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idontknowifishould · 09/04/2023 23:46

Ok I'm only considering it as I'm really worried about money - with interest rates increasing, my ex's payments coming to an end and all other costs sky rocketing as well as ds and dd needing more, i'm going to have at least £1,500 less and I'm I'm going to start getting into debt.

I'm only thinking non- sexual escorting , companionship or a plus one for corporate function. I've seen adverts but don't know if people would really pay If it's not sex.

Does anyone have an experience? Failing that any suggestions?

I work full time, so anything else would have to be evenings.

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MrsDoylesDoily · 10/04/2023 01:00

If you can't contribute to your DD's driving lessons, she'll survive just like millions of other 17 year olds who have to pay for their own.

DeflatedAgain · 10/04/2023 01:02

A friend of mine has an only fans page that doesn't show her face and she takes home £30k some months.

A part of me is jealous I wouldn't ever have the confidence to do it myself (even though noone would know it was me)🤣

I will say there must be another way to make extra money. Perhaps waitressing or somewhere you get tips?

oakleaffy · 10/04/2023 01:08

@idontknowifishould ''Non sexual escorting??''

I can't quite believe I'm reading this, or that you are that hopelessly naive, OP!

That's like saying ''Horseless riding lessons'' or ''Carless driving lessons''
Men don't need a woman to accompany them...They are after the sex.

Wake up and smell the coffee, before it's too late.

AspiringMermaid · 10/04/2023 01:51

Only fans, cam girl, stripper and maybe even sugaring seems like a safer way to go! (A combination?) Porn you can control the content and interactions, strips clubs have security, being a sugar baby you can vet the man before putting yourself in a vunerable situation... Please do not sign up to an escort site like those you linked, it will include sex better to be in control

RadiantFem · 10/04/2023 02:30

Quite
i thought it was a troll post initially!

OP with this level of naivety and wishful thinking you’d be easily exploited and taken advantage of in this business.

RadiantFem · 10/04/2023 02:33

oakleaffy · 10/04/2023 01:08

@idontknowifishould ''Non sexual escorting??''

I can't quite believe I'm reading this, or that you are that hopelessly naive, OP!

That's like saying ''Horseless riding lessons'' or ''Carless driving lessons''
Men don't need a woman to accompany them...They are after the sex.

Wake up and smell the coffee, before it's too late.

Quite
I thought it was a troll post initially!

OP with this level of naivety, you’d be easily exploited and taken advantage of in this business.

EllandRd · 10/04/2023 02:50

idontknowifishould · 10/04/2023 00:05

Children are 14 and 17 ex took money off shore left me with little - long story.
Dd is driving and I want to be able to contribute. She’s works weekends too as is a student.

Yeah getting paid for companionship did seem unrealistic tbh.

I am sure you put an attachment of earnings order on his wages, even if it is offshore. He has 2 children that qualify for maintenance, fight him and claim for them.

ClareBlue · 10/04/2023 02:54

StockPop · 10/04/2023 00:42

Escorting/prostitution pays very well compared to other non-skilled jobs you can find, and the hours are completely flexible and up to you. But if course the risks are higher, and the mental toll vastly greater.

Not really a non skilled job though. You've got to emotionally detach, be a great actress pretending a foul breathed over weight man turns you on, be able to compartantalise work sex as a job from non work intamacy, be a skilled risk assessor to prevent ending up dead, financial management to ensure not being ripped off, marketing yourself to get clients, time management to get them in and out or arrive on time, image consultant to ensure correct dress to maximise footfall, client management to ensure they respect your boundaries and only get what is paid for.
These skills can earn money in other areas without the stigma and inherent risks.

Quitelikeacatslife · 10/04/2023 03:14

Can you look your 17 year old in the eye and say "I'd like to contribute more to your driving lessons so I'm going to be an escort" ? If not , you do have to look in the mirror and say that to yourself.
Can you look for a better paid day job? Do you work full time? What do you do?

StockPop · 10/04/2023 04:02

ClareBlue · 10/04/2023 02:54

Not really a non skilled job though. You've got to emotionally detach, be a great actress pretending a foul breathed over weight man turns you on, be able to compartantalise work sex as a job from non work intamacy, be a skilled risk assessor to prevent ending up dead, financial management to ensure not being ripped off, marketing yourself to get clients, time management to get them in and out or arrive on time, image consultant to ensure correct dress to maximise footfall, client management to ensure they respect your boundaries and only get what is paid for.
These skills can earn money in other areas without the stigma and inherent risks.

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Non-skilled doesn't mean that you don't need to know how to do your job, that it's easy or that anyone can do it as well as the other. It means that it doesn't require particular education or training.

All so-called non-skilled work requires competence.

Lottieoxo · 10/04/2023 08:36

Escorting to contribute towards driving lessons? Wow. Listen to yourself.

Irritateandunreasonable · 10/04/2023 08:37

idontknowifishould · 09/04/2023 23:46

Ok I'm only considering it as I'm really worried about money - with interest rates increasing, my ex's payments coming to an end and all other costs sky rocketing as well as ds and dd needing more, i'm going to have at least £1,500 less and I'm I'm going to start getting into debt.

I'm only thinking non- sexual escorting , companionship or a plus one for corporate function. I've seen adverts but don't know if people would really pay If it's not sex.

Does anyone have an experience? Failing that any suggestions?

I work full time, so anything else would have to be evenings.

There’s no such thing as non sexual escorting. I’m sorry, but there’s just not.

gogohmm · 10/04/2023 08:42

Contrary to what is written here, there is a limited about or escort work that is just that, know a friend who had done quite a few jobs and she's 50 - mostly older gay men who aren't out to their extended family eg Asian men, she's half Asian herself. They don't want people asking questions due to stigma

FranksOcean · 10/04/2023 12:16

gogohmm · 10/04/2023 08:42

Contrary to what is written here, there is a limited about or escort work that is just that, know a friend who had done quite a few jobs and she's 50 - mostly older gay men who aren't out to their extended family eg Asian men, she's half Asian herself. They don't want people asking questions due to stigma

this is a rare occurrence, maybe your friend isn’t being quite honest with you

whatsyourpoison12 · 10/04/2023 12:31

you'd be surprised what men are into. not all are looking for a young Pamela Anderson, they want to to look realistic in some circumstances. but you'll be getting the low paid gigs unless you've got the wow factor. better on onlyfans imo, selling your companionship is no different to your body.

whatsyourpoison12 · 10/04/2023 12:33

if you wouldn't allow your child to do this job, you shouldn't be doing it yourself, lead by example.

if the driving lessons are that important, tell your dd to get a job. preferably NOT escorting.

Hamster1111 · 10/04/2023 12:35

Is there non sexual escorting? I thought escort was just a polite word / euphemism for prostitute?

ThinWomansBrain · 10/04/2023 12:41

''Horseless riding lessons''

a euphemism for some of the additional services requested?

Aprilx · 10/04/2023 12:47

If you can’t afford driving lessons then she gets a job herself or goes without. It is not essential to learn to drive at 17.

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 10/04/2023 12:49

gogohmm · 10/04/2023 08:42

Contrary to what is written here, there is a limited about or escort work that is just that, know a friend who had done quite a few jobs and she's 50 - mostly older gay men who aren't out to their extended family eg Asian men, she's half Asian herself. They don't want people asking questions due to stigma

Gay men?
And she’s a woman?
The math ain’t mathing here.

BridgetRandomfuck · 10/04/2023 12:53

Back at uni in the 90s one of my friends was going to join an escort agency as she was convinced it was just going out to dinner/events with men, as that's what the advert said! Luckily we managed to talk her out of it as she had no idea that would just be the tip of the iceberg. I wonder how many women do get reeled in this way...

Hankunamatata · 10/04/2023 12:55

You could look at local NHS trusts. Lots have banks for HCA. Friend works nights (picks up banks shifts) on weekend as HCA when they need extra money. Its not masses as band 2 or 3/4 once have more experience/training

Goldie2021 · 10/04/2023 12:57

Have you considered only fans? There’s a massive following for foot pics, lingerie shots etc. Doesn’t need to be nude pics.

Onemyownhere · 10/04/2023 12:57

Escorting can be non sexual however it is very dangerous, as when u meet the person you do not know there intentions

MoroccanRoseHChurch · 10/04/2023 13:04

NameChangedSoYouDontKnowHowBrokenMyHeartIs · 10/04/2023 12:49

Gay men?
And she’s a woman?
The math ain’t mathing here.

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This poster has a friend who does non-sexual escorting work. Her customers are gay men who want to hide their homosexuality by taking a woman to events.

HTH