DH wants mum to go home

[Mrshermit]

Mum has come to stay for the week and to be quite honest I’m grateful for the help. As DH has spent the majority of the time napping and lying in bed.

me and mum have been on some lovely walks as well the kids and it’s been so nice.

Dh said it’s getting too much now and why can’t I drop her home a few days earlier?

AIBU to tell him to tell him to piss off? Last week I was struggling with all the kids at home. Now I’ve got the help I needed I’d be silly to send my mum home.

Nans go to visit to spend time with their children and grandchildren.

This.

What a loser.

Does nothing to help.

Can't bear you having any help.

Doesn't like your mother seeing what a lazy selfish loser you married.

Tell him to suck it up.

Grandparents enjoy time with their grandchildren. That’s not “hard work” it’s lovely. No need to feel sorry for her not having “a holiday”.
But maybe you could suggest some couple time @Mrshermit while your mum is there, and have a really honest conversation about your marriage.

His issue is that he can’t relax on the evening because she stays up to 11 and that’s “his quiet time”

And do you get to relax OP!
He sounds like a useless, selfish waste of space.

He sounds like a right prick. It’s only for a week.

Take your mum away for a few days and leave the kids with him.

How much parenting does he do?

If this was reversed and he had his mum staying I know the replies would be different.

Can you go and stay with her?

Sounds like he spends all his time relaxing. Tell him to step up or piss off.

OP I am presuming he has some good points..? Otherwise what exactly is he bringing to the table?

If this was reversed and he had his mum staying I know the replies would be different.

If OP spent all her time in bed chilling and taking naps I don’t think the replies would be different.

If your DH was busy with something such as a DIY repair to the house, or was on night shifts, I would have a bit of sympathy for him.

None given he is just being lazy.

Does your DH not work?

Can't see much of a future with this selfish prick, OP.

Say sure, but I’ll go back with mum and you can look after the kids for a few days. You are their dad after all.

Stupid question!

But that's the accepted MN position, her in-laws are rarely welcomed in 'her' home, I quite like the boot being on the other foot!. Were I the husband in this I would take myself off to a hotel until MIL has left.

Yes exactly..if it doesn’t make sense it’s not true

He sounds useless

This one speaks volumes !!!

They probably would, because (judging by most MIL has come to stay threads on here) DH would still be doing fuck all, and the OP would be having hostess duties on top of normal life

Why's he spending most of his time in bed, does he think his kids are nothing to do with him?

I can't bear anyone staying in my house for more than a few days, family, in laws, friends, whoever. I can't bear staying in anyone else's house for the same reasons.

They're in my space and you can't sit on your sofa watching something crap on TV troughing crisps in your pants. You are always on show, always offering drinks and food, always clearing up after them and yourself, always feel like you need to be with them, always on best behaviour.

I don't know if it's been said if OH was at work last week or not? As that would make a difference on my opinion regarding his actions this week.

There’s so much going on here.

I think he is BU to try and send her home early/ and yes, I also think that on threads where it’s the Mil. My personal opinion is there’s far more awful Dils that people like to admit, but that’s another thread.

But I do understand him feeling uncomfortable and ready to have a house without guests in.

But since he has spent all week opting out of family life and she is the one helping, he has a cheek to moan when he won’t step up