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AIBU to deduct stolen money from payment?

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cocoloco117 · 24/04/2023 15:21

Name changed and tin hat on for this. We recently had someone working in our house, after which I noticed a large sum of money had gone missing. It was a pile of notes that was left under an ornament on a bookshelf in the room in which they were working. Now I don’t need any lectures on the follies of leaving large sums of money lying around the house, stupidly I forgot to move it before they came. But whilst it is a stupid thing to do, does that mean I deserve to be robbed?

No one else has been in the house in the time between when the cash was last definitely seen and when it disappeared, apart from me DH DCs and none of us took/moved it. I haven’t raised this with the company, yet, as it will be an extraordinary awkward conversation. And what would the response be? The worker’s undoubtedly going to deny it so it comes down to my word against theirs.

I was about to let it go and chalk it up to bad experience. But since the day of the work/theft, there’s been a few other issues so we haven't paid the invoice yet. In that time I have spent stewing over it, searching the place upside down and thinking about who else could have been in the house or what else could have happened. Post-stew I am now certain that the only explanation can be that it was taken by the worker. Would it be unreasonable to unilaterally deduct the amount stolen from the invoice and tell them to recover the rest from their light-fingered employee?

I’m almost set on this course of action now, but I’m after a sanity check via the unique brand of constructive criticism only available on MN. So: AIBU to proverbially cancel the cheque?

Thanks in advance but I don’t need any elaborate hypotheticals asking whether the cat/dog/baby might have eaten/buried/hidden it. They haven’t. And tell me that I’m wrong if you like but I am convinced the only reasonable explanation is that it’s been stolen.

OP posts:
Mediocrates · 26/04/2023 07:34

cocoloco117 · 26/04/2023 06:22

Because I can feel everyone desperately itching to say “aha, it was the kids” and share their anecdotes of how they thought they’d lost xyz and their teen had … bla bla bla.
But. It. Was. Not. The. Kids.

Is that because it would have been logistically impossible for them to steal it (eg they’re six weeks old, or were out of the country the entire time the contractor was in your house), or because they say they didn’t?

T1Dmama · 26/04/2023 08:23

You need to confront the contractor because I wouldn’t want the suspected thief in my house again!!!
Talk to the boss! You might never see that money again… but you definitely won’t I’d you don’t ask about it!
I am wondering why you are dead certain it’s nots the kids (unless they’re 4 weeks old or something… but yet are absolutely convinced it’s this worker even though you’ve no proof??
The kids if they’re older might have seen that money for ages and either moved it to safety when builders or whatever arrived, then forgot to mention it.. or taken it knowing you’d blame the builders and do nothing about it.

Either way I’d be asking everyone and if you still think the worker took it why not say something and kick him off the job!

AbbaG12 · 26/04/2023 12:33

I'd check your contract as withholding the money could be in breach of it and they could take you to court.

Jillybloop393 · 28/04/2023 01:06

lanthanum · 24/04/2023 15:30

You should have reported the theft, even if it was a case of "your word against theirs"; if they get similar reports from other jobs then things might look a bit different.

I don't think you can really withhold money from the company for something their employee did and that you haven't even mentioned until now. But you could make sure that they are aware that there may be an issue.

This is probably the best way to go, I would think. Very awkward for you 😞

Mrsgreen100 · 28/04/2023 12:18

A/ report to police
B/ are there any children in the house?
C/ kids lie a lot ( even the perfect darlings you would never expect, they aren’t developed yet in their frontal lobes , kids need to learn how to lie it’s a developmental thing according to my mate who is a professor in some psychology thingy!
then report to the company if you are 100
percent sure,
but it’s easy to jump to conclusions, do it
the right way then it will save you in the long run
delay payment if u can until police informed
etc

Stewball01 · 14/05/2023 00:47

I don't think it's legal to do what you want to do.

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