To have nothing except work and sitting on the sofa?

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I'm so bored. I literally go to work, come home, make tea then sit watching tv all night. I spend the most of the weekend cleaning and shopping

What can I do thats for me? My DP has football and the gym and I've got nothing. I'm not really good at anything, don't have any talents or passions but I really want one!

Please help me find something that's just for me that will make me feel like I'm alive for reasons other than working and cleaning, even just for a little while

Can u do a class on youtube

I used to be like you and then I had a baby. Now she's older I go to an exercise class one day, choir another and volunteer at DD's brownies as an owl. I also go to book club once a month and am learning to play the drums. I also go for daily walks.

Oh and I read a lot

I’m doing couch 2 5k for the third year in a row. Must try and make it consistent after this time

Find a choir that doesn’t take itself too seriously. Especially if you dont feel you can “sing”. They do exist (I’m in one) and it’s a fabulous way to make friends and have fun.

My life was similar, mainly due to having young DC and DH working nights (6-6 on a 4 on 3 off type shift pattern).
Now DC are teenagers I can do things for myself again!
I go swimming 2-3x week and do an exercise class most Saturdays.

I also have dogs and have recently started agility/ obedience training again in the hope that I can start completing towards the end of summer. (I did this pre DC).

You have all the fun of trying everything going now to decide . Look at what's on locally in library, Village Hall, rec Centre or whatever. Find every local club or activity or class. If you can't decide what to try pop them all in a hat

Oh I could have written this post! Nothing useful to add but some great suggestions that I will be borrowing though.

Join a friendly running club. The one I am in is really for all ages and sizes and abilities. Two of the really active members are morbidly obese!

If you haven’t got a bike I highly suggest cycling or joining a cycling club. I love my bike and can cycle for miles. There is also a great cycling club in our area.

Hill walking/walking trials that are flat. Also many great walking clubs too.

Gym/fitness classes, good way to make friends.

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Volunteer! There are so many organisations out there that you could volunteer your time. I was like this 2 years ago and volunteered with Samaritans. While Samaritans might not be for everyone, there are so many other organisations out there where you can help. You will get so much more than you give and make loads of new friends.

I think a lot of us get stuck with the mentality that we have to be good at something to do it. We really don’t. If you enjoy something it really doesn’t matter if you’re hopeless at it! Plus at the start you’re a beginner!
try different things even if you’re not sure you’ll like it. Be curious. If you hate it you don’t have to go again. There is so much to do out there and it’s exciting!! I used to think it was pointless learning something unless I was going to become an expert at it or earn money from it. But that thought process just stopped me trying new things. So now I just do things even if I’m rubbish at it (I’m trying to learn Japanese it’s so hard but it’s with a lovely group of ladies that I would never ever have met in my real life).

Good luck!!!

I’ve just started doing roller skating lessons and I love it. I’m not sporty in the slightest but I always loved skating as a kid. I’m now 48, the teacher is almost 80 so I don’t feel too bad! Another idea is to join a choir, there are lots of choirs out there that you don’t have to audition for if you don’t want to, and you don’t need to read music, such as Rock Choir. Whatever activity you choose, that will be your evening to have some me time, and he can be with the kids.

Go to the football with your partner at the weekends (coming from someone who loves footie). But other things I enjoy when the football isn't are swimming, meeting up with friends, visiting family and going on road journeys - hope that helps

If you don't know what you like yet how about getting this book as a starting point? I'm sure you'll find something that inspires you before you finish them all.
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I feel you. Life with kids, house and work is exhausting, and most evenjngs thats all i have energy for!
Try to free up your weekends a bit. If you an afford it, get a cleaner (best £30 per fortnight we ever spent). Do an online shop in front of the telly one evening, so all you have to do at the weekend is pick it up. Then, I just want to echo everyone else's views here, you have to find a hobby that it doesn't doesn't feel like an additional chore to do when you're exhausted and cba. Occasional wine nights with friends (either at home or in a pub) are one of my saviours (as is the gym, but I know that's not for everyone). Also trying to have a 'date night' with hubby once a week, when we eat a treat (either a takeaway, or a meal for £10 from tescos or somewhere) can liven up the week a bit.

Thank you so much for this!
I had to drop my weekly piano lesson last Oct because couldn't fit it in around new job schedule.
I've just downloaded the app and can't wait to try it out.

Trampolining, ice skating, choir, diving, octopush, women's institute, church/mosque/synagogue/gurdwara, girls guides/scouts, volunteering at a museum/theatre/zoo/food Bank/teeny local charity, knitting club, rock club, skateboarding, swimming, rock climbing, parcour, lindyhop, cinema, mensa, beekeeping, freemasonry, rotary club, warhammer.

Ooh, I forgot night school.

But seriously I would highlight volunteering as the best option. You get a warm fuzzy feeling, will ensure you make time for it as its not just yourself you'd be letting down and you'll meet new people which may turn into a new social scene.

There’s a charity called cinnamon trust, where once you pass their checks and provide references etc, they can call upon your help if there is someone local to you that requires their dog walking on a regular basis. They might be elderly, ill, recovering from an operation etc. That’s if you like dogs of course!

Also the gym? Lots of people think it’s not for them until they get into it. Swimming? I find them easier to fit round family life than having a commitment at a specific time each week. Beginners yoga or Pilates?

It’s easy to get in a rut. Try and meet
up with friends for an evening walk maybe? Organise a night out - doesn’t need to be anything big, I sometimes meet friends at a coffee shop that’s open in the evenings or we walk to a local pub for a glass of wine. Cinema? Read a book? Evening swim?

Me too.

What did you do for fun when you were 10? Then do that again. Adult colouring book clubs, ice skating, cycling ... the world is your oyster!

Or what would you have liked to do when you were young but you couldn't for whatever reason? Did you want to go to Brownies? Join the WI or try the Rebel Badge Book. Did you want to learn an instrument? Do it now!

Learn a language
Do an online course
Check local colleges for adult classes
Some libraries run book clubs, etc
Reading
Writing - try writing a poem or short story
Drawing
Any art and craft really, you don't start off skilled!
Single player board games