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Someone's taken credit for anonymous treat!

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 10:56

Quick silly one but not sure what to do.

Friend has had a hard time so I've sent them a cream tea type surprise treat. Left the card anonymous but she finds it difficult to receive without reciprocating and I wanted her to have something just for her with no strings, to cheer her up.

She posts it on social media, another Friend (I don't know) comments, saying enjoy, glad you like, you deserve it type thing

My friend says ahhhh was it you, youre amazing

Other friend says wink wink it's anonymous so I guess you'll never know

Now, to me there alluding it was then. Taking all the bloody credit. I know I didn't send it for credit or even thanks but I'm a little pissed off!

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Doris86 · 22/04/2023 11:35

I’d just add another similar comment along the lines of ‘indeed, you will never know. Wink wink’

That will leave her guessing whether it was you, the other friend or someone else.

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:35

Doris86 · 22/04/2023 11:35

I’d just add another similar comment along the lines of ‘indeed, you will never know. Wink wink’

That will leave her guessing whether it was you, the other friend or someone else.

Grin
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BonnieGlasses · 22/04/2023 11:37

Ohhhhh that is one cheeky fucker! Do you know where they live? Sneak out in the dead of night, splat some jam on their doorstep and squash a scone into the middle of the jam puddle. They'll know what it means.
Wink

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:37

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 22/04/2023 11:29

Have you considered composing a Phoebe Buffay-style song called “Cream Tea Thieving Bitch” and posting a video of you performing it on Instagram? I’d do that.

(Well, I probably wouldn’t, but how good would it be?)

So funny!

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:38

BonnieGlasses · 22/04/2023 11:37

Ohhhhh that is one cheeky fucker! Do you know where they live? Sneak out in the dead of night, splat some jam on their doorstep and squash a scone into the middle of the jam puddle. They'll know what it means.
Wink

Start jam gate

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Hollyhead · 22/04/2023 11:38

I’d message the CF privately to say’omg you sent one too? Hope she doesn’t mind duplicate gifts’

RoseBucket · 22/04/2023 11:40

Oh yes I’d also say something like, you sent one also, great minds think alike (with a heart)

MRSDoos · 22/04/2023 11:40

This other friend is 100% hinting that they sent the gift. However, instead of writing anything on Facebook I would just message my friend that I hoped she liked the gift I sent and that she deserved it and that you’re thinking of her.

MILLYmo0se · 22/04/2023 11:41

I think you ll look silly if you comment on the post, we all know what the person is implying but they havent outright said it and will deny thats what they meant.
Personally i wouldnt messege her either, theres no logic to it. She ll know you say the post (like why would you bother sending it and anon and then msg 'oh btw i sent you a pressie' otherwise, makes no sense!) and its all just awkward
However if the topic came up at a later date Id certainly clarify it!

mainsfed · 22/04/2023 11:41

Did you tell her it was you?

Take the credit!

VanGoghsDog · 22/04/2023 11:42

Ask cheeky fucker where they ordered it from because it sounds lovely.

mainsfed · 22/04/2023 11:45

She’ll just lie though.

raincamepouringdown · 22/04/2023 11:46

Wow. She's clearly implying it was from her. Who does that???

I'd PM your friend.

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:49

So I've just messaged her, saying what's been suggested:

"Hope you enjoy the cream tea, I sent it because you're so lovely and deserve to enjoy something, just for you. I didn't want to tell you it was me, but I know If I didn't the mystery will keep you up at night! See you soon, Monsterss"

She's not seen the message yet! Hope she's not out buying cheeky cow some Prosecco

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RestingMurderousFace · 22/04/2023 11:49

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Perfect!

poppysockies · 22/04/2023 11:50

Very cheeky! Yet it seems petty to say something. Tricky.

Perhaps wait a couple of months and then say something to your friend?

AllIeveknewonlyou · 22/04/2023 11:50

I think you do need to let your friend know as you said she'll reciprocate. Not sure how though.

The other person has spoilt this a bit as the reason you left it anonymous was because you didn't want friend to reciprocate to you. It's like a present merry go round!

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:50

VanGoghsDog · 22/04/2023 11:42

Ask cheeky fucker where they ordered it from because it sounds lovely.

Tempted to reply, dm me if you want the link to buy one 😃

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Thegoodbadandugly · 22/04/2023 11:50

I know you don't want your friend to reciprocate but I really do think the other person is disgusting trying to take credit for it, I would say on the post I'm so glad you liked your cream tea I just wanted to cheer you up a bit! Let the cheeky fucker die of embarrassment. I really dislike things like that

ShowUs · 22/04/2023 11:51

I actually don’t think the friend is implying it was her.

She initially said enjoy etc which I think we all would.

Then when the friend asked if it was her what was she supposed to say?

I initially thought straight away that I’d say no it wasn’t me but whenever we do secret Santa and someone asks me if it was me I always say I can’t say to keep it anonymous.

So I don’t think this person was actually trying to be a CF.

I’m not sure what I’d do now though.

You didn’t want her to know it was from you so this has worked in your favour and so I’d probably just leave it.

Windbeneathmybingowings · 22/04/2023 11:52

My sister in law pulls this crap.

send the person who claimed it a copy of the Boy who cried Wolf - anonymously.

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Monstersinked · 22/04/2023 11:53

Bloody hell. She still hasn't ready WhatsApp but she tagged cheeky cow in the post now 😩

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Oldnproud · 22/04/2023 11:54

Doris86 · 22/04/2023 11:35

I’d just add another similar comment along the lines of ‘indeed, you will never know. Wink wink’

That will leave her guessing whether it was you, the other friend or someone else.

I think that is the best idea so far.

There's just a small chance that the person 'claiming' the glory genuinely didn't realize how her response would come across, that she really thought that she was just emphasising that it was anonymous, and not intending to take any credit - though that would seemed much more possible without the winks.

Anyway, this response would be good for either the innocent or the credit-grabbing interpretation. If she is innocent, she will just see you as doing the same as her, just going along with the anonymity, and if she is guilty, well, she knows you know. Plus your friend will no longer be sure who sent the gift, as you intended.

moonspiral · 22/04/2023 11:55

ShowUs · 22/04/2023 11:51

I actually don’t think the friend is implying it was her.

She initially said enjoy etc which I think we all would.

Then when the friend asked if it was her what was she supposed to say?

I initially thought straight away that I’d say no it wasn’t me but whenever we do secret Santa and someone asks me if it was me I always say I can’t say to keep it anonymous.

So I don’t think this person was actually trying to be a CF.

I’m not sure what I’d do now though.

You didn’t want her to know it was from you so this has worked in your favour and so I’d probably just leave it.

Say no not me but its a lovely idea?

Kanaloa · 22/04/2023 11:55

How embarrassing. What would possess you to try to (directly or indirectly) claim credit for a gift you didn’t give? It’s so selfish to the actual gift giver who did a selfless and thoughtful act.

I’m glad you said something but I’d be annoyed at the fake credit stealer, because she’s spoiled it for the friend.