ask that unless business critical, errors are brought to my/my line manager's attention as a first port of call, rather than in an open audience, so I have the opportunity to rectify the error. Thank you, and I'm happy to discuss further on Tuesday"

She only started in Nov herself so hasn't been there very long. Am sure she must have made some errors along the way... yeh definitely keeping my distance . She kept
Touching me yesterday too. I thought she was friendly but if she does it again it will be hard not to say geroff me !!

She has made herself look a dick and I suspect everyone on the chat thought the same (that's if they've even bothered to read it; I know my boss wouldn't have been even remotely interested).

Keep future dealings with her professional and as minimal as possible. There's always one like her in the office! Try not to worry OP.