To wish DH could recognise when he’s boring people???!!

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Had lunch with new friends this weekend. They asked him what he does for a living - let’s say he works in IT.

If it had been me, I’d have said something short and sweet like “I work in IT, I’m the person people call when they need a hand with their computer” for example. Before he answered, I even half jokingly said “Try to keep your answer under 2 minutes” as I know what he’s like. His answer was more like “My company was formed back in 1992, I joined in 2005 and now run a team of 12, we work with a system called xx blah blah blah…”

He went on and on about details that you wouldn’t understand unless you worked in his industry. Our friends were shifting around in their seats, clearly (to me) bored by the detail he was going into. I felt embarrassed and kept trying to interject to stop him talking but he couldn’t take a hint. He did this when talking about other subjects.

Why the hell can’t he judge what is and isn’t a reasonable amount of detail and recognise when people are bored?!! It makes me so uncomfortable!!!

That's me tipping my hat because there are no cake or flower emoticons

This thread inspired me to ask a friend for a change of topic today…one of their favourite topics that bores me silly!! We had already had about 10 minutes of it and my eyes actually glazed over and it just popped out of my mouth - I think that’s a positive step 👍

I'm like this. I realised after the 40th retelling of whatever interesting job I do (spoiler I dont) that I was as fed up as them. So now I just ask questions, about them, about their last holiday, next holiday, pets, Christmas, Easter bank holidays, whatever's most recent, current questions revolve around the new king, and whether their street is having a party, this will continue for the next month as in did your street throw a coronation party. If they ask me a question I answer fairly plainly, like no my street isnt throwing a coronation party, but the next street down is and I might stroll past on the day, see how it's going, and then I ask them another question.

They feel like I give a crap, I dont monologue, and later I dont rethink every word and cringe cos I sounded stupid.

As a bloke, having to deal with other husbands and partners who are boring and literally can’t see it is the worst. Can’t stand men who can only talk about work, and if its a boring job its even worse and thats what most other men will think. The other blokes will now know him as ‘that boring one’ and ask if he is going to be at any social event - if the answers is yes they will roll their eyes and say brilliant.

Why did you marry him, I often wonder when faced by a similar situation. Unless you are a firefighter, soldier, copper, gangster, surgeon, cowboy, astronaut - nobody cares about what you do.

You must like him so roll with it, my advice - tell him so he can own it, he can be yeah i’m a boring fucker but i bloody love computers - then he would be a legend.

So many excellent posts by @DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder

So, how many men over 45 are there that are NOT self absorbed when socialising? I don't know a single one

This, however, just shows that the poster needs to widen her social circle.
What a ridiculous generalisation. I meet lots of people through various hobbies / volunteering and don't come across people like this very often at all.

Well what do you expect. Remember those slaps at the pool? Shoving poor Sally in the practice room? She was never cut out to be head girl of the upper 4th and my fan theory is she murdered the author at the end of 4th year and write 5th and last term herself. (Might have missed the point but I am very tired)

you could try the thing when you poke them in the forehead and say "skip intro"

Thank you, @UsingChangeofName .

And yes, Darrell was an arsehole, hence the username. It's a shame we don't have Asbos any more because I think DarrellRiversAsbo sounds funnier.

Felicity Rivers was much worse.

Was she? She didn't keep on lamping people, to my recollection. She was just a wet lettuce who kept defending her delinquent sister.

After they finished school, Darrell joined a street fighting gang and Felicity just gave her alibis.

Is it an age thing with men. Dh dad is notorious for this & it's got worse & worse as years gone on. He doesn't listen any more & brings every. Single. Conversation round to his hobby or anecdotes re his circle of friends we don't even know . I literally glaze over. Now have noticed DH going same way 😭 can waffle on & on & on til I give him a nudge! Even the kids tell him stop rambling at times. He was not like this when we young & he still mostly great company 😁

Maybe some things you do embarrass him.

That's a good idea, Record him silently then have it out at home !

One morning as a student I passed by the room of a friend and stopped in the doorway to say hello. She talked at me for so long that morning turned into afternoon and I was still standing in that doorway.

I was young, unassertive and had no idea how to handle it. Eventually I burst into tears through sheer exhaustion. She stopped mid-flow, looked very concerned, said that I must be having a nervous breakdown and sent me home to rest. 😂

I am living proof that you can literally be bored to tears.

Yes she was. Darrell acted “on impulse”.
Felicity was far more knowing. Very sanctimonious of course, butter wouldn’t melt.

That’s to DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder
of course!

I don't know, at least you could walk away from her without fear of getting beaten up. Darrell was a sanctimonious prick as well and she had several instances of common assault under her orange belt. Fuck you, Darrell. Your hair's shit too.

A lot of people are self obsessed and see social occasions as an opportunity to impress other people or tell them all their woes rather than find out about other people. Many people don't realise that monologues just make people switch off and in a group most people want to say something. Men are worse than women at this. I remember at university being bored at the conversation many groups of blokes had when they didn't listen to each other they just took it in turns to tell anecdotes and jokes and try and top each other all the time

Where do you socialise, a morgue?

Bollox - he’s just a boring selfish twat! Why the fuck should she go and waste time finding out if he’s autistic - stop making excuses for accommodating this behavior, its enabling toxic masculinity. Infantalizing grown men who can’t be adults with a self diagnosis of non existent autism is as bad as excusing a child for hitting another child because they have a made up chalk allergy, or air intolerance.

I had a flatmate that did not shut up. She just did not seem to know how to end a sentence or a conversation. I moved out. Very strange. Can't imagine being married to one.

How about saying: ‘mate, seriously, nobody gives a fuck’.

I bet Bill and Clarissa run a gay riding school in Brighton these days. Miss Peters is a regular customer with her boyish haircut and love of wearing strides.

I bet Bill and Clarissa run a gay riding school in Brighton these days.

I hope so!

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"That's rather ironic.."

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Isn't it just.

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