To have nothing except work and sitting on the sofa?

[overthinkersanonnymus]

I'm so bored. I literally go to work, come home, make tea then sit watching tv all night. I spend the most of the weekend cleaning and shopping

What can I do thats for me? My DP has football and the gym and I've got nothing. I'm not really good at anything, don't have any talents or passions but I really want one!

Please help me find something that's just for me that will make me feel like I'm alive for reasons other than working and cleaning, even just for a little while

During the winter I have started taking a couple online course on Udemy. They are for fun rather than career related. Also take a look at Eventbrite, there are some events on there for free that you can attend via Zoom.

During the summer I go for a walk and either bring or buy a coffee and sit in the park and listen to a podcast.

I keep an eye on what is on locally and if any event catches my interest I attend.

Gaming! do you have a console or a switch? Or even a laptop to play the Sims. How about baking brownies? And cookies/fudge etc. paint/redecorate the house. Gardening?

Without giving too much away, where do you live? There must be things to do. Even in the small town I grew up in there was plenty.

But I get it, my life is very similar. I WFH, DH comes home with DS, sort DS, cook dinner, then sit on the couch. This week I am going to start taking DS for a quick walk when he gets home. I live on a farm in the middle of no where and there is very little to do, but it is beautiful.

The garden is a good idea. I planted some strawberries yesterday and plan to plant more for summer. I find it very satisfying

I joined a local community choir. None of us can read music, so we only sing easy, uncomplicated stuff and it gets me out of the house once a week in the evenings.

It's also led onto me getting involved in other things, am-dram for one. Honestly, if anyone had told me 20 years ago that I'd be involved in amateur stage productions when I'm in my 60s I'd think they were mad. But here I am!

I am the devil for trying and abandoning hobbies... but I enjoyed tham all for a while !

Just try a thing, if it doesnt suit you, move on.

Yoga
Gym
Topiary
Reading
Crossstitch
Local history
Running
Baking
Diy
Swimming
home decor
Keep fit
Trampolining
Archery
Watercolours
Learn a language
Gardening
Nail art

Theres clubs, theres the internet, there's you tube vids, theres Random kits on ebay.

Jump in, nothing to lose!
xx

Find a political cause and become an activist.

I agree stop watching the TV !

Try some new things

Join local library

Join sports centre

Join groups

Go for walks, litter pick, geocache, take photos, paint

Do some crafts

Volunteer

Do some DIY or gardening

Set yourself a goal & achieve it !

Don't let being shite at something stop you doing it. That's basically the theme of my activities - I run (slowly) and sing in a choir (not very tunefully)

I think you should just try a load of stuff. Something will stick

Why not join a yoga or Pilates class if you don’t like sweaty physical fitness. You might meet some new people and you’ll feel stronger and leaner.

I felt like this, I don't have many friends in the area as I moved a few hours away from my home town. I ended up taking up archery which got me out of the house once a week on a weekday evening and for a few hours on a Sunday. It was relatively cheap to learn and it's a solo sport where you can interact as little as you want, or as much as you want! It's something a bit different.

You don't have to be good at whatever you pick up! I am the world's worst piano player - I've only ever learned one song all the way through and I've been playing over 20 years. I don't care, it makes me happy!

I also finished second last in a half marathon so am genuinely crap at running but again it made happy.

I used to only do stuff if I thought I'd be good at it - sucks the joy out of things.

Do your cleaning and shopping in the week (I love a 10pm) mooch in tesco; then book proper days out on the train or to NT at the weekends.

You were me until last October.
I joined a Community Choir (Not Rock Choir, too expensive and a bit too keen on you being able to really sing).
It’s so much fun, I have new friends and love it.
I’m no Celine Dion but can hold a note and it has changed my life.

Echoing what what some PP said, you don't have to be good at something to enjoy doing it.

I'm crap at singing but I book a booth at Lucky Voice only for myself every now and then and belt it out a selection of my favourite songs, it's my way to de stress. It's a good thing that the booths are soundproof 😅

There’s loads you can do and if you don’t like it try something else; exercise classes, dance classes, yoga, walking groups, WI, knitting/ crafts, volunteering locally, baking, rock choir, local evening classes (normally put on by the council), doing your family tree, reading, gardening 😀

I’m an introvert so your lifestyle doesn’t seem that phasing to someone who enjoys and needs their own company. The last time I felt ‘lacking’ I bought a cat and got an allotment. Beyond that and loving a good whodunnit on TV, I do jigsaw puzzles, listen to music and go on holidays in our tourer caravan! It honestly doesn’t have to be something massive or you become wildly talented at to be deemed worthwhile. I hated the gym, can’t play an instrument or a sport and socialising can be torture but I’ll never be bored in my own company and there’s not a chance on my deathbed I’ll look back and think less of myself for that.

It's just a matter of finding something that you like! I like to crochet, run (slowly), read and do those escape game boxes, but really it doesn't matter what you end up doing as long as you're excited about it. Some ideas might be jigsaw puzzles, a book club, a class (maybe sign language?), a boxed craft kit that already has everything that you need in it (I think Hobbycraft have some, like punch needle kits or felting).

You definitely don't need to be good, you just need to enjoy it. If it's too intimidating you could literally start by inviting a friend over to do something (play a board game, watch a film?) and if you don't enjoy it then at least you can have a natter instead.

A good podcast is fun so that you can learn something while e.g. cleaning. If you're looking for something new to learn about I really enjoy Art Detective with Dr Janina Ramirez - I didn't know a thing about art and it taught me loads!

I would honestly say push yourself. There's a big difference between resting and avoidance. The latter is really bad for your mental health. Definitely push yourself to join a gym or a class, or a walking group or something. Having something for yourself will do wonders.

I was shit at physical activity too - started with couch to 5k a few years ago and ended up getting a bit obsessed with running - 5 years later I was running 25k cross country routes I'd planned myself a couple of times a week. Then lockdown happened, then I got pregnant, have an 18 month old and currently a bit jealous of your "too much free time" 😜

Go for a walk and listen to a podcast.

Oh if you don't have time or money for a dog but like them, you could try dog walking for Cinnamon Trust or even sign up to Borrow My Doggy. That'll get you out and about and you'll have some nice furry companionship😊

Most areas have a local women's institute that meet up once a week, they are filled with mature (not old) ladies that are interesting and full of fun. They bring all sorts of people in to give talks and demonstrations, they fund raise and have trips and outings, they organise voluntary work and generally have a blast.

Try an exercise class like zumba or aerobics. Look for evening school classes like a MFL or dress making. You’ll find you end up chatting with others whilst there. Good luck op x

Urgh. Stuff like this is usually an introverts hell

Try horse riding. Escapism at its best!