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Dalai llama ask a child to suck his tongue

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Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 12:49

Has anyone seen the new video of the Dalai Llama asking a child to suck his tongue. Yes. It sounds bizarre. But it is in the news right now. The video is out there. And the dalai llama is apologising on social media now

Im devastated! I went to see the Dalai Llama in India. He gave a speech on accepting and loving everyone, and that it didn't matter what religion we are. I always told people that it was one of the highlights of my life.

I went through life thinking he was a good person, that he was one of the good ones. To see this today, makes me think oh no is he yet another abuser.

Some people have remarked about this video that sticking your tongue out at someone is a greeting in Tibet.

However - the Dalai Llama kisses the child on the lips in the video, and asks the child to suck his tongue. It does not look right at all.

He has apologised on twitter now.

What do you all think?

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L3ThirtySeven · 11/04/2023 13:44

@AnorLondo
I suspect you've been influenced by an entirely different kind of brownie.

I do like a good Amsterdam brownie 🤪

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 11/04/2023 13:49

L3ThirtySeven · 11/04/2023 13:41

Thank you for posting the full footage.

Mmm actually watching that it does seem like a joke but it was a fucking stupid thing to do. I feel sorry for the boy who clearly felt awkward as hell. And rightly so.

zingally · 11/04/2023 14:07

I'm really disappointed. I've always liked his message and enjoyed some of his speeches.

So, SO many red flags.

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:08

The Dalai Lama is known to be human and so of course he is susceptible to human illness and disease. His followers have never been taught or think that he is some perfect immortal being.

Any well known role model whom people consider to be a good example to follow should not be abusing a child or being a sex pest in public.

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:11

There is more evidence indicating dementia than the above if we are going to be objective about the situation.

What evidence?? Unless you spent significant time with this man and knew his doctors, you would not be privy to such information. As such, you are being far from objective.

It's quite possible for someone high profile to always be a pedophile and for it to be hushed up for many years.

L3ThirtySeven · 11/04/2023 14:14

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:08

The Dalai Lama is known to be human and so of course he is susceptible to human illness and disease. His followers have never been taught or think that he is some perfect immortal being.

Any well known role model whom people consider to be a good example to follow should not be abusing a child or being a sex pest in public.

That been said repeatedly on this thread and I would think would be a given now we are on p21 of the thread.

Was repeating the obvious the only reason you had for quoting me out of context? Because it looks like you quoted me out of context to give the impression I am excusing his behaviour when that is not the case at all. Those two sentences were simply correcting a poster who wrongly stated that the Dalai Lama has claimed to be a perfect being and his followers likely don’t think he is susceptible to human illnesses…

commonground · 11/04/2023 14:15

I'm not sure if that is the full footage ^ posted.

https://www.1news.co.nz/2023/04/10/scandalous-video-of-dalai-lama-asking-boy-to-suck-his-tongue/.

I'm sorry but this is a more in context version (assuming it's not a deep fake - and as he has admitted and apologised, I'm assuming not).

If you can bear to watch it all. It's revolting. Apologies for the footage - but you might change your mind about it being 'a joke'.

The 87-year-old spiritual leader was attending an event when the bizarre interaction took place.

'Scandalous' video of Dalai Lama asking boy to 'suck' his tongue

The 87-year-old spiritual leader was attending an event when the bizarre interaction took place.

https://www.1news.co.nz/2023/04/10/scandalous-video-of-dalai-lama-asking-boy-to-suck-his-tongue

GingerbreadBaking · 11/04/2023 14:15

L3ThirtySeven · 11/04/2023 13:44

@AnorLondo
I suspect you've been influenced by an entirely different kind of brownie.

I do like a good Amsterdam brownie 🤪

Well others minds may be addled by Brownies drugs perhaps I have to explain simply for the Prince Harry types.

Brownies are run by Girl guides, girls guides support Queer theory, queer theory demands the same types of practices and beliefs as a religion.

It is a case of different faces, same people every time. It's the same men, same enablers in every religion/cult/institution.

The only difference between a standard religion and woke cult types is that the people aren't in denial that they are employing faith when believing in a higher authority.

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:20

@L3ThirtySeven

What I objected to about your post is the way that you said that the Dalai Lama didn't choose to be a role model. I think that however people come to be in that position, they have a responsibility.

Sorry if I misunderstood

TokyoStories · 11/04/2023 14:25

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 11/04/2023 13:49

Mmm actually watching that it does seem like a joke but it was a fucking stupid thing to do. I feel sorry for the boy who clearly felt awkward as hell. And rightly so.

I don’t think he did look awkward, he was laughing. It’s not possible to know how he felt at the time based on a short video clip where most of the speech is inaudible.

I feel sorry for the boy too. Not because of his interaction with the Dalaï Lama, but because he is now caught up in the outrage of thousands of people around the world who are saying he’s a victim of paedophilia, his face splashed around news outlets everywhere. That’s abuse in itself, and arguably a lot more traumatising than the actual incident. It’s like some people have forgotten there’s a young and no doubt incredibly confused boy at the centre of this.

AllIsBest · 11/04/2023 14:26

https://www.1news.co.nz/2023/04/10/scandalous-video-of-dalai-lama-asking-boy-to-suck-his-tongue/

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/p8xIUbUEuLY?app=desktop&cbrd=1

Who cares about the reason what will be the consequences?

The Dalai Lama is forcing the boy to kiss him on the lips by holding the his chin, the boy has no choice but kiss him Envy. Everyone is watching and accepting that this young boy is being sexually abused. So traumatising.

Again, there will be reasons why the DL abused the boy, but only few are demanding to know the consequences.

Corrupted power trip. Nasty. And also unsurprising.

The 87-year-old spiritual leader was attending an event when the bizarre interaction took place.

'Scandalous' video of Dalai Lama asking boy to 'suck' his tongue

The 87-year-old spiritual leader was attending an event when the bizarre interaction took place.

https://www.1news.co.nz/2023/04/10/scandalous-video-of-dalai-lama-asking-boy-to-suck-his-tongue

L3ThirtySeven · 11/04/2023 14:31

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:11

There is more evidence indicating dementia than the above if we are going to be objective about the situation.

What evidence?? Unless you spent significant time with this man and knew his doctors, you would not be privy to such information. As such, you are being far from objective.

It's quite possible for someone high profile to always be a pedophile and for it to be hushed up for many years.

Yes it is possible that someone high profile has been a closet pedophile and gotten away with it for years. But when you objectively assess the probability using statistics of prevalence, this is not likely. It is estimated that 0.5% to 1% of men are pedophiles. Asian men are less likely than the average to be pedophiles. So let’s just say it’s the lower end of the range and call it a 0.5% chance that the Dalai Lama is a pedophile.

Now let’s add to that the probability that it’s been hidden for 75yrs. The average age a child sex abuse offender is caught is at 25yrs old. This makes it even less likely he’s been a secret pedophile.

But we can ignore that if you like, just to be a bit biased towards your opinion that the Dalai Lama is a pedophile.

Now let’s look at the probability the Dalai Lama has dementia. So 1 in 6 men his age have dementia. That’s a 17% chance he has dementia.

This means he is 34 times more likely to have dementia than to be a pedophile.

But hey, let’s keep on being biased towards the he’s a pedophile opinion and reduce this probability by the % of people with dementia who do not exhibit Inappropriate Sexual Behaviour or ISB which is 75%. So that gives us a 4.2% probability that not only does the Dalai Lama have dementia, but he also will exhibit ISB.

This means he is 8.3 times more likely to have dementia with ISB than to be a pedophile.

This thought process is more objective than your thought process by far.

L3ThirtySeven · 11/04/2023 14:32

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:20

@L3ThirtySeven

What I objected to about your post is the way that you said that the Dalai Lama didn't choose to be a role model. I think that however people come to be in that position, they have a responsibility.

Sorry if I misunderstood

I agree his position comes with huge responsibility.

ChunkaMunkaBoomBoom · 11/04/2023 14:34

‘What was his reasoning? Genuinely?’

he’s a pervert getting off in his power like many, many, many other men in powerful religious positions would be my guess.
This is why we need to start have less men and more women in charge.

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:39

It is estimated that 0.5% to 1% of men are pedophiles.

Estimated by whom / what statistics?

My friend in the police said that there are a concerning number of men who are pedophiles. Much more than 1%. If you believe that you'll believe anything.

In any case, the DL has made objectionable comments before this particular shit show...

pickledandpuzzled · 11/04/2023 14:41

What concerning comments are those, @MyopicBunny ?

GingerbreadBaking · 11/04/2023 14:41

ChunkaMunkaBoomBoom · 11/04/2023 14:34

‘What was his reasoning? Genuinely?’

he’s a pervert getting off in his power like many, many, many other men in powerful religious positions would be my guess.
This is why we need to start have less men and more women in charge.

Women like Nocola Sturgeon, Elizabeth Holmes, Jacinda Ardern?

Personality disordered women are no better for the vulnerable than Personality disordered men.

TokyoStories · 11/04/2023 14:42

In any case, the DL has made objectionable comments before this particular shit show...

So? Are objectionable comments evidence of paedophilia?

AllIsBest · 11/04/2023 14:43

This means he is 8.3 times more likely to have dementia with ISB than to be a pedophile.

How does this matter for the boy though? The boy has been inappropriately touched and propositioned by the DL, whatever the reason. If the DL actually has dementia and can't control his inappropriate sexual behaviour around children, will he be kept away from vulnerable youngsters from now on?

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:43

pickledandpuzzled · 11/04/2023 14:41

What concerning comments are those, @MyopicBunny ?

He said that any if woman was to be the Dalai Lama, they would have to be beautiful, otherwise they would be 'not much use'.

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:44

ChunkaMunkaBoomBoom · 11/04/2023 14:34

‘What was his reasoning? Genuinely?’

he’s a pervert getting off in his power like many, many, many other men in powerful religious positions would be my guess.
This is why we need to start have less men and more women in charge.

I completely agree. The apologists on here sicken me.

TokyoStories · 11/04/2023 14:45

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:43

He said that any if woman was to be the Dalai Lama, they would have to be beautiful, otherwise they would be 'not much use'.

Well I can kind of see his point. The less attractive a woman is, the less people seem to pay any attention to her.

MyopicBunny · 11/04/2023 14:47

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AllIsBest · 11/04/2023 14:50

I completely agree. The apologists on here sicken me.

Absolutely. There are some rather dodgy posts and posters on this thread, so I won't be engaging any longer.

I'll just repeat: what about safeguarding? Who cares whether it's dementia or anything else? Why even focus on finding justification rather than an immediate investigation in the behaviour of the DL and his close advisors?

The tone of this thread is very concerning and quite revolting. Throwing around some made up statistics to justify child abuse. It's not a level I feel comfortable engaging on. Horrible.

AllIsBest · 11/04/2023 14:50

@MyopicBunny Yes. Sad