To want to pay for the cracked plate?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I are staying in a holiday cottage for the week. We paid around £500 for the week, its in a nice area down south.

Tonight I have accidentally cracked one of the plates. I think it happened because I put it in the microwave. I have to have my food hot in order to eat it so I microwaved the last half of my meal. This is something I do often at home and have never cracked a plate, apart from one time a few years ago with some very cheap plates from The Range. I put it down to them being cheap and so cracked easily. However, the plate that has cracked in the cottage looks like a nice one. Its one of those that are hand painted (fruit).

Anyway, I did a quick Google to try gauge the value and it seems you can get a painted fruit plate for £10. I personally wouldn't pay more than £10 for the plate in question, so when I told DP what had happened I suggested we buy some superglue when we're out tomorrow and do our best to mend it, but that we also leave behind £10 so that if they notice the crack and want a new one they can buy another plate.

DP is annoyed about the plate being cracked and it put a downer on our evening because he's stressed about us possibly being charged. He doesn't agree we should leave the £10, he thinks we should hide the plate and hope they don't notice. He says he's annoyed at my suggestion of supergluing it AND leaving behind money because he says the only reason you would superglue is if you week going to try disguise it, as he thinks we should do, so why would you also leave money?
He thinks the plate is worth more than £10. I said that if the plate is worth more than £10 they shouldn't have left it in a holiday cottage that they rent out. This made him more annoyed and he said they were trying to make the place nice by equipping it with nice plates and they don't expect people to break them...

He also got annoyed with me because when I was washing the plate, a little bit on the edge where it was cracked got washed off (I hooked it out of the sink and put it back on there, so we could superglue it). He says I wasn't being careful enough. But when the plate was on the table and he was inspecting the crack he kept picking at the bit on the edge. I told him not to and that it would cause it to come off but he kept picking. Then, when it did come off whilst I was washing it he said it was my fault for not washing it carefully enough!

I ended up coming upstairs to bed because I didn't want an argument, but am now lying on the bed listening to him walk around downstairs muttering things under his breath, one of the being 'beyond help...beyond help'.

AIBU to think he is overreacting a bit and we could just superglue and leave behind £10 as a good will gesture, or is this a bigger deal than that and he has a right to be annoyed with me and also think I'm being U for wanting to leave the £10?

Your DH sounds like an arse!

I agree! That has stood out to me the most!

Its a plate... put it in the bin and move on. Tell the owner a plate accidentally broke. Non issue!

If you broke the bed or something it would be different

Such a minor thing! Holiday cottages expect the odd breakage of plates etc. If you're feeling nice then just leave a note and a bit of money when you leave. It's literally something that doesn't need more than 30 seconds of 'Oops, better leave a note about that' and then onwards. He sounds an absolute drama queen.

Why would you put a hand painted plate in the microwave???
Superglue fix is ridiculous! Just message/ring the owners and let them know. Sheesh .. sounds like you’re just trying to avoid paying a breakage charge for something that was clearly your fault 🙄

Just tell the owner about the cracked plate and send a picture.

Don’t offer money. They will tell you what they expect.

If you leave £10 and they demand more money from you later, your £10 will have been wasted as there’s no proof you left it.

Bloody hell what a lot of drama over a plate. Just leave the £10. He can't tell you what to do.

We've broken a few things over the years - a couple of glasses, a mug, and I scorched a tea towel (not all on the same holiday). On each occasion I've picked up as close a replacement I could in the local shops, and emailed to say I'd done this and to let me know if anything else was needed.

The owners have always been very understanding, thanked me for the replacement and left it at that.

Oh and stop supergluing plates on holiday. It's bonkers.

The odd accidental breakage is just wear and tear on the property. The owner should account for this in their overall business model and shouldn’t charge.
I would let them know so they can replace it though.

Doe she normally react like that to minor issues? That is not normal.

Thinks get broken in a holiday let much as it happens at home. I am sure if you leave a note and the £10 to cover the plate then there will be no issue. As someone else suggested maybe text the owner if the plate numbers are limited.

Do not superglue it, it will crack again and someone could be eating off their laps and get burnt.

Honestly though I think that you are both massively overacting about a relatively minor issue.

I've broken 3 plates over the years.
Two owners thanked me for telling them and said not to worry.
We left some cash for the third as we couldn't get in touch.

It happens. Most houses now are mainly filled with IKEA as cheap and cheerful. It's one of the costs of doing business.

The red flag for me is not the plate it’s your relationship as unfort your do does not sound very nice.
i would think owners would expect someone at some time to have breakage so I would not give it

If you leave £10, the cleaner may think it’s a tip for them and possibly not even read the note.

Email the owner!

Does your DH get annoyed by you heating your food? It’s just it sounds like this is annoyance tipping over rather than a once off. I have a similar relationship where the person goes off on one for something I consider quite minor. Don’t let it ruin your holiday but he does sound very ott

It's really not a big deal....it must come with the territory, but the bigger problem is why your OH is making you feel like shit, over something so minor in the grand scheme of things? It's like he's glad to have something to belittle you with.

I'd stop talking with him about it and just leave some money and a note explaining what happened.

I wouldn’t even leave the £10 - the rental must factor in a factor to cover breakages and it would be ridiculous to put anything expensive in a rental anyway.

I'd just apologise profusely to the owner and ask if I could leave money to replace it. I wouldn't give it any other thought. I can't believe it ruined your evening.

That's a very long post over a cracked plate.
It's a plate and these things happen. Leave the cracked plate, £5 and a note saying sorry it got broken

oh my goodness the stress! It’s one cracked plate. Message the owner, say sorry and ask for them to let you know what you owe for the plate. If they want a decent review (which they will) they will say not to worry.

We have a holiday rental and are always pleased if someone messages us and apologizes, we have never charged anyone for anything like a plate. We do get fed up when people don't tell us or steal things. And yes owners do warn each other but not about broken plates. 😂

What a monumental fuss about nothing.

Holiday lets expect a certain amount of breakage of plates and glasses. I wouldn’t give it another thought.

Go to a charity shop they are full of painted plates it’s an old worn plate breakages happen it’s not kryptonite! Enjoy the rest of your holiday.

I suspect some back story in that DP finds this insistence on microwaving food halfway through a meal to be very irritating/an annoying affectation, and that's the real source of the annoyance and not the actual plate itself.

You might find yourself in breach of the law on sharing peoples' data under the Data Protection Act, let alone defamation.