To be gutted horrible aunt inherits grandad's money

[Peachypear10]

My uncle tragically died unexpectedly. No will, so everything goes to his wife of 6 years. I got on with him well, and while we weren't super close, we were regularly in touch. Unfortunately his wife is an unashamedly nasty piece of work. Was convinced she was with him for his money. Not sure why they were together but hey ho.

Anyway, I don't care that I didn't inherit from my uncle. What bothers me is that my uncle (as well as me and my mum) each inherited £200k last year after my granddad died. My uncle was quite wealthy so his inherited money was just sitting in a savings account.

My grandad was the nicest, kindest man, had time for everyone. We loved him to bits and miss him loads. But uncle's wife barely ever said a word to my grandad, and looked down on him because he was 'simple and common' in her words. At his funeral she made totally inappropriate, 'jokey' mocking remarks about his clothes and home (ie. mocking a 95yo man with dementia). I'm just gutted she's now inherited my grandad's money when she's so nasty, it's so unfair. She's mentioned to another relative that she's going to spend this specific money on renovating the second holiday home she owns, and she's going to buy a new horse and a horsebox. I just can't believe this is happening, it's just so unfair. Aibu to be upset and any advice to make peace with this?

She didn't inherit your grandfathers money. She inherited her husbands money. It stopped being your grandfathers the moment your uncle took possession of it.

Yes your grandfather left his money to who he wanted to leave it to. That’s what you have to focus on.As did your uncle. I’ve not done my will yet, but I’m well aware that it would all go to my husband, which is what my will would say anyway.

Another thing to focus on is that you don’t need to stay on contact with her anymore.

I'm sorry you lost your uncle and your grandfather you never ever need to see this woman again.

Now that your uncle has died the chord is cut connecting you with his widow. You don’t need to concern yourself about her and whatever she does.

Inheritances are just are just a massive web of emotions. She inherited fair and square. Did she deserve the money? Probably not. You have to take a deep breath and let it go. Don't stress yourself with things you can't control.

Who deserves an inheritance? Why is she any more or less deserving than anyone else? It is just the luck of life

You sound a bit grabby about your grandfather's money, to be fair. It's absolutely NONE of your business.

Your uncle made his choice of wife and that’s just the way it goes.
All that is happening here is you getting wound up. Let it go and use your inheritance wisely.

"Anyway, I don't care that I didn't inherit from my uncle."

Big of you 🙄

Why would you have thought that she wouldn't inherit her husband's money? That obviously includes any money he has previously inherited. You can now cut contact with his wife.

It really does sound like you were expecting some kind of inheritance- when my uncles have died previously I haven't even thought about who gets their money, even the child free ones.

This ^. It was her husband's money at the time of his death.

YABU. It's her husbands money that she's inherited and she's lost him suddenly after just 6 years of marriage

Kindly, she didn't inherit a penny from your Grandad, she inherited her husbands money which was his choice. You need to move on. Sorry for your loss.

You don't sound much better using language like that

But thems the breaks unfortunately. Take heart that your Grandparents money was left how they intended it.

Legally she’s entitled to inherit it even if she is morally bankrupt. Few people seem to be happy with the way inheritance is given out but that’s life.

My DF’s wife told me twenty years ago “you do know all you’re getting is X in our Will.” She told me when my DF was out of the house and ‘X’ is pretty much nothing, which means she will end up with almost everything and a very wealthy woman (she is much, much younger than DF so he’s more likely to pass away before her). A few years later she brainwashed him to cut me out of his life. They make a great pair - yet another spineless man kowtowing to his DW and cutting out his DC for his life. You couldn’t make it up.

I understand how you feel. Focus on the fact that your grandpa got to give the money to whom he wanted, and was unaware of what she said about him etc.

Jeez Louise, you inherited £200k. Why are you even giving this head space? Live your lovely lucky life and give over inventing daft grievances. And maybe give a bit to a food bank or something.

Well, galling that it is that she is such a crass woman, presumably your lovely grandad loved your uncle, and for better or worse, your uncle married his wife and didn’t make a will.

Your grandad left the money to your uncle unconditionally, whatever his choice in wife.

Had your uncle been organised enough to make a will, do you think he would have left all his assets and money to his wife? Does he have children?

I think you just have to reflect on the fact that your grandad left his money to those he loved, and none of us can control our money down the generations after we are gone.

No she doesn't. Not once has OP implied that she wants the money, just that she's gutted that this nasty cow has it.

YABU.

YOU may not like her it you’re grandad lost his son, and she is his wife. It’s very customary to leave inheritance this way.

The upset about buying a horse and decorating is a bit weird - what did you expect her to buy with it?

You sound lovely

OP I can understand why you are upset. She sounds a nasty piece of work. I think you just need to block her on social media etc and forget about her. It's the best way to move on.

I'm sorry for your loss