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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 2023-04-28T10:55:33+00:00

Iv been friends with this friend for ever and her dad has always been there for me and has messaged me a few times over the years but it's just been jokey flirty stuff nothing much of anything and he messaged me this morning to go round for a few drinks tonight. I want to go but I don't know how my friend will react. Yanbu. Do what you want its nobody's business Yabu. You don't cross that line with a friends dad

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 28/04/2023 15:04

He's not telling her because it's all kinds of messed up!!

It's nothing to do with protecting you OP.

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 28/04/2023 15:04

Come on OP, you have said yourself that you self destruct when drinking. If you keep shagging ex's/parents of your friends you really will end up with no one. The fact is, he wants a quick shag and will keep it a secret. Nice. This won't do your mental health any good. You know and we all know it.

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 28/04/2023 15:05

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 15:03

Of course I care about my friend. He's not telling her to protect me

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I despair.

Littleworkaholic · 28/04/2023 15:06

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 15:03

Of course I care about my friend. He's not telling her to protect me

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He’s not telling her to protect himself. And to protect her, you don’t come into it, you’re just a shag to him. How can you not see this.

girlfriend44 · 28/04/2023 15:06

mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 12:01

not sure why everyone is jumped down op's throat. we've all had crushes before why is this a problem? jealousy maybe?

Yes and the stupid mn obsession with age gaps.
Mn is obsessed about people only going out with people of the same age which is bloody stupid when same age relationships are breaking down all the time.

Op make you own mind up.

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 15:07

girlfriend44 · 28/04/2023 15:06

Yes and the stupid mn obsession with age gaps.
Mn is obsessed about people only going out with people of the same age which is bloody stupid when same age relationships are breaking down all the time.

Op make you own mind up.

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Kaaplumff · 28/04/2023 15:08

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 15:03

Of course I care about my friend. He's not telling her to protect me

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Why don't you protect you by not shagging your friends dad?

Naunet · 28/04/2023 15:08

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 15:03

Of course I care about my friend. He's not telling her to protect me

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No, he’s doing it so he can get his dick wet, it’s got nothing to do with protecting you.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 28/04/2023 15:08

I don't think the age gap is the actual issue here, and it's troubling that people aren't seeing that

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 28/04/2023 15:09

Why are you attempting to sabotage your friendships? Are you actively doing things to hurt these women? If I remember correctly your friend was at the party when you disappeared with her ex. Is it jealousy? There's a reason here OP. Perhaps send the BH weekend figuring it out.

Littleworkaholic · 28/04/2023 15:09

girlfriend44 · 28/04/2023 15:06

Yes and the stupid mn obsession with age gaps.
Mn is obsessed about people only going out with people of the same age which is bloody stupid when same age relationships are breaking down all the time.

Op make you own mind up.

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Tell me you didn’t read the thread without telling me you didn’t read the thread! It’s nothing to do with the age gap. No one gives a shit about that.

TheDogsWardrobe · 28/04/2023 15:10

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 15:03

Of course I care about my friend. He's not telling her to protect me

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He wants sex. He isn’t thinking of you or his daughter, only himself.

You can do whatever you like but you’re being taken advantage of and used. He knows you’re vulnerable. He isn’t a good bloke. We can’t make you listen but why do you think we are saying this? There’s no advantage to us to stop you doing this, except to stop a woman being used. I hope you listen.

Naunet · 28/04/2023 15:10

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 15:07

Thankyou

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Yeah because this sort of attitude worked out for you last time when she shagged your mates ex, didn’t it? Still think that was a good choice?

You have to learn from your mistakes OP or you will destroy yourself.

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 15:11

Of course I care about my friend. He's not telling her to protect me

He's not telling her to protect him.

If he felt the way you feel about him, he'd sit his daughter down and explain how he feels and that he'd like to pursue something with you but not if it'll upset her.

He's not doing that.

Littleworkaholic · 28/04/2023 15:11

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 28/04/2023 15:08

I don't think the age gap is the actual issue here, and it's troubling that people aren't seeing that

They haven’t bothered to read the thread or even think about it. Just rushed in.

SaulSobieski · 28/04/2023 15:11

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:03

I'm 26 he's 45. He's known me since I met my friend when we where in secondary school but it was nothing weird back then

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That's a really pretty big age gap and stage of life gap.

It would be inappropriate and creepy at the best of times but the fact that you're his DD'S friend and he's known you since you were 12 (?) while he's been an adult ...... Fuck no.

He's not a well adjusted individual.

MrBit · 28/04/2023 15:12

he's not telling her not to protect you @Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy but to protect her about both your betrayal and his and possibly use it to blackmail you if you refuse to do it again
Bet his friends would think it's totally inappropriate too
It's the wrong thing with the wrong person
To be honest I just want to hug you, you sound a damaged soul who needs kind people to surround you
Please don't alienate your only friend by doing this

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 15:12

@girlfriend44 not one single person on this thread has suggested the age gap is the issue. The grooming and preying on a vulnerable young woman is the issue.

readbooksdrinktea · 28/04/2023 15:13

He wants a shag. You're clearly more than willing despite the cost to yourself and your relationship with a friend, his daughter. Protecting you doesn't come into it for him. You're a secret.

He's in luck that you believe it, though. Almost like he knows you're vulnerable, isn't it?

The only one who can protect you is yourself.

MisanthropistToTheCore · 28/04/2023 15:14

readbooksdrinktea · 28/04/2023 15:13

He wants a shag. You're clearly more than willing despite the cost to yourself and your relationship with a friend, his daughter. Protecting you doesn't come into it for him. You're a secret.

He's in luck that you believe it, though. Almost like he knows you're vulnerable, isn't it?

The only one who can protect you is yourself.

This. It’s very clear that OP is going to proceed. She is hammering at the self destruct button and nothing anyone says will change that.

Have at it, OP.

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 28/04/2023 15:15

The OP is very vulnerable and I'm shocked that a few are encouraging this. She has said herself that she makes terrible decisions when drinking. This man knows exactly what he's doing. OP will go though. She's getting something out of the drama. I suspect it's something to do with getting one over on her friends.

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 15:16

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 28/04/2023 15:15

The OP is very vulnerable and I'm shocked that a few are encouraging this. She has said herself that she makes terrible decisions when drinking. This man knows exactly what he's doing. OP will go though. She's getting something out of the drama. I suspect it's something to do with getting one over on her friends.

Look at the usernames that are encouraging it. They're not surprising if youve been here a while.

JudgeRudy · 28/04/2023 15:18

You're clearly aware that it might make your friend feel a little unsettled to know you're dating her dad but on the face of it I'd say you are two (presumably) single adults...so go for it.
What might hold me back is the fact that he's asked you round to his for what could effectively be a first date. If he's considering seriously dating you he should at least have the balls to be seen out with you.
It's a very odd first date. Would you be up for some secret casual sex if that's what he's suggesting?

AnonymousFemale2023 · 28/04/2023 15:19

In a kind way, this would be over stepping the boundary. You will lose your friend if you go and something happens and they find out. If you want to meet up with him, id see him during the day for coffee. Alcohol wont help the situation and it will only end up one way.

it is a bit odd that hes watched you grow up, since 11, and is flirting with you now, you being his childs same age. There’s something a bit off there. I know your both adults and with your mental health difficulties youve mentioned, im just worried youll do something you may regret in the cold light of day.

this is meant in the nicest way possible. Keep it platonic or you risk causing upset x

LadyOfTheCanyon · 28/04/2023 15:20

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 28/04/2023 15:15

The OP is very vulnerable and I'm shocked that a few are encouraging this. She has said herself that she makes terrible decisions when drinking. This man knows exactly what he's doing. OP will go though. She's getting something out of the drama. I suspect it's something to do with getting one over on her friends.

When you've got catastrophic self esteem, using your sexual currency is sometimes the only thing you've got.