To Have "Told Off" Someone's Child?

[FooFighter99]

Just trying to gauge opinion but I'm pretty sure I wasn't BU

Walking home from school this afternoon having picked DD up, casually strolling through the estate to get home, chatting with another mum and her kids as they absolutely love our dog when I notice a young boy who's in front of us but walking about 5 paces behind his mum and possibly his older brother, and he's spitting on the floor with every other step

He's obviously got sweets in his mouth as the spit is bright red/pink and we're then having to dodge round it so we don't walk in it (gross) cos it'll be sticky and disgusting and I don't want someone else's spit all over my shoes and/or dogs paws

I said "ew can you stop spitting" in a jokey/normal tone, didn't raise my voice, wasn't angry or confronting, just wanted him to stop spitting on the pavement

His mum turned round and said "did you just tell my kid off?" to which I replied, "well, he's spitting all over the floor" and she responded by telling my to mind my own business and concentrate on my own kid - I responded by pointing out that my child wasn't spitting everywhere... again, didn't raise my voice, didn't get angry or animated but she kept chunnering all the way down the road till they eventually turned off onto their estate

Now, I'm sorry, actually not sorry in the slightest but if my DD had been the one spitting and another mum had pulled her up on it, I would have also told DD off for spitting, not the other mum for saying something

And seriously, spitting is fucking disgusting and she ought to teach her child some manners

So true.

And that is how we end up with generations of entitled snowflakes.

Yes you can call people out for spitting.

Yes you can tell other people's children off.

You can also spell U.

Completely disagree. Having someone’s mum tell them rather than speaking to them yourself is hardly making kids entitled 😂 you’re just trying to justify your actions because u are not able to shut up if something annoys you. but u can only speak for yourself i wouldn’t have it if adults intimidate my kid in any way. My job is to keep them safe and secure as well as well
mannered. So NO stranger adult with a dog is allowed to tell my child off and no one else’s opinion on that matters. But I would happily speak to my child to stop if they were spitting. Big difference

This @Iaintsadwhenugotobed

you absolutely can approach children when they’re doing something wrong. I mean why on earth not? Do you think it will emotionally scar them or something?!

@Iaintsadwhenugotobed

lol why you so fixated on having a dog

Because having a dog matters in this scenario. And ofcourse a dog isn’t the most sanitised thing in earth for her to be so disgusted she had to speak to a random kid but is walking around with a dog.
why are u so bothered about my opinion? Do u want to wait under bridges and tell off other peoples children? I would get it completely if they did something unsafe or directed towards you then cool say something.

@Iaintsadwhenugotobed

im interested in your opinion because it is quite unusual.

Your view that adults absolutely categorically CANNOT say a single thing to a child acting in an anti social, unhygienic and frankly quite gross manner - even a mild “please can you stop that?”

im interested in why you think people shouldn’t be able to say l that? And why then ultimately kids should be left to just spit all over the street- cos this kids mum didn’t look like she was gonna go a single thing to stop it .

I would have said something to the mother, not the child.

I don’t think your are getting what I’m saying at all. For someone uninterested you have replied to all my posts 😂 and then go on to say now u are interested to know why I think people shouldn’t be able to go say that, which I have already been through. My opinion is not unusual at all many people are saying they would’ve said nothing or spoke to the mother. My opinion that spit is gross yes but u don’t have a leg to stand on if ur walking a dog and there’s also lots of gross involved there.
good debate, goodnight 😂

@Iaintsadwhenugotobed

😂 I find it so random that you believe that you cannot possibly complain about spitting if you have a dog. Honestly it’s one of the most bizarre things I’ve heard on here!

I think it’s bizzare to complain about spit if u have a dog! Think pee poo residue on the butt. Saliva and hair. Y don’t u think that is gross in comparison to human spit? Humans who brush their teeth and hopefully wash often. I really don’t get it 😂

We need more of this in society, the whole 'it takes a village' and all that jazz.

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/this-mum-told-off-someone-elses-child-was-she-being-unreasonable_uk_6447a660e4b039ec4e80d6ad?d_id=5759670&ncid_tag=fcbklnkukhpmg00000001&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&utm_campaign=uk_main

Public health is my business and it certainly is everyone’s duty to stop us going back to the times where many died of TB and other diseases which can be spread by this, also- it is illegal

Why not? If the parent is useless then someone else needs to tell the kid off. It takes a village etc. and also the village has to put up with previous kid when they've grown into a vile adult.

Spitting is disgusting, unless a wasp flies into your mouth there’s no reason for it

It really isn't, it's mostly how they learn that other people have standards different to their parents' (if any) standards.

I used to work in soft play and the offending child would be ordered off the equipment and told to sit with their parent/s. No arguing!

Low level petty stuff like spitting, littering etc has been proven to lead to further crime and disregard for the area. It leads to worse anti social behaviour and escalates from there. This is where shitty parenting and a breakdown in services has lead. NOT disproportionate at all.