To think being a housewife might be nice ?

[Felixss]

I'm on leave I've managed to get the housework done the deep cleaning , decluttered, sorted my clothes and 3 tip runs. I've washed the covers on the sofa and got through a mountain of laundry. Food shop delivered, put away and ordered DDs new shoes. I'm going to sand down and paint DDs chest of drawers. To top it off I've cooked a lovely healthy meal for the family.
I feel really pleased I've managed to do all the jobs I've been meaning to do. I'm always snowed under stressed from work and end up not doing it all. I do have a cleaner but they don't do the nitty gritty really.

AIBU to think being a house wife actually might be nice ? Less pressure and you can complete all the home stuff at your leisure. 🤣 I wouldn't do this as I've worked so hard to get where I am but I can see why it might be tempting.

I hate that my house is a bloody mess ALL THE TIME, even tho we tidy when we have time so sometimes I really think I want to not work so my house is clean! But also I really love my business even tho it's a struggle at the min trying to stay afloat after everything but I couldn't give it up. So I'll live in squalor 😂. I do think if I still did my old job working for someone else I would probably have given it up to be a housewife

I am a housewife and sahm. I love it and am never bored. I always have more things that I want to do than there's time available.

But exercising, pursuing hobbies, learning new skills, volunteering and socialising is not being a housewife. That's being a lady of leisure. And quite frankly if I was the partner out working all day knowing my partner was at home learning new skills, doing hobbies and socialising it would thoroughly piss me off!

I did it for 6 years whilst we lived abroad. DC were late teens. It was amazing. I love my job but that time was absolutely the best!

That's what it is. My house was just swarming in clutter I keep saying I'm going to do this then I'm too knackered and CBA. I have done so many trips to the tip , deep cleans and my house feels lovely. I wish I had more leave to get on top of everything. I do have cleaners but unless I hired them for 10 hours a week I still have stuff to do.

Same here.

Then there is the thing about contributing to society, to make a difference. Lucky there are people who still do.

What if the partner was happy for the wife to do that? For example, he’s a workaholic and she’s supported his career by providing childcare and covered everything at home whilst he repeatedly gets promoted. (This isn’t me btw).

Cleaning doesn’t take the whole day so of course that isn’t the only thing they are doing.

I just don’t get the whole ‘boring’ part. The cleaning and laundry etc needs to be done whether you work or not. When I worked full time I was doing it at 9pm. When I was at home it was quite nice to do it quickly in the morning then get on with other non-boring stuff like exercise. My DH would never get cross with me for exercising. I’m part time now but still very happy I’m not rushing around and doing laundry at 9pm.

And yes I’m sure some posters on here are ladies of leisure. Good for them. If their husbands are fully supportive. It’s like retiring early. They’ll have to cover the household/kids stuff but then their time is their own. That’s not boring.

You’re saying this as a woman (I assume). Many men are perfectly happy for their wives to do this.

@Delatron if the roles were reversed the man would be called a cocklodger.

Oh my days 😂. I never cease to be amazed by the ways women find to try bring other women down. I’m kind of tempted to tell you how I made enough money to afford this lifestyle, it would knock your riposte sideways. But I rather like this current username.

“Contributing to society”, “make a difference”. Sheesh 😂

Yep you can call it what you like. I’m sure many men and woman are perfectly happy with that set up.

Like I said, it’s not my set up. But it doesn’t sound boring to me. That’s my point. You don’t need to spend all day polishing your sink.

It would piss me off too.

It sounds boring to me. Though that would be just one of the many reasons why it wouldn't be for me.

I’m sure if the husbands were pissed off they would have the discussion and the wives would go back to work. Most couples decide between them what would work for their family.

I’d be pissed off too if I was working all hours and DH was exercising and socialising. But many men are fine for their wives to do this. For whatever reason.

Normally on weekends I join in with the DIY working on refurbishing the house and garden but recently I hurt my back so I had to leave DH to do some outside jobs and I have used the weekends to cook and sort out and clean the house. It has been surprisingly nice and very relaxing and it did make me think about getting a dog and being a SAHW but I think that the novelty would wear off and although we could afford it, it seems a bit mean to expect DH to subsidise me.

I did it for about 3 months and was bored off my noggin after about 2 weeks. I can totally see why women were addicted to gin and Valium in the ‘70s. I had absolutely nothing of interest to talk about, and the power imbalance became really tricky. My DH prized me for my brain, and had absolutely no interest in me waxing lyrical about ruining furniture by painting it.

I would love too but sadly cant afford it.

But exercising, pursuing hobbies, learning new skills, volunteering and socialising is not being a housewife. That's being a lady of leisure. And quite frankly if I was the partner out working all day knowing my partner was at home learning new skills, doing hobbies and socialising it would thoroughly piss me off!
Same here.
I'd struggle to find a partner attractive if he expected me to work full time and financially keep him so he could drift around the house and living a life of leisure. It wouldn't feel like a partnership and I'd view him as a cocklodger.

If you’re in that position you just might be rather amazed of how our family live, but yes, still we do feel it’s nice to contribute to society. Nothing to do with women, I’m lucky to live in an equal country. Sheesh. 😂

I do wonder how easy that would actually be to bring it up, especially if the wife disagrees and/or the husband knows how much his wife would prefer to be at home.

Interesting thread! We have 3 DC and I would LOVE to be a sahm but finances would not allow it. Not forever as I have worked hard to get to where I am career wise (a degree, masters and professional qualification) but just whilst they are small as I feel I struggle to balance everything and it's detrimental to my mental health. I feel like I'm doing a rubbish job of both elements of my life and am always stressed and rushing.

If I could find a man rich and stupid enough to fund my entire extravagant lifestyle out of his salary then yes! He’d need to work away for 99% of the year too if possible

I’m pretty sure they’d make their feelings known, in some way.

Some men are probably happy for their wives to take care of things at home whilst they focus on their career. This is not unheard of really is it? Just because many don’t agree with it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t work for many couples.

Of course.