To have nothing except work and sitting on the sofa?

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I'm so bored. I literally go to work, come home, make tea then sit watching tv all night. I spend the most of the weekend cleaning and shopping

What can I do thats for me? My DP has football and the gym and I've got nothing. I'm not really good at anything, don't have any talents or passions but I really want one!

Please help me find something that's just for me that will make me feel like I'm alive for reasons other than working and cleaning, even just for a little while

You don't need to be good at a hobby or have talent at it.

You just need to enjoy trying it.

Can you look back to a time when you did have things in your life you enjoyed, even in childhood? Did you like drawing? Building Lego? Board games?

Do you want to do activities with other people? Or solo hobbies at home like knitting/crafting?

Do you have any friends? What do you enjoy doing with them?

Do they have any hobbies you hear about and think "that sounds cool"?

Throw out your tv? Honestly, OP, imagine you’re on your deathbed — is there really nothing you’re going to want to have done?

Try some different things and see if you like it! What sort of thing do you want to do? Active? Arty? Social? What is available where you live? I enjoy walking, cycling and just now I am sewing a patchwork blanket from my daughters baby clothes. I've recently made my first jam and chutney, that's definitely something I'll be doing more of! I sound so boring and middle aged 😁

Have you considered joining a book club? Or running club?

Maybe try some different crafts and she what you like…

Good luck!

Read a book, for a start.

I was in the position of travelling into London for work and travelling home again and not taking advantage of the many events on offer. I decided to change this and started going out after work once a month or so. I started on my own but there’s now 4 of us who meet up. We’ve done art exhibitions, music gigs, comedy, burlesque, drinks etc etc. I have other friends that I go to book club with and tinker around with arts / crafts. ( I’m not great I just like playing around). I also go to a gym but that’s necessity not a hobby as such. Over the years I’ve also done a street dance class, netball, horse riding, knitting badly, black & white photography and sewing classes. I can’t wait to retire so I can try everything…. Start small op… maybe look at Meet-up.com.

Just try things till you find something you like.

Like joining a choir or a drama group book club Try to make a challenge whereby every month you try out a new thing. Ebentually

I go through phases. Knitting, cake decorating, gardening, home exercising candy crush.

im not brilliant at any of them but it keeps me out of trouble!

is there anything in particular you would like to change about yourself or learn?

Without sounding like a dick... Make yourself feel pretty? I don't mean sit at home slathering make up on...

Maybe watch a tutorial and shape your eyebrows? Put a fake tan on? Hair mask? Long bath with a magazine and a glass of fizz?

Why not pamper yourself? It's cheap, and you'll get better about yourself after, so maybe more inspired to do things out of the house?

After dinner stick your shoes on and go for a walk around your neighbourhood, look at the flowers in the gardens that always puts a smile on my face. I'm always so busy driving past I don't normally notice the care others take over their gardens. I don't have any gardening skill myself but I can appreciate others. Even if you only go out for 30 mins it'll break up the mundaneness of the evening.

I find I do this as work is so relentless. Every Friday morning I have an extra long "meeting" and I've done massages, even a stint of therapy and now I'm considering having someone over to teach me Pilates and stretching. You've got to make the time in a routine way - just for you. Then you can become really creative with what you fill that time with.

Join up with your local women’s rights network (WRN) branch and get out and meet some funny clever determined feminists

Join a club, it doesn't matter what it is as long as you think you'll enjoy it.

Is there a Women's Institue club near you? Theyre nirmally good to meet other women and learn about new things ir just meet for a coffee and chat.

How about going to an evening class at college for a small amount of money? My mate goes to Spanish classes, I did a teacher training course which was really fun, my friend teaches pilates and I've seen cookery courses too.

I personally like art - glass work is pretty easy and sewing/knitting crochet is relaxing and reasonably easy for beginners.

Join in g a gym is also a good way to meet people. Go to a different one to your DH though.

Well - you have a dp and that's one up on me !

I pretty much do the same and I embrace it . I love being by myself in bed with crap telly and the dogs and wine !

I do a pottery class for 2 hours once a week

I see friends
What more do you actually need?

Volunteer? There are so many organisations to get involved with, depending on your interests/time available/skills - it sounds cliched but I find it makes my week more worthwhile to know that I’ve helped someone else (and I enjoy it as well!).
https://www.ncvo.org.uk/get-involved/volunteering/want-to-volunteer/#/

If you’re unfit, start couch to 5k. I did this 18 months ago, now run 5 times a week, read about running, watch YouTube vids about running, plan my long run routes, stalk people on Strava, obsess about training plans, make new running playlists, people buy me running related Xmas and birthday presents. I’m not even much good at it! It’s great having a hobby though! And my kid thinks I’m amazing 😊

God I am like this. I like work but then after that I am quite lazy. I joined tennis but I always find a reason not to go.

I like wine and the pub... a bit too much... but that is not really a hobby.

Sewing tapestry and embroidery is quite nice to do and you can do it while watching telly!

Your post reminded me of myself except that I'm unable to work so don't have that outlet, I've been stagnating at home for years, I've a great dh but he's a bust my life through work and a vertmy time consuming hobby. Last year I decided I had to do something for myself, I joined a group on Facebook, its a women only group who meet to go hiking, swimming and camping, I've been camping with them a few times and the difference its made is incredible. Please try to find a group that suits your interests and if your not sure what they are try a few different ones. If I can so it you can, it scared me to begin with but now it's such a highlight when we meet up but apart from that today I had messages from one about her new dog, another about our next trip, another about the fact that we realised we used to live within a few miles of each other and had friends in common,its given me such a boost, please try it

I love gardening. Discovered it during Covid and now I prefer it to tv!

I think you need to get outside and into nature, especially now with Spring here. Research has shown that just one hour a week in a natural environment improves mental health. So just go to a park or local beauty spot once a week. That’s easily manageable.

Learn an instrument? The Simply Piano app is really good if you’re starting from scratch. It’s very fun and there’s real sense of progression.

Or, if you have a garden, use your summer evenings to potter about making it look beautiful. Become expert.

Could you convince your DP board game to join you in some board games? There’s lots more than monopoly these days.

Learn piano or guitar. It's so much fun.

Definitely take advantage of longer daylight and better weather to get outside more. Then you might find that, by autumn/winter, you've made habits and found interests to continue long term.

Running and walking are a good idea. Could you do couch to 5k then parkrun? What about going to the gym with DP? Or swimming? See what's on at your local leisure centres.

Or go to galleries, museums, country parks, buy National Trust or English Heritage membership and go to all the local places and further afield. You could do any of this alone or with your DP/friends.

Many local councils have litter picking groups or facilitate volunteers to do litter picking. Fresh air and exercise, along with doing good for the community.

Join a choir. Singing is good for physical and mental health and cognitive ability. There are plenty of parish and community choirs where you don't have to be able to sing (in the way that people think of singing - IMO pretty much everyone can learn to hold a tune with practice) or even necessarily read music. Choirs are usually very friendly groups too.

Or if doing something solo is your thing, how about having themed weeks? So one week you read up about a country that interests you, watch programmes and try recipes from that country, learn a few words of the language. The next week you could do a period from history. That sort of thing. If something interests you you can stick with it - otherwise you can learn all sorts of different things.