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To think F off it’s my business if I take my kids to…

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 12:40

Walt Disney world florida.

kids will be both under 5, booked our first family to WDW florida and I’m incredibly excited as can’t wait to go and we got a great deal price wise BUT the reaction is not what I’ve been expecting.

in the travel agent on booking, older woman overheard and felt the need to say it’s absolutely silly taking children that young… I was taken aback

then at work chatting about upcoming holidays met with such reactions as ‘fucking idiots’ and selfish and more money than sense . My boss actually had to sort of intervene because the conversation felt quite heated and aggressive… since when did this become a thing? Why are people so against taking young children to Disney?

totally fine if it’s not your scene but it’s mine and kids under 3 are free so you don’t pay, mine have been to euro Disney twice and loved it . I don’t get this attitude

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DragonflyLady · 23/04/2023 14:22

We took my daughter when she was three. It was a big family holiday. Disney was about a third of what we did. She doesn’t remember Disney, but she does remember where we stayed and she remembers watching a rocket launch. She had the most amazing time though. Sadly we’ll probably never go back and if we did we’d not be able to stay where we used to stay.

ichundich · 23/04/2023 14:23

I personally think it's a waste of money because the kids are too small to appreciate and remember it. Also not great in terms of the environmental impact. But at the end of the days it's your holiday and for you to decide how you want to spend it.

HalloweenGhost · 23/04/2023 14:24

It's just jealousy. There isn't really any other reason why people would voice an opinion otherwise.

Good for you, you'll have a lovely time. And if they don't remember it, so what? You will! You'll remember their excitement! And it will add to their general feeling of a happy childhood.

The good thing is you haven't got to waste money or suitcase space on souvenirs for your coworkers.

Algor1thm · 23/04/2023 14:24

Depends why you're going. If it's for your kids then I'd wait until they're older and are more likely to remember it and be able to go on more of the rides. If you and your partner want to go yourselves then fair enough. We've been on lots of holidays that we want to go on and therefore the kids come too as standard. It's not about making memories for them as they're too little, but we want to make memories ourselves! And they get to enjoy it at the time.

Your colleagues' reactions are bizarre, why do they care anyway?

CoolShoeshine · 23/04/2023 14:24

Have a great time and take some video of the dc’s enjoying themselves. We took dd at 18 months and she had a blast and loved everything. We’ve watched the footage of us there dozens of times over the years so even though she doesn’t remember the moment she likes liking back on it and her cute reactions. One of our favourite family memories.

Poppyblush · 23/04/2023 14:26

Your kids will love it! You will love it! It was the best holiday ever!

Lachimolala · 23/04/2023 14:26

It’s jealousy. I’ve taken mine to Euro Disney at 4 months and 2 years, and HK Disney at 4 and 6 years. I’ll likely not be able to afford WDW etc but I’ll definitely be taking them to Euro Disney again in the next few years.

AGovernmentOfLawsAndNotMen · 23/04/2023 14:28

It’s an expensive holiday and people are probably jealous.
Live your life OP, I’m sure you’ll all have a great time.

LlynTegid · 23/04/2023 14:28

I'd object if your DC are missing school for it, but seems not the case. Your choice, means more space for me for my holiday choices.

Tiredalwaystired · 23/04/2023 14:30

youre absolutely right to take them if that’s what you want but I almost guarantee they won’t actually remember it and anything they do “remember” is going to be more likely to be seeded memories from you saying things like “Do you remember that time you jumped when mickey mouse tapped you on the shoulder?” Which they will then be convinced they actually remember, which is probably what people are getting at.

But it’s going to provide lovely real memories for YOU so why not? It’s your money.

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 14:30

Lachimolala · 23/04/2023 14:26

It’s jealousy. I’ve taken mine to Euro Disney at 4 months and 2 years, and HK Disney at 4 and 6 years. I’ll likely not be able to afford WDW etc but I’ll definitely be taking them to Euro Disney again in the next few years.

Check on tui, if you’re flexible when you can go, you can get 1 weeks 10 days for just a bit more than DLP

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 14:31

LlynTegid · 23/04/2023 14:28

I'd object if your DC are missing school for it, but seems not the case. Your choice, means more space for me for my holiday choices.

I think in primary, in light of strikes and a few days here and there, nothing that’s covered in primary isn’t a gap DH and I can’t fill anyway

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Zanatdy · 23/04/2023 14:31

No idea as I have taken mine 3 times and first time my daughter was 5 and she loved it. She definitely enjoyed it more than the last trip when she was 14! Even if she didn’t remember it (and she does a little) I remembered it, and I have the memories and photos, including the very expensive makeover I paid for which was worth every penny. She definitely wouldn’t have appreciated dressing up as Belle when she was 14! Just ignore them, they will love it

MadeofElephantStone · 23/04/2023 14:32

Awe, what cunts. Disneyland is my idea of hell but I can see the appeal for other. Go, and have an amazing time with your family and forget the boring farts back home. Your kids might not remember details, they will enjoy it in the moment, but you will and it is perfectly acceptable for parents to make memories of their young children for themselves.

Grumpypotamus · 23/04/2023 14:34

We used to go every year (went to other places too), and we love it. I once told a colleague that when she starts paying for my holiday she can decide where I go.

There were other colleagues going to the same camping every year or to Greece every year. Noone said anything about that more than how great it was. But going to DW..wasn’t on.

Hellybelly84 · 23/04/2023 14:34

Stravaig · 23/04/2023 13:47

Was it a class snobbery thing, and your colleagues thought the same money could buy a very different kind of experience? To me, Disney World occupies the same mental space as Butlins and Centreparcs and all-inclusive package resorts. Are your colleagues more world traveller types? Bit weird it got so vehement though 🤷‍♀️

We’re well travelled but also love all inclusives/Center Parcs as its brilliant for the kids (and we enjoy it too). You can still get out and explore at an all inclusive, but love having all the facilities there. Being in a hut on the beach in Thailand wouldn’t be practical with the kids for most people (although thats been done pre-kids).

I’d say its more likely jealousy - if the holiday isnt their thing, surely they would just say ‘have a great time’. Who would seriously start a heated debate with colleagues over a holiday???

Viviennemary · 23/04/2023 14:37

I ahree they are too young. But up to yoi.

Whoknewwhat · 23/04/2023 14:37

Even if I thought as your colleagues did, I wouldn’t actually say that out loud to the person going to Disneyland! I can’t even begin to imagine what is going on in the heads and hearts of people who make those comments! Why! Just why!

Some people just can’t wait to piss on other people’s crisps!

SpecialBreak · 23/04/2023 14:37

It’s not a waste of money if that’s what you can afford and you’ll all enjoy it. We started taking DC on long- haul trips (including our favourite - California road trip) from when they were 3. They enjoyed it at the time (and can remember snippets), but as adults we also had a fantastic time! My DC love the world around them, different people and cultures and different experiences from a young age will have contributed to this.
live in the moment- if you all enjoy it at the time that’s amazing! I can’t remember 80% of stuff I did even in my teens! Doesn’t mean it wasnt worthwhile doing!

jennyt82 · 23/04/2023 14:40

Out youngest was 2 when we went last year, he absolutely loved it and could go on so many rides. Absolutely recommend genie+ though, I'm not sure how good he would of been in long queues all day and having that also meant that we could book 2 different rides if the older ones wanted to go on the faster ones and we'd all meet up afterwards. I don't regret taking him at all at that age

I8toys · 23/04/2023 14:41

Personally prefer lots of smaller holidays during the year and don't want to save up for one "amazing holiday of a lifetime" but a lot of experiences throughout the year but that's personal choice.

Done Disneyland Paris twice and its okay but we also drove and visited Paris, Centreparcs Paris and travelled further into France at the same time so not purely for the "Disney experience".

Not sure if its jealously (why they would be jealous though?) or whether people are just being aholes at work. Your choice how you spend your money.

Shutuplouis · 23/04/2023 14:41

Have fun! Don’t know why everything has to be to make memories, go and have fun and enjoy it, it doesn’t actually matter if they don’t remember

MartinFowler · 23/04/2023 14:41

I disagree that it's jealousy. I think they are too young really and I can afford to go to Disneyworld whenever I like. I'm not jealous, I just think there are so many better holidays for kids that age.

The difference is I wouldn't say that to a colleague or anyone else that was choosing to take them.

StackBlocks · 23/04/2023 14:42

Maybe you were unlucky as I have taken my 2 under 5’s and haven’t had any negative comments at all! Maybe they were all done behind my back 😂 Both of mine had a wonderful time, and I will remember them having fun even if they won’t.

Grumpypotamus · 23/04/2023 14:43

I8toys · 23/04/2023 14:41

Personally prefer lots of smaller holidays during the year and don't want to save up for one "amazing holiday of a lifetime" but a lot of experiences throughout the year but that's personal choice.

Done Disneyland Paris twice and its okay but we also drove and visited Paris, Centreparcs Paris and travelled further into France at the same time so not purely for the "Disney experience".

Not sure if its jealously (why they would be jealous though?) or whether people are just being aholes at work. Your choice how you spend your money.

Didneyland Paris really is crap tbf. Such a disappointment.