To go for a drink with friends dad

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Iv been friends with this friend for ever and her dad has always been there for me and has messaged me a few times over the years but it's just been jokey flirty stuff nothing much of anything and he messaged me this morning to go round for a few drinks tonight. I want to go but I don't know how my friend will react.
Yanbu. Do what you want its nobody's business
Yabu. You don't cross that line with a friends dad

Punters pay prostitutes OP, doesn’t mean they care about the woman they’re using. A Chinese is nothing for good sake.

When are you telling your ex friend?

He kicked you out because he 'has stuff to do today'. Sounds like the start of a beautiful romance. Not. Who hasn't heard that story before. He got what he wanted and you were out the door. This is grotesque.

By 9am…. You are ruining your friendship and your friends relationship with her father for a quick shag and he kicks you out by 9am.

Classy.

He shouldn’t be buying an alcoholic drinks. He’s evil.

please knock this on the head op
have some respect

Cheap shag innit
price of a Chinese takeaway
is that what you think you're worth op?

You're so deep in denial that it's actually scary. If you felt fabulous, you wouldn't need to come tell strangers how wrong they are because this grooming bastard bought you a takeaway.

I hope someone tells your ex friend so she sees who you and her father are.

Good point

If he cared about you he would be telling his daughter that but I guess he doesn’t want her to know. He would be taking you out not having a Chinese at home but he didn’t do that

You have rose tinted glasses on because you said yourself it’s better than sitting in alone. That is what is so sad that you think it’s better to be with anyone than be with yourself

You will get hurt. I just hope it’s not too badly

My children are fine if he really was this predator you all seem to think he is why would he pick children who's mum doesn't even have full custody and has ss constantly breathing down their neck

What @mainsfed said OP, read it!

But im drinking again anyway so what's it matter

Message him and say you think it's only fair that you tell his daughter now you've started a relationship. Tell him you want it out in the open as you feel bad about deceiving her. Come back and tell us what he says, and we'll help you understand what it might mean for your future.

Do you not think I should give it a few weeks first to see where things go

Don’t be a coward, at least own what you’ve done and tell her, the poor woman deserves to know the truth about you both.

But I need to talk to him first to see if hes wanting a relationship at the moment

Well, of course he does... Once you're happy to be turfed out first thing in the morning again, so he can forget all about you and get on with his life till he wants a cheap shag again 🤦‍♀️
Ho can you place such little value on yourself? He literally put you out on the doorstep when he'd finished with you.

It would have been a good idea to establish that before shagging him and blowing up a long term friendship.

Honestly you're deluded OP.

So if a relationship doesn’t come from this were you hoping to just continue to deceive your friend and let her think you are someone she can trust?

What he wants doesn't change that you fucked her father. That's what you should own and tell her so she can realise that you give less than a shit about her and the supposed friendship that you have had 'forever'.

I thought you already said he did. Hence us all being wrong…

You have already crossed the line by shagging your friend’s dad.

Regardless whether it’s a one night stand or the world’s best relationship your friend may still hate you when she finds out, which she will

Got a feeling though that you don’t care one bit what your friend thinks.

Ah OP, you may not see it now....but one day you will. You are very vulnerable at the moment, and that's not surprising given your upbringing. It is natural to look for someone to love and care for you as it's something that was missing when you were growing up. You crave anyone to take an interest in you. I wouldn't be surprised if you looked at your friends relationship with her father and felt jealousy growing up....and wanted a piece of that. Perhaps this is where your interest in him started?

Unfortunately, some men quickly figure out which key words they need to use to get what they want. Please don't believe he is not telling his daughter to protect you. The reality is that he is protecting himself. He doesn't want to cause problems for himself.

Or course he wants to see you again...especially if that means he can just buy you a Chinese and expect sex. I wonder what would happen if you told him that you had a medical issue and you wouldn't be able to have sex for at least a year- but would still love to come over for Chinese and drinks? I doubt very much that he would want to continue to 'look after you and protect you then'.

OP don't do this to yourself, you will feel worse in the long run.

No. I think you need to see what this is about sooner rather than later. I'm not saying actually tell your friend, I'm saying tell him you're going to. His response will give some insight into his real intentions, and if they're not what you hope for then it's far better to know that straight away. The higher you build this up, the longer and harder you'll fall.

I don’t think that was ever in doubt was it.