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To think F off it’s my business if I take my kids to…

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 12:40

Walt Disney world florida.

kids will be both under 5, booked our first family to WDW florida and I’m incredibly excited as can’t wait to go and we got a great deal price wise BUT the reaction is not what I’ve been expecting.

in the travel agent on booking, older woman overheard and felt the need to say it’s absolutely silly taking children that young… I was taken aback

then at work chatting about upcoming holidays met with such reactions as ‘fucking idiots’ and selfish and more money than sense . My boss actually had to sort of intervene because the conversation felt quite heated and aggressive… since when did this become a thing? Why are people so against taking young children to Disney?

totally fine if it’s not your scene but it’s mine and kids under 3 are free so you don’t pay, mine have been to euro Disney twice and loved it . I don’t get this attitude

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I8toys · 23/04/2023 14:43

It was what I was expecting tbh. It was a tick box whilst in the area I think.

Vivalaive · 23/04/2023 14:44

Well you certainly need to chill!

OP yanbu- even if children don’t remember it - they are your memories too!!! Enjoy them while they are little and enjoy your holiday!

AGovernmentOfLawsAndNotMen · 23/04/2023 14:44

Wonder what your colleagues would say to me buying this
🤣🤣🤣

and my kids are all grown up!

To think F off it’s my business if I take my kids to…
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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 14:44

MartinFowler · 23/04/2023 14:41

I disagree that it's jealousy. I think they are too young really and I can afford to go to Disneyworld whenever I like. I'm not jealous, I just think there are so many better holidays for kids that age.

The difference is I wouldn't say that to a colleague or anyone else that was choosing to take them.

They definitely aren’t too young

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Satsumaonaplate · 23/04/2023 14:45

People are just jealous!! Enjoy it, I'm jealous too 😉

ringoutsolsticebells · 23/04/2023 14:47

It's jealousy. Ignore. I go every year with DH and adult DD. I don't care what people think about that

Cakeandcardio · 23/04/2023 14:48

Surely some of the point of doing nice things with very young children is that YOU, the adults, get to enjoy the experience of taking them? Otherwise we would all just sit at home for fear that they wouldn't remember anything 🤷🏻‍♀️
People really can be very odd. Not their business to comment and they probably are just jealous!!

Ohrwurm · 23/04/2023 14:49

Sounds like jealously, op. Enjoy your holiday!

MumApril1990 · 23/04/2023 14:50

Pure simple jealousy

Onlymeanttostay5minutes · 23/04/2023 14:50

Go and enjoy your holiday. I took my daughter at 23 days old and had a lovely time. People made comments about such a young baby travelling that distance but my child my choice. Had a great time and did loads. She doesn’t obviously have memories of that holiday but that wasn’t the reason I went.

Nocutenamesleft · 23/04/2023 14:51

We’re going to acid eh in two months! However mine are quite a bit older and I did it for the exact reason that I anted them to be older, taller and have more memories of it
my husband went aged 4 and he doesn’t remember it at all. He went again at 10 and remembers nearly all of it and my
kids are that age.

maybe we see you there? Xx

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 14:54

Nocutenamesleft · 23/04/2023 14:51

We’re going to acid eh in two months! However mine are quite a bit older and I did it for the exact reason that I anted them to be older, taller and have more memories of it
my husband went aged 4 and he doesn’t remember it at all. He went again at 10 and remembers nearly all of it and my
kids are that age.

maybe we see you there? Xx

We’re off tail end of the year. Have a smashing time!!

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Freefall212 · 23/04/2023 14:55

Some people are anti Disney specifically vs a vacation due to the commercialism and sexism and labour issues and various other issues with Disney itself vs the vacation. They don't dress their kids in Disney clothes or tell their little girls they are princesses or buy into the marketing. Disney is a massive brand and the advertising and $$ they rake in from that marketing and advertising isn't magic, its business. However again, to each their own.

Nocutenamesleft · 23/04/2023 14:56

You know there’s studies done about children and memories with regards to going on the same holiday over and over.

I’ll see if I can find them. It’s quite magical what it does.

Nocutenamesleft · 23/04/2023 14:57

ZenNudist · 23/04/2023 13:09

I suppose they are jealous.

Can you afford to go multiple times?

There's a sweet spot for doing disney young and you aren't in it yet. 6 or7 is a good age to do it where you get the benefit of the "young" things (character dining, meeting the characters). Can't see that the rides are worth it at that age and getting in "free" hahaha, good one. The reason it's free is because the adult costs are steep and the kids aren't getting the benefit.

If you enjoy it then crack on but it's a bit punishing as holidays go. We had a fab time with 8 and 11yo and my now 9yo really wants to go back when he can actually go on the good rides at universal.

Dh family are disney mad and want to go back sooner but we want to go to Japan and some European theme parks before we drop another fortune at universal.

Oh my youngest is desperate to go to Japan. I’ve never been but it does look amazing.

MrsCarson · 23/04/2023 14:57

No ones business but your family.
I remember some of our family trip to Germany when I was three. Hardly as exciting as Disney so they may well remember quite a bit of it.

SarahLucSc · 23/04/2023 14:58

I hate it when people say ‘they won’t remember it’.

I will remember things! Under that logic we’d never do anything with our kids before the age of 10.

My Dad died when my children were young - they won’t remember most of the time they spent doing days out etc with him but I always will.

Freefall212 · 23/04/2023 14:58

Nocutenamesleft · 23/04/2023 14:56

You know there’s studies done about children and memories with regards to going on the same holiday over and over.

I’ll see if I can find them. It’s quite magical what it does.

That same memory doesn't have to cost $$$$ and contribute to a 200 billion dollar company's profits!

MalagaNights · 23/04/2023 15:01

A lot of people are weird abour Disney.

Either they adore it and become a bit obsessed and overexcited about it (I fall into this camp as we have such wonderful happy family times there, I get a bit carried away.) If you tell these people you're going to Disney we squeal with excitement for you and could discuss it for hours.

Or people view hating Disney as an indictaion of their sophistication, and feel obliged to state how much they'd hate it every time it's mentioned.

Then there are normal people who don't really care where you go on holiday.

Freefall212 · 23/04/2023 15:01

SarahLucSc · 23/04/2023 14:58

I hate it when people say ‘they won’t remember it’.

I will remember things! Under that logic we’d never do anything with our kids before the age of 10.

My Dad died when my children were young - they won’t remember most of the time they spent doing days out etc with him but I always will.

It depends on the money you have. There is nothing wrong with cheap vacations. Or saving up your money to do one big trip when the kids do remember so you can talk about it with them for years to come.

If you have a ton of money, of course, take a huge vacation every year or six months - it doesn't matter if they do or don't remember. Eventually they will be old enough to remember and in the meantime you have had years of luxurious and expensive vacations. But if you don't have that kind of cash and are saving for only one or two expensive vacations, then kid enjoyment and memory is a more important factor to consider.

Andanotherone01 · 23/04/2023 15:02

Freefall212 · 23/04/2023 14:55

Some people are anti Disney specifically vs a vacation due to the commercialism and sexism and labour issues and various other issues with Disney itself vs the vacation. They don't dress their kids in Disney clothes or tell their little girls they are princesses or buy into the marketing. Disney is a massive brand and the advertising and $$ they rake in from that marketing and advertising isn't magic, its business. However again, to each their own.

This is me - I’d rather rub chilli in my eyes than go to Disney. BUT live and let live; I’d never dream of making a negative comment about where someone else chooses to holiday, just wish them a great time. I can’t stand people who have an opinion on how other people should enjoy themselves.

pfftt · 23/04/2023 15:05

Stravaig · 23/04/2023 13:47

Was it a class snobbery thing, and your colleagues thought the same money could buy a very different kind of experience? To me, Disney World occupies the same mental space as Butlins and Centreparcs and all-inclusive package resorts. Are your colleagues more world traveller types? Bit weird it got so vehement though 🤷‍♀️

I know people who would even know what Butlins or centreparcs was who have been to WDW. It's not really a class based place at all. You can stay in a ridiculously luxurious hotel or a really family friendly more reasonable hotel. Your comment reeks of a badly disguised attempt at shaming the OP

BeautifulWar · 23/04/2023 15:08

Very odd reaction! Who cares that much what someone else does on holiday?

Probably just jealous they can't afford it! Tell them to have a nice time at Pontins!

Absolutely no need for snide come-backs like that suggestion,,, though! There's nothing wrong with Pontins, just as there's nothing wrong with the Disney parks.

LudicrouslyCapaciousBag · 23/04/2023 15:11

I suppose if Disney World is once-in-a-lifetime then you might want to time it so that the children remember it, but this doesn’t seem to be the case for OP anyway. Very strange to get such vehement responses.

We took DD to Efteling a couple of months before her fourth birthday and she remembers snatches of it.

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 15:12

I wonder work wise it was a more of we’re paid higher than you and it’s perceived as an expensive holiday?

i earn 40k and probably was the lowest paid in the conversation and youngest by 10 years or so, reflecting now and reading the comments on the thread i think it might be it. Esp as we plan to go at least 2 more times to florida and same or more to paris

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