Friend cancelled holiday last minute..

[Sortyourlifeout]

Hi all.

I've been let down AGAIN. I genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable here.

Meant to be going to the Lake District with a friend tomorrow, for 2 nights. Apartment booked and paid for; was waiting for friends half of payment.

She sent a text yesterday morning saying that she has a family commitment that she can't get out of so she's not coming. She asked for my bank details and has sent money to cover the apartment (including my half). Obviously I'm really very upset.

AIBU to go anyway?

Definitely go. Take some good books, order takeout food, pack some face-masks and pampering things. Just have a nice time. Good of her to pay but shitty to cancel at last minute.

Just go alone or find someone else if possible, try to make the most of it.

Should I give her half the money back?

just go! You're friend is a silly cow for cancelling now.

Hey! Free holiday. Nice.

No! Don't give her any money back.

Absolutely, one million percent go, don't let this get you down.

The Lakes are gorgeous, have a lovely time

Definitely go. I'm really sorry though - how disappointing

Just go!!! It's beautiful up there and you'll have a wonderful time.

Thank your lucky stars that she’s paid both halves. Annoying but at least you aren’t out of pocket too.

How annoying for you. Does she usually flake on you?

At least she paid though, many CF we hear about wouldn't.

Yes definitely still go. See if anyone wants to join you, if not just go and enjoy it on your own, it's a gorgeous place.

Should I give her half the money back?

No.

I’ll come with you 😂😂😂

I'd go anyway but give her half back. If you decide not to go, I wouldn't give her any back.

Don’t give her money back.
Go alone.
Find new friends. (Unless it really REALLY is an absolute emergency)

Really shitty thing for her to do without a very good reason. Of course you should go by yourself but it's not quite the same, I'd it?

You say 'again' in your title. Has she let you down before, or is this a pattern in your friendships?

Don’t give her any money back, just go and have a lovely relaxing time!

No why should you be out of pocket because she changed her mind the night before?

Absolutely not. Do you have another friend or relative who may be free at short notice who would like to go with you?

She obviously feels bad which is why she's covered all of the costs. I'd go anyway and enjoy it

I suspect the 'emergency' is her DH being a twat cos he doesn't like me.

No!

Why would you?

You wouldn't pay for her half if she was still going, why would you pay for it when she isn't, & let you down so badly into the bargain?

You will have a lovely time on your own.
Rest, recharge, take it all in, do exactly what YOU want, all on your own terms.

Our ex friends did this ( twice). That was it for me.
Go!

A bit of a pattern but I have BPD and struggle sometimes knowing when people are genuinely having to cancel or if it's my fault.

Sadly all my friends are either working, on holiday or have family commitments.

I would go! As people have said, the lakes are lovely 😊