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Breeder has not giving us her address to view puppy

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Safarigiraffe · 29/04/2023 16:10

Hi we were looking for a spaniel breeder and found one not too far from us, price agreed with deposit agreed, breeder had chat on phone with us to find out about us & all was good. Arranged with breeder to visit puppy tomorrow at her house by phone however she said to us she would give us her address but up to now she hasn’t. So AIBU to think that she isn’t going to give us the chance to view the puppy considering we have deposit to pay her? Or are we missing something here that maybe she’s just been busy?

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LadyLump · 29/04/2023 18:43

In February you said you all work full time and wanted to surprise dh with a puppy, earlier this month you said you work 35 hours a week and now 2 weeks later you work 2 days a week and your dh is retired

BadNomad · 29/04/2023 18:46

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Nanny0gg · 29/04/2023 18:47

Safarigiraffe · 29/04/2023 17:04

I apologise I misunderstood what you meant
haven’t researched breeder

Well you should!!!

babyproblems · 29/04/2023 18:48

Don’t know If she’s a scammer but please please do some decent research with the kennel club etc before randomly buying a puppy from someone you’ve found online! X

Jellybebe · 29/04/2023 18:53

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FixItDuck · 29/04/2023 18:54

Just wanted to respond to the suggestion of googling her number- it's common for people to use a new number for each ad (using a free sim) to avoid being detected like this.

daisydaisy11 · 29/04/2023 18:59

So many homeless animals in shelters leading miserable lives and desperate for adoption. Why breed more ? Why not offer a space to a rescue dog?

ilovesooty · 29/04/2023 18:59

LadyLump · 29/04/2023 18:43

In February you said you all work full time and wanted to surprise dh with a puppy, earlier this month you said you work 35 hours a week and now 2 weeks later you work 2 days a week and your dh is retired

I don't think she said she works 2 days a week.

hothorses · 29/04/2023 19:01

daisydaisy11 · 29/04/2023 18:59

So many homeless animals in shelters leading miserable lives and desperate for adoption. Why breed more ? Why not offer a space to a rescue dog?

It's probably best she doesn't have a dog of any sort tbh

ChiChaNaYubi · 29/04/2023 19:10

Out of interest, what is the best way to go about getting a puppy?

HipHipCimorene · 29/04/2023 19:12

ChiChaNaYubi · 29/04/2023 19:10

Out of interest, what is the best way to go about getting a puppy?

Batteries Cat and Dogs Home
Rspca
The Dogs Trust
or
Ask the PDSA

LadyLump · 29/04/2023 19:23

@ilovesooty there was another one where it said 2 days a week and then this one says 10-2 term time

MzHz · 29/04/2023 19:28

Safarigiraffe · 29/04/2023 16:59

We have had dogs growing up & my husband knows about this breed through his work as he worked with them & trained them up

So you’ve done FUCK ALL research on the ‘breeder’

you know very little about them, the dogs etc etc and your replies lead me to think that you’re not going to look too deeply, you want a dog, the way you want it to look, and now.

pets4homes isn’t a good source for dogs. The behaviour of this person isn’t good either AND your instincts are pinging at you that this is not right.

Forget this woman, go onto champ dogs or kennel club breeders or even spaniel rescue but make sure you can view all the breeding documents, the pedigree information and check out the breeder properly.

PoseyFlump · 29/04/2023 19:29

Well after those updates the breeder has obviously felt uneasy after your phone chat and has ghosted you (possibly with good reason)

Terven · 29/04/2023 19:47

No reputable breeder would sell on Pet4Homes or Gumtree. Contact the puppy coordinator at the official breed club. Find out more about the breeder before you commit. Any serious breeder will welcome and expect questions. Be prepared to wait for your puppy from a good kennel.

MzHz · 29/04/2023 19:50

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<says nothing>

But I thought it

ireallycantthinkofaname · 29/04/2023 19:55

hothorses · 29/04/2023 19:01

It's probably best she doesn't have a dog of any sort tbh

I'm glad someone said what I was thinking. Mostly cos it makes me feel less awful for thinking it, but there it is.
OP sounds woefully ill-prepared and naive at best, willfully ignorant and deceitful at worst.

ireallycantthinkofaname · 29/04/2023 19:56

MzHz · 29/04/2023 19:50

<says nothing>

But I thought it

ditto.....

Lifeisgood1 · 29/04/2023 19:57

Pets 4 homes is notorious for puppy farms. Go through the kennel club

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 29/04/2023 19:59

Sounds like you have said something that means she no longer wants one of her puppies to live with you.

Which is fair enough.

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 29/04/2023 20:06

If someone text me "We was interested in ya puppies can we come tom?" I might definitely have a long think about whether to continue the conversation.

Whowhatwherewhenwhy1 · 29/04/2023 20:32

Puppy thefts especially targetted ones are rife so they will not give you the address until you are ready to come

Safarigiraffe · 29/04/2023 20:34

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 29/04/2023 20:06

If someone text me "We was interested in ya puppies can we come tom?" I might definitely have a long think about whether to continue the conversation.

We didn’t text her that, when we originally spoke on the phone she told us to come on Sunday at 4pm

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ireallycantthinkofaname · 29/04/2023 21:07

What have you actually told her about yourselves OP? I guess it's possible she's genuinely just busy if it was a phone call, we're assuming she knows as much about you and your household as MN but maybe not.

Jourdain11 · 29/04/2023 21:15

ireallycantthinkofaname · 29/04/2023 19:56

ditto.....

I'm saying nothing...