Friend cancelled holiday last minute..

[Sortyourlifeout]

Hi all.

I've been let down AGAIN. I genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable here.

Meant to be going to the Lake District with a friend tomorrow, for 2 nights. Apartment booked and paid for; was waiting for friends half of payment.

She sent a text yesterday morning saying that she has a family commitment that she can't get out of so she's not coming. She asked for my bank details and has sent money to cover the apartment (including my half). Obviously I'm really very upset.

AIBU to go anyway?

Why was I unreasonable to be upset? 😔

Thanks so much!

Definitely go and don't give the money back as it won't be the same. I can understand you being upset I think it's crappy to drop out of things at the last minute but she's paid for it all which is at least something.

This would make me even more determined to send it back. He will absolutely use this to drive more of a wedge between you, and make you out to be a CF

At the end of the day SHE chose to cancel the holiday and SHE chose how much money to give you. I’d accept it gracefully and take her a nice present back and tell her that you missed her company but appreciated the money, you couldn’t have afforded the petrol to get there if she’d hadn’t done that.

This is a lovely idea! I will find something nice to take back for her. Thank you!

I expect there's a few of us reading this who would love to swap places with you OP. Have a lovely break. x

A gift is also a good idea so if there is a controlling DP, he knows that he hasn't ruined the friendship through this.

I really wish there were 'like' features on this site!

Definitely go. At least she paid without leaving you out of pocket.
Disappointing but this could have been worse.

What a lovely outcome OP I have never been to the lakes before & this thread has really made me want to go. I may have to go alone too as DH doesn't fancy it.
Enjoy your relaxing break x

If this has taught me anything, it's that you should just DO IT!

Book yourself a few days in the Lake District! It's beautiful!

I’m not being facetious – I would love it if this happened to me! Two nights on my own in the Lake District, paid for by somebody else! Bring it on!

So she is under coercive control?
That's a bigger concern

There's a Benetton shop in Penrith if you want to go jumper shopping!

Just go. You’re not out of pocket. You can have a brilliant on your own. Just focus on enjoying yourself and having a quality time. I would see what this friend does to make amends when you get back.

Erm. Ok! Thanks?! 🤣

Then don't go. If you can't afford the petrol now then leave it. But I agree with @MayThe4th if you do go then the decent thing to do is to offer her half back IMO. You could just ask her if you could knock off a bit for petrol as you would like to still go but that's the only way you would be able to and see what she says?

@Mothership4two decent thing would be to RTFT

Thanks for your input.

The cost of the petrol was more expensive than the cost of the apartment.

Absolutely not

I agree with the posters who think there's no need to give the money back. In her position, I'd pay for the whole holiday to make up for cancelling at the the lost moment. Buying her a present is a nice idea. Hope you have a lovely time!

No way give her the half back! She's let you down at the last minute and I think she's done the decent thing but paying the whole amount is to make up for it.

I’m glad you went OP. I go away solo a couple of times a year. Just short breaks. I thoroughly enjoy them as I can do just what I want when I want with no compromise. Enjoy the rest of your stay.

I don’t think you need to pay her back… the gift aides si a good one though!!

I am puzzled though…. Further up the thread you state half the file is £50…. There’s no way the apartment in Lake District during the Easter break was less than £100