To think being a housewife might be nice ?

[Felixss]

I'm on leave I've managed to get the housework done the deep cleaning , decluttered, sorted my clothes and 3 tip runs. I've washed the covers on the sofa and got through a mountain of laundry. Food shop delivered, put away and ordered DDs new shoes. I'm going to sand down and paint DDs chest of drawers. To top it off I've cooked a lovely healthy meal for the family.
I feel really pleased I've managed to do all the jobs I've been meaning to do. I'm always snowed under stressed from work and end up not doing it all. I do have a cleaner but they don't do the nitty gritty really.

AIBU to think being a house wife actually might be nice ? Less pressure and you can complete all the home stuff at your leisure. 🤣 I wouldn't do this as I've worked so hard to get where I am but I can see why it might be tempting.

As a society we should be working less not more.

I partly agree (we're seeing now what happens when doctors and nurses work less, which is why they deserve better pay), but the solution is better funding for living wages, a well funded NHS with good support for medical training and so on. You're not fighting capitalism by not working and taking daytime naps. Perhaps you could become a political activist with your free time if this is what drives you?

Because my comment was in response to those who said they'd be bored staying at home and not working. If you'd be bored not working then you seriously lack imagination and have been fed an absolute lie by a capitalist society which praises material goods over well being.

I do work to fund designer bags and bigger cars. I'm on a spa break today I highly doubt I'd be able to afford it if I was a housewife. DH would dislike me spending £450 on one day.

I don't have a car and hate handbags.

Try again.

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Flexible working for all, not just women is a good thing

But I doubt most housewives would be actually ok with their ohs working less

The people who want to, like you! It's great that you enjoy being a midwife, you're clearly very passionate about your job
I and many others enjoy different things in life, and that's ok.

SouthLondonMum22
Of course. Women are on the hamster wheel but the men are being amazingly brilliant men by being successful professionally.

A lot of the rhetoric is based on the idea that domestic load is too difficult and demanding for a poor man with a job.

• You see it from the men who sod all at home when both adults work.
• You see it from men and women who claim men don't see mess and aren't capable of running a house like a woman
• You see it from the men who actively seek a woman to remain at home so they can have their dinner on the table and not have to lift a finger round the house.
• You see it from women who are super proud of their working husbands whilst arguing that working women are foolishly on the hamster wheel whereas they get to make dinner and tidy up so their husband doesn't have to worry about chores

Who wins from this? It's not women.

@Felixss

Fair enough.

Depends what work one aspect of my role is keeping people alive so one of the most fulfilling jobs. Not everyone works in financial services there's a huge amount of jobs out there.

As usual, people are only interested in equating SAHMs to hapless woebegone women who have no clue about what they're doing or why. This is all they want to hear.

@AnneBerlin

It's OK to a point.

It's not ok when you're biting the hand that feeds you

I'm just saying I could work full time and drive myself potty looking after the house and kids and trying to beg childcare favours...I'd be better off financially but mentally I'd be a wreck. I know which I prefer.

I respect your choices and I'm glad you have a setup that works for you and your husband, but I wish you'd stop suggesting that having a working husband while you stay home and nap in the day is anti-capitalist political activism.

@echoo

No idea where you're getting that from

Big difference between SAHM of preschoolers and school age. I think a house wife is someone with school age DC.

@Comedycook

If you'd be bored not working then you seriously lack imagination and have been fed an absolute lie by a capitalist society which praises material goods over well being.

But we've come full circle here. A mother who works is doing so to fund handbags and cars. A man who works is doing so to provide for his family "well being". Why?

It's inconsistent and intellectually dishonest. If you truly believe that working women are "being fed a lie by a capitalist society" as you state here it follows that you should believe that applies to men who work as well. But apparently it's fine for a man to be on the hamster wheel, drinking the Kool Aid but not a woman.

What does that have to do with anyone else?

If you couldn't cope with working then that's about you.

Plenty cope fine. Like your oh.

Fine.

But it's not political activism while you stick it to capitalism.

I wish you'd stop suggesting that having a working husband while you stay home and nap in the day is anti-capitalist political activism

I don't think that but I do think our current society is a very sad place. Rushing round picking up kids from childcare well into the evening, barely having any downtime. Endless chores being squeezed into a small amount of time. Couples bickering over domestic tasks. It's incredibly depressing

Mentally, I'd be a wreck as a housewife. I need more.

@Comedycook

That doesn't reflect my life and we both work full time

"I think a housewife is someone with school age DC."

All this wrangling about what is a housewife and what is a SAHP. Who cares? If you have 4 children, it could be a decade before they're all in school. Then they all have different school holidays; or one gets ill and they're all home sick in succession. It's not as if life miraculously changes when the last one starts school. It does a bit, but not much.

We both work full time too and it also doesn't reflect our lives. But I also have a husband who doesn't pretend he just can't possibly ''see'' mess and he doesn't wait for me to tell him what to do like a child.

Nope not my life
All my colleagues share CC or do minimal days in nursery.
No bickering
Hobbies, lovely house and garden.
Sorry to disappoint

I've had a few days off and have enjoyed some spring cleaning and gardening but that's only because it's spring (and I can see all the dust and the garden needed a tidy) It would wear thin. Also the kids have been around and I've enjoyed the lazy mornings with no school run.