No I don't feel pressure from DH. But I do feel self-pressured I suppose. I love a quiet day with very little housework and admin done. But I'm always pissed off with myself the following day when I'm playing catch up. I find it hard to relax if there's still a job to be done.
I'm sure DH sometimes looks at me doing my nails (got a full gel set up at home, something else I've learned to do since being a housewife, which has already paid for itself and I really enjoy doing) and thinks, "pah, alright for some" whilst he's got a client giving him shit down the phone. But then I think the same when he's off at client expense to fancy restaurants in London and I'm having a cheese toastie before bed. I hate this idea that he's just there to earn money and I'm just there to mop. God forbid either of us take a break and enjoy the perks of our roles. We don't resent each other. We just have different perks.
*I also wonder from the description on these threads what hw/sahm think working parents do.
They always describe these activities that take up their whole day's as though they are completely unique to them.*
Having been a full on career girl with 1st DS in full time nursery from 3mths, and subsequently a housewife, with toddler twins (nursery 4 days a week, but shorter days) it's easy to explain, because I thought the same. "What are these women doing at home all day, because I work full time and get all that done too". The major difference is the quality of what you get done. The extras you can get done. And the fact that an empty house isn't messing itself up all day, so it's far less to do. I am a constant tidier, simply because the DC at home generate mess all day, need feeding, need nappies. I can't cook with them under my feet. I can't hoover or clean around them, especially with twins, it's futile.
When I clean (when they're at nursery) I clean properly, partly because there's more dirt now, and partly because I have the time. I'm not doing housework at the weekends. I get down time. I batch cook when they're at nursery. I do so much more as a wife and mother than before. Bake sale? No problem, I've got a full day to make really lovely cakes. World book day? Used to be what I could grab in a hurry from Sainsbury's, now I can put effort in to those kind of "days" at school. DHs trousers needed turning up, no problem, pass them here, instead of "I'll get round to it" after a full day of work, then dinner. Our admin is spot on, everything filed, we're on the best deals for everything. I guess the major difference though, is my day stops at 5pm, just like DH. Then it's our down time, because all the money's been earned and all the house stuff is done. We don't spend evenings or weekends hoovering, or just finishing emails. If I was working full time, we'd both be doing the essentials of what I do now, on top of our full time jobs. We probably wouldn't sit down til 8 o clock.