To be gutted horrible aunt inherits grandad's money

[Peachypear10]

My uncle tragically died unexpectedly. No will, so everything goes to his wife of 6 years. I got on with him well, and while we weren't super close, we were regularly in touch. Unfortunately his wife is an unashamedly nasty piece of work. Was convinced she was with him for his money. Not sure why they were together but hey ho.

Anyway, I don't care that I didn't inherit from my uncle. What bothers me is that my uncle (as well as me and my mum) each inherited £200k last year after my granddad died. My uncle was quite wealthy so his inherited money was just sitting in a savings account.

My grandad was the nicest, kindest man, had time for everyone. We loved him to bits and miss him loads. But uncle's wife barely ever said a word to my grandad, and looked down on him because he was 'simple and common' in her words. At his funeral she made totally inappropriate, 'jokey' mocking remarks about his clothes and home (ie. mocking a 95yo man with dementia). I'm just gutted she's now inherited my grandad's money when she's so nasty, it's so unfair. She's mentioned to another relative that she's going to spend this specific money on renovating the second holiday home she owns, and she's going to buy a new horse and a horsebox. I just can't believe this is happening, it's just so unfair. Aibu to be upset and any advice to make peace with this?

Maybe, timing seems convenient though, they were loaded, she could have gone anytime, so I’ll stick with nasty bitch

What? I haven’t name changed, you can ask mnhq.

That was for @Soontobe60

Desperate? Or just pointing out facts?

6 years is not new by any stretch of the imagination.

It doesn’t matter how long she knew the grandad for.

No we don’t know if everyone was uncomfortable. That’s what you said. I pointed out that you made that up.

I don’t know why you keep making things up and insisting it’s the truth.

Why would I relate to the wife?

A wife of six years standing is as much a "new" wife as a six year old child is a new baby.

She sounds awful, I don't blame you

We only have the ops word who clearly hates her and wants the money to take for it.

Hardly reliable.

@SnarkyBag “holding on to anger is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies”. You got the quotation I was looking for when I mentioned the two graves - better than me 🌷

@OP - I will just say once more Grandad left you and your DM 2/3 of his estate. Once he left that other 1/3 to his son , it was never your money so what he did ( Uncle ) with it might irritate you but who knows what he would have done with it otherwise . Ignore the woman and please try to leave it behind you. see Snarkybag's quotation.

You're not being unreasonable in your feelings. It's not like you're trying to sue this lady or something. But you ARE allowing this gold digger to live rent-free in your head which is only robbing you of your peace. Your uncle should have seen her for what she was but he didn't. Your grandfather left his family an inheritance which in turn, was left to his family's family. That it. The End. Be glad she's no longer family and keep moving.