Friend told daughter to 'fuck off and die'

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My daughter and her friend are both 10, unbeknownst to me yesterday whilst I was in the shower, they pranked called a few of my friends. I found out because one of my friends text me to tell me. I said no more and that was that.

This morning daughter says to me, 'when we prank called your friend, 'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

I wasn't really sure how to handle the situation as they obviously shouldn't have been prank calling but also I think it's pretty obvious they are children.

So I text Pete and the messages went like this -

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday, she said her and her friend prank called you yesterday, I didn’t know. Did you not realise it was her I presume? Xx

Pete - I didn't until she said her name!!! My intuition was right!!!

I don't really know what he means but I feel really uncomfortable about this.

Am I being dramatic? Should I leave it at that? Is it their own fault for prank calling?

Wow

thats awful

you must be mortified your kid behaved so badly.

id be making her buy cards with her pocket money and writing an apology to each person she prank called

its obnoxious behaviour

If that's how you communicate displeasure to other ppl (who are likely to be kids) you need to amend your vocab.

He's a nasty ott bastard.

Course you would.

Disagree about not joking about murder and suicide. Black humour has a useful role in helping people deal with difficult subjects. But it’s not relevant because there’s no joke about suicide here. Not being literal isn’t the same thing as joking.

So no apology ?

Silly and innocent?

She took her mum's phone without permission. She used her mum's contact list to prank call several people. I bet they didn't only call once either . We only have her word that it was about buying a cat for £1.50.

Can you imagine getting those calls at the worst time of your life? Or when you're trying to sleep after a night shift ? Or when you've just managed to settle a screaming,crying baby?

This thread is bonkers and quite upsetting. sometimes parents of very young children see ten year olds as being much more mature than they are. But when your kids are older (like mine) you realise that ten year olds are still babies. That’s the only thing I can think of to explain the comments!

Pete sounds aggressive and unpleasant and I wouldn’t remain friends with him.

Prank calls aren't funny.

Your DD is old enough to know better and I would be giving her a consequence for her behaviour.

Because I checked my call log...

Have you made her ring each friend to apologise ?

I used to volunteer for Childline, we had a regular weirdo called the Nappy Man , he sounded like a child , until he asked us to change his nappy in his normal voice. <shudder >

So, has Pete accepted your apology ?

He may not have been aware it was a child on the phone. It isn't always immediately apparent especially if the kid was putting on a posh accent or whatever. Obviously not ideal but that's what happens when you make prank calls. It pisses people off and wastes their time so of course they can react angrily.

And I don’t think it’s a good idea to teach your DD to apologise to someone who tells her to fuck off and die. That would not be a good life lesson at all.

When you see scary Pete, and he's walking down the street, you walk the other way...

If you checked your call log surely they didn't withhold the number so your friends would have been fairly confident who it was?

Because I checked my call log...

At any point since discovering these prank calls have you reached out to your friends to apologise?

So have you told your child not to do that again and apologised for her prank calling your friends?

Doing it once is bad enough

doing it repeatedly is deliberately making a nuisance of yourself and she needs to apologise to each person

I don't think it's a good idea to teach your child that they can harass who they want and expect no repercussions

So instead of telling off your little precious brat DD you immediately phone Pete to have it out with him? I'm guessing his intuition was right because he knows what a delight your DD is.
Jeez woman, parent your child.

OP, is it in fact you that is ten?

i have older children, and my first reaction would have been to talk to them about their behaviour. If Pete knew they were 10 years old and said what he did then that's not good, and i'd have taken him to take too. But at 10 they are legally responsible so even if OP wants to have a go at Pete, which would be fair enough, she also needs to ensure DD takes responsibility and stop portraying her as an innocent victim

OP you should be mortified about your kids behaviour not annoyed at Pete! If you play with fire, you're going to get burned. If you won't teach her that lesson, at least he has.

I think that people need to realise that other people won't cut their kids the same sort of slack they would, when intentionally misbehaving and annoying other people.

Your vocabulary and standards might not allow for telling a dear wee poppet who is just doing a sweet and innocent prank call, 'fuck off and die'. That doesn't mean that others do (or should) share the same standards.

So if you're going to get hurt and offended when someone does have that response to your dear wee poppet doing a sweet and innocent prank call - make sure that you are aware this reaction is possible, and that your dear wee poppet is aware too.