To wish it was seen as the most beautiful thing ever to be super overweight

[weeducky]

Okay I know I am being because health but I am sat here really bloody hungry because I need to lose weight and I've had my morning 300 cals and it's just miserable. Heroin chic thin was in and I feel like if a BMI of 26/27/28 was seen as the pinnacle of beauty life would be lovely and I could eat what I wanted. Eating delicious food is such a source of joy and life would just be so much better if it was without guilt.

Don't worry, I know this isn't sensible realistically (even though we're potentially going that way) just dreaming because I really really want something delicious and filling for my lunch and I can't have it.

Because op is ignoring the impact of weight on health and focussing entirely on beauty standards?

But a bmi of 26 - 28 isn't super overweight? It's overweight not obese. If you are short like me a bmi of 28 is less than a stone overweight iirc. I had a 28 inch waist at that weight range (hourglass, weight on bum and thighs).

And yes there are some negative health outcomes but at that weight they are likely to be fairly minimal if you are active, eat well etc. That's not meant to minimise at all but I do believe at that weight it's a genuine balance between a number of healthy habits and looking at the picture in the round.

Obesity is different (and I speak as an obese person here) and that does need tackling for better health outcomes. But I'd rather be in that overweight range with healthy habits overall than striving for something I found impossible to maintain without feeling deprived.

Like where? I need to go there on holiday

I have lost a stone bit still along to go. I did the family pie and veg esterday, I had prawn stirfry. It was nice but thought how nice it would be to eat what you want and not gain weight.

I would remove this post if I was able. I stupidly thought when I replied the OP was actually obese.

I know what you mean. Keep up the efforts.

I see you say you want something 'delicious& filling' & cant have it.

For me, so times a bit if a compromise can be sonmething healthy & filling (so featuring protein & healthy fat) followed by a very small quantity of something delicious.

Good luck & keep going on the quest for health!

Oh FFS. Feel like a twat sharing my weight loss story now. Get a fkn grip OP.

Non related to op but weightloss food can still be delicious, healthy and filling all in once

Your being very hard on yourself Op, I think most of us gained some weight during lockdown when it was hard to go out and exercise. Some places being very overweight was seen as a good thing but it was more as a show of how rich your DH was, it showed he could afford to overfeed you.

I get you OP about the food I would love to be able to eat and eat loads of tasty food whenever I wanted. I would absolutely hate to fatter (I have been it was grim, so hard to move about, joint pain, slow at running, nothing fit nicely (all on my waist and upper arms)

I have a BMI of 25 and have to work to keep it there I obviously want to be in the healthy category. I do loads of sport and exercise but over eat.

BMI of 26 is not 'super overweight ' OP. It's fractionally above the normal range, potentially by a couple of pounds. The type of overweight that 25.5 is may well be 'fixed' by doing a big poo!
It sounds like it would do you the world of good to try to undo some of your messy thinking around weight and body image.
"I really really want something delicious and filling for my lunch and I can't have it."
You can have it, the only person stopping you from fuelling your hungry body correctly is you.

YABU to be using BMI so forensically. It may have some diagnostic uses but any HCP worth their salt knows that it is a statistical tool rather than an absolute measure of health. You're upset about beauty standards, which is a totally different thing. Read the below and listen to Maintenance Phase. Live your life. Eat.

elemental.medium.com/the-bizarre-and-racist-history-of-the-bmi-7d8dc2aa33bb

Yabu because a bmi of 26 to 28 is very very slightly overweight not super overweight by any means.
Also ask any man and they'd already pretty much agree, bmi of 18 to 20 is too thin. Kim kardashians bum would make her at least 23 24.

Don't be such a dick. You're barely overweight never mind "super overweight"

@Boomboom22

Why should women care what men think?

Or even worse what a kardashian thinks

🤢

OP. You’re fine.

I think this book would help you realise that/accept that.

https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B0BVD1MYCQ?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=library_overflow

They're still healthier than people carrying a bucketload of extra lard

They shouldn't but the op does? Bmi of 40 is super overweight and super unhealthy. Bmi of 25 to 30 is pretty normal and a bit overweight. Ie you wouldn't think of them as overweight just not slim.

If your BMI is 25.5 you’re just a big poo away from a healthy weight.

@HowardKirksConscience

That's completely irrelevant

Health isn't based on how unhealthy someone else

Your health is based on you

@Boomboom22

The op clearly has issues

I abswould think of someone with that bmi as slim

Disingenuous OP.

the fact that you consider a BMI of 26-28 to be ‘very overweight’ makes you either a shit stirrer or you have an eating disorder. I know which one my money’s on

BMI 25-6 is overweight, not slim 🤔