To think it's rude not to wait for guests..?

[easterbunnyz]

My parents invited us for Easter lunch. They didn't really give an exact time said around 5-6. Admittedly we got there just after 6.. they had already started, and almost finished eating.
They do this all the time? I can't imagine inviting them and if they were late just start eating without them.
AIBU to think it's rude not to wait? Or is that me expecting too much?

@RememberingGoodTimes no I'm not sweetie, but do ask MN to check

@RememberingGoodTimes whilst you are clearly policing threads telling others what they should/shouldn't say.

You're clearly not detective material, so don't apply for a promotion?

If you look really carefully, you'll see I'm on both threads under my very own name!

I'm just making a point, by quoting your snide comment to another user.

To be fair I said the same, only really thinking about my own parents who wouldn't mind.

Jfood was ready they were hungry you were late Yabu

If you knew it was 5-6 to me that means be there by 4.30, YATA. 🤷🏼‍♀️

They're your parents, not dinner party hosts.

I'd consider it rude not to wait for guests. It's different when you're waiting for family who you know are coming straight from work, sometimes can't get away on time, and you're very hungry.

Sounds like they've given a large margin to make sure you arrive early enough for the meal - between 5 and 6 is asking you to come for 5 and you turned up after 6...that's pretty rude. Yabu on this one and you owe them an apology, its OK to be late, things happen, but it must be really frustrating for them.

How can you be so sure? The OP hasn’t said the meal was being served between 5 & 6. How do you know they weren’t being asked to arrive between 5 & 6?

@MasterBeth how do you know they didn't mean that 🤷‍♀️!

We will never know, because OPs not coming back, or she is but is just late doing so.

It’s not clear one way or another. Therefore, stating that the “5-6” invitation definitely means arrive at 5 is wrong. It’s ambiguous.

@MasterBeth and arriving after 6 is totally wrong!

How are you two still bickering about this days later?

Suppose the same reason you're on here?

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As many people have already agreed on the thread, arriving perhaps 10 minutes after a stated arrival time is often considered perfectly polite in relaxed, informal friendship circles.

If I invited friends or family to ours for “around 5 - 6”, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid if they turned up just after 6. I would consider it well within reasonable standards of politeness.

As more people have agreed, that's not acceptable.

We have established I am not a fan of rigid time limits.

The number of people who agree to it one way or another isn’t relevant.

The fact that different people interpret the invitation in very different ways means the invitation was ambiguous. In the light of an ambiguous invitation, with a number of different interpretations, the host’s behaviour was rude.

Hahaha fair play @MasterBeth 

@nomoredriving I just popped back to see if there was anything more from the OP. You've been having the same argument since the beginning of the thread.

@GoodChat and I'm not a fan of tardiness

Sorry, didn't realise you were the thread police and monitored how often I'm allowed to post.

Thanks for your comments though.

I think you need to have a cup of tea and chill out

@nomoredriving can’t have a cup of tea until the 5 - 6 tea-time hour.

Behave 😂

BIL's family does this. They always show up late. they ask when the meal is planned for and then show up up to an hour later, which means food getting cold or overcooked and all of us just hanging around. MIL has started giving them a time that's an hour before the meal is actually planned, which works out better.

So in response, i think you are the rude ones, not your parents - they are likely just fed up with waiting for you.

When you say that do you mean 6.25?

YANBU.