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Someone's taken credit for anonymous treat!

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 10:56

Quick silly one but not sure what to do.

Friend has had a hard time so I've sent them a cream tea type surprise treat. Left the card anonymous but she finds it difficult to receive without reciprocating and I wanted her to have something just for her with no strings, to cheer her up.

She posts it on social media, another Friend (I don't know) comments, saying enjoy, glad you like, you deserve it type thing

My friend says ahhhh was it you, youre amazing

Other friend says wink wink it's anonymous so I guess you'll never know

Now, to me there alluding it was then. Taking all the bloody credit. I know I didn't send it for credit or even thanks but I'm a little pissed off!

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LimeCheesecake · 22/04/2023 11:03

Ooh, not good. If it was me, I’d contact my friend and say “I hope you liked the cream tea, I wanted to send you a surprise.” Don’t reference that other person claimed it or anything public, let your friend work it out for themselves.

Valour · 22/04/2023 11:03

This happened to me! I was sent some gorgeous jewelery on a few occasions during lockdown, and I mentioned it to my sister who said it was her. I had a funny feeling that it wasn't- it just wasn't her style to do that, although she is generous. (There was one piece that had a handwritten quote on a piece of paper with it, and it wasn't the type of thing she'd say iykwim). I later (much later!) found out that it was from a man I knew.

Never confronted my sister.

In your place, I'd send a PM to say you hope she enjoyed the cream tea and that you weren't going to say it was you but some people aren't keen on anonymous gifts.

GoodVibesHere · 22/04/2023 11:04

LimeCheesecake · 22/04/2023 11:03

Ooh, not good. If it was me, I’d contact my friend and say “I hope you liked the cream tea, I wanted to send you a surprise.” Don’t reference that other person claimed it or anything public, let your friend work it out for themselves.

Yes I would do this

Saltired · 22/04/2023 11:07

See, I’m much more passive aggressive. I’d comment under their comment saying “well this is awkward 🌚” and then message friend who I sent the gift to saying “glad you enjoyed it”

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:09

Saltired · 22/04/2023 11:07

See, I’m much more passive aggressive. I’d comment under their comment saying “well this is awkward 🌚” and then message friend who I sent the gift to saying “glad you enjoyed it”

Ya, I really feel I want to say it infront of them!

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Saltired · 22/04/2023 11:07

See, I’m much more passive aggressive. I’d comment under their comment saying “well this is awkward 🌚” and then message friend who I sent the gift to saying “glad you enjoyed it”

Yes! Perfect comment.

Minisculefool · 22/04/2023 11:09

I wouldn’t say anything, you’re friend likes it and that’s all that matters.
if you comment on it it looks petty

Ponoka7 · 22/04/2023 11:10

Message her directly, don't let the other person's cheek spoil it in any way. Message her soon because she might be arranging flowers etc for the other person.

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:11

Ponoka7 · 22/04/2023 11:10

Message her directly, don't let the other person's cheek spoil it in any way. Message her soon because she might be arranging flowers etc for the other person.

She most certainly will, she will always return the sentiment.

I'll message her now x

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Oh but I like this. Maybe I'll do this

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BellaJuno · 22/04/2023 11:15

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This is what I’d do, cheeky mare! xx

Twinedpeaks · 22/04/2023 11:15

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But the other friend hasn't said they've sent one?

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 11:16

LimeCheesecake · 22/04/2023 11:03

Ooh, not good. If it was me, I’d contact my friend and say “I hope you liked the cream tea, I wanted to send you a surprise.” Don’t reference that other person claimed it or anything public, let your friend work it out for themselves.

Yup I'd do this

DarkDarkNight · 22/04/2023 11:17

I would just comment completely ignoring the person who has took credit saying ‘Glad you enjoyed it, I thought you deserved a treat, it was my pleasure.’ Makes it a bit clearer you were the one who bought it.

The first comment could be read either way really - genuinely saying you deserve it, how nice but without taking credit. She should have cleared up the confusion by saying it wasn’t her instead of the wink wink you’ll never know message. How rude

BellaJuno · 22/04/2023 11:17

Twinedpeaks · 22/04/2023 11:15

But the other friend hasn't said they've sent one?

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Oh give over, she’s very strongly inferred that and most people would take that as claiming it.

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 11:17

And put a haha emoji on her comment. Cheeky cow

Barneysma2 · 22/04/2023 11:18

Hi op, I would message your friend direct like others have said. Something like 'i hope you like the cream tea, I just wanted to do something to cheer you up 🥰 I don't expect anything in return, this is my treat to you' and see how she responds. If she thinks it is the other person she might send them a gift to say thanks so you need to say something to stop that happening. Or you could just comment underneath the Facebook post and say ACTUALLY it was me who sent her the cream tea, you cheeky fucker 😂

PussBilledDuckyPlait · 22/04/2023 11:20

It's really annoying and cheeky of the other friend to be hinting in this way, but if you start a pass-agg messaging war, or making a point of claiming it, you're going to spoil the gift for the person who was supposed to be cheered up, so I would leave it and let her enjoy the treat.

FilamentB · 22/04/2023 11:21

If you call the other person out, you're going to make your friend feel awkward too. I'd comment that it was from you and that you hope she liked it, while completely ignoring the other person. They'll look like a twat and you'll retain the moral highground.

PegasusReturns · 22/04/2023 11:21

By all means message friend and say you’re glad you she enjoyed the treat - and that you wanted to do something lovely for her without reciprocation.

do NOT under any circumstances get into a Facebook spat.

Gazelda · 22/04/2023 11:24

LimeCheesecake · 22/04/2023 11:03

Ooh, not good. If it was me, I’d contact my friend and say “I hope you liked the cream tea, I wanted to send you a surprise.” Don’t reference that other person claimed it or anything public, let your friend work it out for themselves.

This is perfect.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 22/04/2023 11:29

Have you considered composing a Phoebe Buffay-style song called “Cream Tea Thieving Bitch” and posting a video of you performing it on Instagram? I’d do that.

(Well, I probably wouldn’t, but how good would it be?)

Catmummyof2 · 22/04/2023 11:33

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Twinedpeaks · 22/04/2023 11:35

@BellaJuno but alluded to isn't said. I don't doubt that's what she wants the friend to think, but if OP calls it out she'll look petty as CF friend can just play dumb

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