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Escorting

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idontknowifishould · 09/04/2023 23:46

Ok I'm only considering it as I'm really worried about money - with interest rates increasing, my ex's payments coming to an end and all other costs sky rocketing as well as ds and dd needing more, i'm going to have at least £1,500 less and I'm I'm going to start getting into debt.

I'm only thinking non- sexual escorting , companionship or a plus one for corporate function. I've seen adverts but don't know if people would really pay If it's not sex.

Does anyone have an experience? Failing that any suggestions?

I work full time, so anything else would have to be evenings.

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breakingintopieces · 09/04/2023 23:51

I assume your ex's payments are ending because of how old your kids are - so they're old enough to be left home alone.

Old enough to work and contribute to the household? You say they need more - are they old enough to get a weekend job to pay for this?

KnickerlessParsons · 09/04/2023 23:52

How old are your DCs?

MrsDoylesDoily · 09/04/2023 23:52

Prostitutes also charge by the hour for non sexual escorting, so you'll have a lot of competition.

Jellyx · 09/04/2023 23:54

idontknowifishould · 09/04/2023 23:46

Ok I'm only considering it as I'm really worried about money - with interest rates increasing, my ex's payments coming to an end and all other costs sky rocketing as well as ds and dd needing more, i'm going to have at least £1,500 less and I'm I'm going to start getting into debt.

I'm only thinking non- sexual escorting , companionship or a plus one for corporate function. I've seen adverts but don't know if people would really pay If it's not sex.

Does anyone have an experience? Failing that any suggestions?

I work full time, so anything else would have to be evenings.

How old are the DC? They can get a job for any luxuries they want and pay towards the household. Perhaps increase hours and look at better budgeting for food etc

ComtesseDeSpair · 09/04/2023 23:54

Non sexual escorting doesn’t exist. Whatever you read, unless you’re a 10/10 swimwear model (and unlikely even then) no man is going to pay you just to come and be seen out with him.

If you have evenings free then office cleaning actually pays reasonably well.

Red0 · 09/04/2023 23:58

Watch Alma’s Not Normal

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idontknowifishould · 10/04/2023 00:05

Children are 14 and 17 ex took money off shore left me with little - long story.
Dd is driving and I want to be able to contribute. She’s works weekends too as is a student.

Yeah getting paid for companionship did seem unrealistic tbh.

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MrsSkylerWhite · 10/04/2023 00:09

I don’t believe there’s any such thing as non sexual escorting

Findyourneutralspace · 10/04/2023 00:13

It’s a euphemism. I think you need to explore other options. Will DD dad chip into driving lessons, or can she work to pay for them? Scope for extra hours for you?
I really wouldn’t go down that road.

FranksOcean · 10/04/2023 00:16

Lol good luck

DemonCopperhead · 10/04/2023 00:17

if you’re so naive you think non sexual escorting exists then…

JudgeRudy · 10/04/2023 00:17

Are you young, attractive, well groomed, educated and well spoken? Wealthy punters paying good money for 'companions' are selective. An intereet in the arts or horses is a good addition to a CV as is a 2nd language. Have a look on the Sugar Babe sites to see your competition. It's worth noting that a lot of escorts are given gifts not cash/bacs, so could be jewellery or an ongoing arrangement might include financing a car/apartment/beauty treatments however that's dependent on how 'nice' you are.
Hourly paid escort work isn't so dependent on appearance but you'll be competing with prostitutes. Just so you know they don't wear leather minis and leopard print thigh highs! Some are very attractive and 'refined'.
You have 2 teens. What would you do if your kids headmaster pics you up or your exs mates BIL. It'll get out in the end. I think this is a single person's job or very young children.
There must be something better you could do to gain £1500pcm. That could include charging kids board, air B&B, or simply some overtime...or just accept you're living beyond your means and need to move I'm afraid.

FranksOcean · 10/04/2023 00:18

DemonCopperhead · 10/04/2023 00:17

if you’re so naive you think non sexual escorting exists then…

Exactly

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idontknowifishould · 10/04/2023 00:20

These definitely say non-sexual, but I do find it hard to believe which is why I wondered if anyone had any experience.

www.houseofladies.co.uk/faqs

www.prestige-companions.com/become-an-escort/

www.prestige-companions.com/become-an-escort/

Just trying to think of options. Im going to have to re-look at my outgoings.

Ex does pay towards driving lessons

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twoandcooplease · 10/04/2023 00:21

You must be able to think of something else. Seriously this thought is an 'easy' way out that wouldn't work anyway

Carrotsandsuede · 10/04/2023 00:21

Are you a 22 year old Victoria secrets model who will also perform sexual favours for an add on fee?

if not, look at other options my friend.

FranksOcean · 10/04/2023 00:24

Again you are being very naive

junebirthdaygirl · 10/04/2023 00:24

This weekend a woman who just moved to lreland was murdered while she was working as an escort. Poor woman in a strange country ends up dead. Don't do it. There has to be a better way and if your dc find out they may disown you forever. Suggesting the dc work and buy their own stuff is a good one as that will serve them well for life. Even if you could afford stuff it's good for them to work so you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Viviennemary · 10/04/2023 00:25

Not sure if reality is quite like in the film Pretty Woman. No its a slippery slope. Dont get involved in this seedy dangerous business. Look into other options.

caringcarer · 10/04/2023 00:35

I know a person who is a respite carer for a disabled teen. She just sleeps over at his house in case he needs help to go to bathroom in the night, he has an intercom. It gives the parents a weekend away once a month. She is paid £150 per night. They have asked her to do one night in the week as well. I am sure there are other similar positions available to a reliable person.

MissMarplesbag · 10/04/2023 00:36

Remote jobs here https://www.charityjob.co.uk/jobs?workplace=hybrid&workplace=remote&maxsalary=40000

Do you work? Would becoming a prostitute cause problems for you at work? How would you manage if your work client ended up being one of your brothel clients?

Think about alternative ways of earning money. Upgrade your job to a higher paying one, there's loads of hospitality & remote jobs available.

ComtesseDeSpair · 10/04/2023 00:39

idontknowifishould · 10/04/2023 00:20

These definitely say non-sexual, but I do find it hard to believe which is why I wondered if anyone had any experience.

www.houseofladies.co.uk/faqs

www.prestige-companions.com/become-an-escort/

www.prestige-companions.com/become-an-escort/

Just trying to think of options. Im going to have to re-look at my outgoings.

Ex does pay towards driving lessons

It’s illegal for an agency to advertise that their “service providers” offer sexual services: to do so would be effectively pimping or brothel keeping, both of which are crimes. They get around the law by pretending that their providers only offer company and nice chats to clients, and anything else that takes place is purely voluntary and negotiated without the angency’s involvement. The “anything else” is expected 99.9% of the time, and no agency would keep you on their books once a client complained you’d refused to provide sex.

Your DC are young adults. They can get bar or retail work like other young adults, if they want driving lessons.

LaundryAllDay · 10/04/2023 00:42

Absolutely not even a possibility but I can tell you there's no way you can hide it from your kids if you decide to.
If nothing else please don't do it to protect your kids.But for yourself too.They make it seem glamorous,pays well and no sex.But you know that is NOT true.

StockPop · 10/04/2023 00:42

Escorting/prostitution pays very well compared to other non-skilled jobs you can find, and the hours are completely flexible and up to you. But if course the risks are higher, and the mental toll vastly greater.

OhMyCherriePie · 10/04/2023 00:43

I’m guessing you’re not young given your dc age not to be rude but no man is going to pay you maybe if you was a 22 year old supermodel but that’s obviously not the case….