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Someone's taken credit for anonymous treat!

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 10:56

Quick silly one but not sure what to do.

Friend has had a hard time so I've sent them a cream tea type surprise treat. Left the card anonymous but she finds it difficult to receive without reciprocating and I wanted her to have something just for her with no strings, to cheer her up.

She posts it on social media, another Friend (I don't know) comments, saying enjoy, glad you like, you deserve it type thing

My friend says ahhhh was it you, youre amazing

Other friend says wink wink it's anonymous so I guess you'll never know

Now, to me there alluding it was then. Taking all the bloody credit. I know I didn't send it for credit or even thanks but I'm a little pissed off!

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Azandme · 22/04/2023 11:56

Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:53

Bloody hell. She still hasn't ready WhatsApp but she tagged cheeky cow in the post now 😩

😮

OrangeRock · 22/04/2023 11:56

Before she reads the message reply on her post under the CFer with a suggestions here. I like the « well this is awkward « one or the “did you send her one too, how funny is that”

Pinkflamingopants · 22/04/2023 11:57

@ShowUs when the friend asked if it was her she should have replied "No." What do you mean what else could they say?

Darkstar4855 · 22/04/2023 11:57

This is the CF’s opportunity to say oh it wasn’t me, I was just joking…

Kanaloa · 22/04/2023 11:57

*I actually don’t think the friend is implying it was her.

She initially said enjoy etc which I think we all would.

Then when the friend asked if it was her what was she supposed to say?*

Well a lot of replies would be more appropriate than it’s anonymous wink wink.

For example

No not me sadly! You must have a good friend somewhere.

Oh sorry, no it wasn’t me! But I hope you enjoy, how lovely of somebody.

Oh, I didn’t mean I sent it! Wish I had, what a lovely idea.

There would be many ways to reply without implying you send the gift.

AllIeveknewonlyou · 22/04/2023 11:58

The other person should have said no, you must have another secret admirer!

It's OK, it'll all blow over.

EasterBreak · 22/04/2023 11:58

Please comment on the post that you sent it.

OneFrenchEgg · 22/04/2023 12:00

Don't send anonymous stuff if you want credit for it.

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 12:01

Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:53

Bloody hell. She still hasn't ready WhatsApp but she tagged cheeky cow in the post now 😩

Ah don't worry she'll feel awkward when she sees your message

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 12:01

OneFrenchEgg · 22/04/2023 12:00

Don't send anonymous stuff if you want credit for it.

I didn't want credit but I certainly don't want someone taking it either!! 😝

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OneFrenchEgg · 22/04/2023 12:02

It was always a risk. Either send stuff and sign it, or just stop the investment at the point your friend enjoys it.

Curlyfluff · 22/04/2023 12:05

OneFrenchEgg · 22/04/2023 12:00

Don't send anonymous stuff if you want credit for it.

She didn't want credit for it! Have you understood the post?

ShowUs · 22/04/2023 12:06

Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 12:01

I didn't want credit but I certainly don't want someone taking it either!! 😝

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But with an anonymous gift you run the risk of someone else getting the credit.

Why not message the person and say it’s coming across as though you sent it so could you put her straight.

ShowUs · 22/04/2023 12:07

Kanaloa · 22/04/2023 11:57

*I actually don’t think the friend is implying it was her.

She initially said enjoy etc which I think we all would.

Then when the friend asked if it was her what was she supposed to say?*

Well a lot of replies would be more appropriate than it’s anonymous wink wink.

For example

No not me sadly! You must have a good friend somewhere.

Oh sorry, no it wasn’t me! But I hope you enjoy, how lovely of somebody.

Oh, I didn’t mean I sent it! Wish I had, what a lovely idea.

There would be many ways to reply without implying you send the gift.

Isn’t the idea of it being anonymous so that the person doesn’t know the sender.

If everyone she asks apart from OP say no it wasn’t them then that’s not anonymous as it’s easy to work out.

If the sender wanted them to know who it was from then they would not sent it anonymously.

Wishona · 22/04/2023 12:08

I think I would tag the business you used on the post and just put a short comment saying glad it was received well or something.

Psalmbodytolove · 22/04/2023 12:08

Wishona · 22/04/2023 12:08

I think I would tag the business you used on the post and just put a short comment saying glad it was received well or something.

Oo I like this idea!

Bluebells1970 · 22/04/2023 12:08

I'd let it go and delete the message if your friend hasn't read it.

The main thing is that your friend has taken pleasure from it which was surely the purpose of sending it.

I'd leave it a while and then say it was you. If the other person has accepted a gift in response they're going to look pretty stupid for it.

OneFrenchEgg · 22/04/2023 12:08

She didn't want credit for it! Have you understood the post?

Such a stupid question. People always ask that if they disagree on here. Next it will be 'are you the friend?' Which is obviously also hilarious.

Dontcutthedaisies · 22/04/2023 12:08

Don't worry, she'll see your message eventually and catch on to cheeky cow who is going to look silly.

NewLifter · 22/04/2023 12:11

Ahh your poor friend is now put in a very awkward situation! I would have either replied to her post or just let it go. I would be mortified now if I were her.

cottinger · 22/04/2023 12:11

this is so funny, I wish I was there to see the CF face when it was all found out

Gcsunnyside23 · 22/04/2023 12:12

Imagine taking the credit! Hope your friend sees your message soon and calls out the person who took credit

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 22/04/2023 12:12

OneFrenchEgg · 22/04/2023 12:08

She didn't want credit for it! Have you understood the post?

Such a stupid question. People always ask that if they disagree on here. Next it will be 'are you the friend?' Which is obviously also hilarious.

It wasn’t a case of people disagreeing with you. The OP wasn’t complaining that she didn’t get any credit - it’s about somebody else trying to do so.

ZenNudist · 22/04/2023 12:13

If she's not saying no it wasn't me she is implying it was her.

This is all a bit much. Better send it with your name on next time.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/04/2023 12:13

Can you put something like "LOL!! I know the person who actually sent it - they mentioned it to me, but did stress that they did not want to be acknowledged, as they said that the focus is on you and not on them" ?

The last part is just a nice PA smack in the face to cheeky credit-stealer!