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Friend told daughter to 'fuck off and die'

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leepingup · 16/04/2023 17:20

My daughter and her friend are both 10, unbeknownst to me yesterday whilst I was in the shower, they pranked called a few of my friends. I found out because one of my friends text me to tell me. I said no more and that was that.

This morning daughter says to me, 'when we prank called your friend, 'Pete' he told us to 'fuck off and die' three times.'

I wasn't really sure how to handle the situation as they obviously shouldn't have been prank calling but also I think it's pretty obvious they are children.

So I text Pete and the messages went like this -

Me - Hey did you say to Amelia to go fuck herself and die yesterday, she said her and her friend prank called you yesterday, I didn’t know. Did you not realise it was her I presume? Xx

Pete - I didn't until she said her name!!! My intuition was right!!!

I don't really know what he means but I feel really uncomfortable about this.

Am I being dramatic? Should I leave it at that? Is it their own fault for prank calling?

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Gondala · 16/04/2023 18:37

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:33

I honestly didn't think prank calls were that big a deal which warranted apologies. Of course if they were phoning others in their class bullying/winding up, that's one thing. But they called grown adults asking if they wanted to buy a cat. It doesn't seem that serious. Of course I've told her it won't happen again or there will be consequences but I don't think it's a massive deal like y'all are making out.

OK well it is a big deal and most 10 year old wouldn't dream of doing it. Maybe to their friends but not their parent's friends.

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leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:38

GoodChat · 16/04/2023 18:36

What else did they say, OP?

They obviously didn't end the call after asking if they wanted to buy a cat.

It's fine, all sorted with Pete. Thanks guys. I hope your kids go through their lives without any issues or rule breaking. Good luck.

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DHsPoorBack · 16/04/2023 18:38

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:33

I honestly didn't think prank calls were that big a deal which warranted apologies. Of course if they were phoning others in their class bullying/winding up, that's one thing. But they called grown adults asking if they wanted to buy a cat. It doesn't seem that serious. Of course I've told her it won't happen again or there will be consequences but I don't think it's a massive deal like y'all are making out.

Well, now you know the decent thing is for your DD to apologise, to each person she prank called. We all know you won't make her. But just so you know, it is the decent thing to do. Not just declare "it's not that bad" and there's "consequences if it happens again.". There should be consequences now.

Also, a very good point, is your number is in Pete's phone. It came up on his caller display as you. He didn't realise it was your DD. You have twigged he thought it was you, and was telling you to fuck off and die, right? totally understandable Pete

Jonei · 16/04/2023 18:39

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:33

I honestly didn't think prank calls were that big a deal which warranted apologies. Of course if they were phoning others in their class bullying/winding up, that's one thing. But they called grown adults asking if they wanted to buy a cat. It doesn't seem that serious. Of course I've told her it won't happen again or there will be consequences but I don't think it's a massive deal like y'all are making out.

Clearly your pal Pete didn't feel the same way as you.

I wouldnt be too impressed either with the prank phone calls.

Minfilia · 16/04/2023 18:40

So there are no consequences/punishments for prank calling, just you taking issue with the recipients reaction and blaming him?

I can’t think why your daughter is the way that she is 🤔

Lulabelleblue · 16/04/2023 18:40

I would let it go if it was just 'fuck off' in response to a prank call. But 'go fuck yourself and die' is a bit much if you can hear children's voices.

DangerNoodles · 16/04/2023 18:41

This thread is bonkers and quite upsetting. sometimes parents of very young children see ten year olds as being much more mature than they are. But when your kids are older (like mine) you realise that ten year olds are still babies. That’s the only thing I can think of to explain the comments!

My son is 10 in a few months, he knows that my phone is mine and it is private. He doesn't go near it unless I ask him to pass it to me or if he needs to call an ambulance and he doesn't know my password. We have talked about prank calls before and games like knock down ginger and he knows they are not OK. 10 year olds aren't babies, you are insulting thier intelligence.

Gondala · 16/04/2023 18:41

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:38

It's fine, all sorted with Pete. Thanks guys. I hope your kids go through their lives without any issues or rule breaking. Good luck.

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Everyone comes against issues parenting but it is our job to deal with them so they learn right from wrong.

bellac11 · 16/04/2023 18:42

I dont even believe this happened anyway.

Original poster
leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:43

bellac11 · 16/04/2023 18:42

I dont even believe this happened anyway.

Ballache

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Mycathatesmecuddling · 16/04/2023 18:45

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:43

Ballache

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Yes your behaviour is absultely better than Petes

threecupsofteaminimum · 16/04/2023 18:45

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:33

I honestly didn't think prank calls were that big a deal which warranted apologies. Of course if they were phoning others in their class bullying/winding up, that's one thing. But they called grown adults asking if they wanted to buy a cat. It doesn't seem that serious. Of course I've told her it won't happen again or there will be consequences but I don't think it's a massive deal like y'all are making out.

No wonder she's pulling this type of behaviour with you setting an example. Confused

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leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:45

I've already given proof that is real if people don't believe then report.

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Againstmachine · 16/04/2023 18:45

Your kids behaviour was appealing but you call them prank calls ,they shouldn't be calling anyone. And you don't think they deserve a apology.

Not being nasty but parent your kids, stop them access to your phone.

OMGitsnotgood · 16/04/2023 18:45

. I hope your kids go through their lives without any issues or rule breaking.

oh, they didn't. But i made them face the consequences rather than blaming other people.

BringtheJury · 16/04/2023 18:47

Glad it's all sorted with Pete , what did you say to him to sort it out?

TorchwoodWho · 16/04/2023 18:47

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:45

I've already given proof that is real if people don't believe then report.

I can see why she does things like this without fear of any consequences...

AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 16/04/2023 18:48

. I hope your kids go through their lives without any issues or rule breaking.

She didn't,she doesn't and she won't. That's why I have boundaries and consequences for her.

Viviennemary · 16/04/2023 18:48

I would be concerned two ten year olds would think it is ok to make not one but several prank calls. Are they usually so naughty

AprilFool23 · 16/04/2023 18:49

Sisisimone · 16/04/2023 18:34

Completely agree. Some of these responses are awful.

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MN seems to be full of goady trolls today.

threecupsofteaminimum · 16/04/2023 18:51

To add, I was on the receiving end of a prank call aged about 14 after having my photograph in the local paper. It really unsettled me.

@Viviennemary but the sounds of the mother, it's run of the mill.

mbosnz · 16/04/2023 18:51

Yeah, my kids have definitely broken rules. They have been told in no uncertain terms that what they did was unacceptable, and actions have consequences.

Jonei · 16/04/2023 18:52

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:43

Ballache

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Eww. Do you say that to little Amelia?

Lizzt2007 · 16/04/2023 18:57

TwoFluffyDogsOnMyBed · 16/04/2023 18:20

This thread is bonkers and quite upsetting. sometimes parents of very young children see ten year olds as being much more mature than they are. But when your kids are older (like mine) you realise that ten year olds are still babies. That’s the only thing I can think of to explain the comments!

Pete sounds aggressive and unpleasant and I wouldn’t remain friends with him.

10 year olds are not babies. They are certainly old enough to know right from wrong and understand consequences. Quite frankly if I was Pete I'd be cutting contact with op who cared little enough for my personal info that her child was able to get her phone, share it with a friend and prank call me.

SecretiveSquirrel · 16/04/2023 19:01

leepingup · 16/04/2023 18:38

It's fine, all sorted with Pete. Thanks guys. I hope your kids go through their lives without any issues or rule breaking. Good luck.

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Yep. Happy young adults here with no history of prank calling. I would have hit the roof had they done this. But I know they would not have dreamed of it. Not at 10, 15 or 20.

Do you think you have learned something useful from this thread and will amend your parenting strategy accordingly?