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Decline party invite because she gave me a thumbs up?

296 replies

FrumptyMumpty · 12/04/2023 16:48

I know this is petty, but I find the whole birthday party scene an unwanted drain on my family time, my energy levels and my finances.

I’d much rather do play dates.

When you’ve got as many kids as I have it’s lucky if we don’t have a birthday each day of the weekend.

So my eldest daughter was invited to a party where everyone is invited.

I don’t know this mum, hardly see her to talk to her, but the kids get on so I was going to go… like you do. She came to my daughters party, exchange the gift back, etc

BUT the mum is obviously selectively responding to several mums RSVPs with either a 👍🏻or a ❤️

I got a thumbs up 👍🏻

Now I’m wondering why I should put myself out when she has outed me as being less equal than half the other mums.

AIBU to decline purely because of the 👍🏻?

OP posts:
OriginalUsername2 · 12/04/2023 19:39

Do you mean certain mums are getting gushy friendly replies and the lesser mums are just getting emojis?

notanotherdayofthisshit · 12/04/2023 19:42

Why am I picturing the mum doing the selective👍🏻 and ❤️ emojis as Amanda from Motherland?

A ❤️ for her close "gal pals" and a reluctant 👍🏻 for Julia, Kevin & Liz...

🤣

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 12/04/2023 19:43

HOW do you even have time to notice these things let alone get worked up?! About an emoji reaction 😂

MumMRM · 12/04/2023 19:44

If this is true, you are embarrassing, I am cringing for you!

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 12/04/2023 19:44

But yes YWBVU to exclude your child from a party they’d want to go to over an emoji

GanjaDhin · 12/04/2023 19:45

violetskypurple · 12/04/2023 17:00

Am I the only one reading this as a lighthearted post?

I think op is being entirely serious. Some people must have such incredible lives that this is the sort of stuff they have to worry about. I wish that was me.

sillysocks22 · 12/04/2023 19:46

Hilarious 🤣👍🏻❤️

Cherrysherbet · 12/04/2023 19:47

If she gave you a 💩 or a 🖕🏻then you’d have a point….

Hankunamatata · 12/04/2023 19:49

I'm a bit socially awkward esp online and I rend to use 👍 or 🥰

notanotherdayofthisshit · 12/04/2023 19:50

Cherrysherbet · 12/04/2023 19:47

If she gave you a 💩 or a 🖕🏻then you’d have a point….

🤣

Hankunamatata · 12/04/2023 19:50

Does your kid want to go? If yes then you go.

pointythings · 12/04/2023 19:51

🙄is my response to this post.

UsingChangeofName · 12/04/2023 19:52

I've gone through 8 pages, and still not 100% if this was supposed to be a joke, or it is someone deliberately posting to get MN in a froth, if if there can actually be someone who believes this is something to worry about.

oachkatzl · 12/04/2023 19:56

If this is for real, it's ridiculous.

theblackradiator · 12/04/2023 20:01

Best thread of the day this. has give us all a giggle 👍op.

CheshireCat1 · 12/04/2023 20:02

If you really, really try you may get ❤️in the next invite 😊

LeefPeeper · 12/04/2023 20:03

😳

RampantIvy · 12/04/2023 20:05

Presumably, as you don't know each other why would you expect anything more?

When you’ve got as many kids as I have it’s lucky if we don’t have a birthday each day of the weekend.

Well, you kind of signed up for this by having lots of children. You can decline all invitations if you prefer.

dittbtdity · 12/04/2023 20:09

Faaaarrrrrccckkk - you definitely have too many kids, your brain is now baby mush and you've turned into a 7 year old GIRLIE worrying about emoji politics. Get over yourself and let the kid go to the party.

BellePeppa · 12/04/2023 20:10

UsingChangeofName · 12/04/2023 19:52

I've gone through 8 pages, and still not 100% if this was supposed to be a joke, or it is someone deliberately posting to get MN in a froth, if if there can actually be someone who believes this is something to worry about.

I think it’s someone deliberately getting MN into a froth. Probably sitting with a glass of wine having a giggle.

youhavenoidea123 · 12/04/2023 20:12

👍

HauntedPencil · 12/04/2023 20:13

🖕Could've been worse.

KatiefromHull · 12/04/2023 20:14

Get a life

MrsBarbaraLangerhans · 12/04/2023 20:15

Just when you think you have read it all on Mumsnet, along comes the batshittiest post ever.
If this is serious, don't be such a wally!

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/04/2023 20:17

What's with all the one-posts twats on here at the moment. One OP which is nonsense, then nothing.

Waste of time.