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To think this was not enough food?

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Klex · 09/04/2023 08:14

Went to visit a relative yesterday.

There were five adults, a teenager and two younger kids.

Dinner was two supermarket pizzas, 4 potato waffles and 15 chicken nuggets between all of us.

As usual her kids dived in and had to be reminded there were others.

DS is autistic and pizza is one of his safe foods. He would only touch one of them as it was plain cheese, and this only had about three slices (because DH and I gave him ours). He was hungry as he hadn't eaten lunch (he only eats one out of lunch and dinner most days).

Ended up having to get food on the way home.

AIBU to think that this wasn't enough, and I f you offer to cater for people you actually provide enough food?

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Snoken · 09/04/2023 09:49

Calorie wise it’s probably enough but the actual food sounds horrific and not filling at all. Who would invite people over and only serve ultra processed supermarket junk?

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 09:50

Snoken · 09/04/2023 09:49

Calorie wise it’s probably enough but the actual food sounds horrific and not filling at all. Who would invite people over and only serve ultra processed supermarket junk?

I agree. It’s not a good meal in terms of appeal or healthy eating.

KnittingNeedles · 09/04/2023 09:52

Does every single meal have to be "healthy eating"? Healthy eating is a balanced diet. There is nothing wrong with pizza, nuggets and potato waffles if you are eating other types of food through the week too.

sst1234 · 09/04/2023 09:52

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:41

You have underestimated as many over-eaters do.

A large cheese pizza (no toppings) is 3000 calories
A potato waffle is 95 calories
A Chicken nugget (if baked) is 45 calories

So a 1/4 of a large cheese pizza is 750 calories plus a waffle at 95 calories and two chicken nuggets at 90 calories= 935 calories

For young women of average height, the recommended caloric intake is 2000 calories a day, for young men of berate height, it is 2,500 calories a day.

935 calories is a lot to use on one meal. And we haven’t even looked at drinks…

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Oh look, another competitive under eater. ‘Oh I only eat a cherry tomato for lunch and just sniff the rest if the salad’ type.

GelPens1 · 09/04/2023 09:53

It wasn’t equally portioned out so the adults and OP’s son ate a lot less. The other teens loaded up their plates first.

nomoremerlot · 09/04/2023 09:54

GoodChat · 09/04/2023 09:35

@nomoremerlot obesity crusts is a great typo for this thread!

GrinGrinGrin
Stuffed ones obviously!

GoodChat · 09/04/2023 09:54

Two slices of pizza and a bit of green salad

To be fair, that depends on the size of the pizza. Considering @L3ThirtySeven googled large pizzas when she was looking at calorie content, two slices may well be sufficient.

Blondeshavemorefun · 09/04/2023 09:55

Seems a small amount of food for the amount of people

Were you invited for a meal @Klex or just to pop over for a few hours

Plus if you know your ds has food issues I would make sure I always have a packed box of stuff that he would eat incase or situations like this

If going for tea someone may not know if his issues with food so what would you usually for for meals out at friends

MathsNervous · 09/04/2023 09:56

Good grief, that would only do my teenager😂

MauveCow · 09/04/2023 09:57

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 09:45

Not at all. In fact as soon as the rain stops I have at least a metric tonne of gravel to shovel and shift to top up my driveway. It will be wet and heavier than that though but I have to get it done as I’m replacing a 3m x 3m gravel section of my garden with turf. I’ve already done my 3 mile walk this morning. And I have hung out a load of washing (doing that on the side). Weather app says rain will stop in next half hour…

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I'm still in bed. Husband just brought me a cup of tea and the kids brought me some Easter pictures they've been colouring in.

I win.

AfterTheGoldBrush · 09/04/2023 09:57

GelPens1 · 09/04/2023 09:53

It wasn’t equally portioned out so the adults and OP’s son ate a lot less. The other teens loaded up their plates first.

There was only one teen. The OP's son who had 3 pieces of 1 of the pizzas because he doesn't eat the other stuff. (2 of the pieces given by his parents according to the OP)

AfterTheGoldBrush · 09/04/2023 09:59

Blondeshavemorefun · 09/04/2023 09:55

Seems a small amount of food for the amount of people

Were you invited for a meal @Klex or just to pop over for a few hours

Plus if you know your ds has food issues I would make sure I always have a packed box of stuff that he would eat incase or situations like this

If going for tea someone may not know if his issues with food so what would you usually for for meals out at friends

I'd also make sure, that if I didn't know what was going to be served at someone's house for dinner, that I made sure everyone had had lunch!

JudyBlumesBlubber · 09/04/2023 10:04

I can’t imagine being given this as a meal when visiting people. It sounds pretentious but how beige.. Whether it’s enough or not is secondary to how bland a meal it is.

Hopefully the OP forgot to mention the side salads, coleslaw, breads etc.

WimbyAce · 09/04/2023 10:05

Sounds like they weren't expecting to feed you as looks like emergency rations. Def not what I would serve for a buffet.

starfishmummy · 09/04/2023 10:06

Depends the pizza size really. Our local pozza place does huge ones, and one would be more than enough for 8. But if you're talking a regular supermarket ones then not enough

sealon82 · 09/04/2023 10:06

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:21

I think it’s actually enough food unless the pizzas were very small. No wonder we have an obesity crisis if the OP thinks three slices of pizza for their DS is so little they had to stop and buy more food on the way home. It’s also depressing to note zero salad or vegetables in that meal.

Sort of agree. I wouldn't give anyone 3 slices of pizza, seems an insane amount.
But.... agree it isn't enough food to cover 8 people just because of the random options available. Did they forget you were coming, or some issue with cost and they were to embarrassed to cancel?

JudyBlumesBlubber · 09/04/2023 10:07

KnittingNeedles · 09/04/2023 09:52

Does every single meal have to be "healthy eating"? Healthy eating is a balanced diet. There is nothing wrong with pizza, nuggets and potato waffles if you are eating other types of food through the week too.

Agree but served without any sides of salads, breads, coleslaw?

rainbowunicorn · 09/04/2023 10:09

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 09:08

This was honestly my first hit and I rounded to 3000 calories to make the maths easier

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If you actually click into the link you have highlighted you will see that is for a 16 inch pizza which is much much larger than any supermarket pizza. Most supermarket pizza is 10 inch whether it is fresh or frozen. Some of the ones you can buy that are made in store are 12 inch but a 16 inch pizza is not really something you see at the supermarket

dew141 · 09/04/2023 10:09

I think it's a "yikes didn't realise they were staying for food, what's in the freezer" panic. No one would serve that combo of food unless you've left the freezer open and trying to eat it before it goes off.

Aprilx · 09/04/2023 10:10

KnittingNeedles · 09/04/2023 09:52

Does every single meal have to be "healthy eating"? Healthy eating is a balanced diet. There is nothing wrong with pizza, nuggets and potato waffles if you are eating other types of food through the week too.

I don’t think every meal has to be healthy eating. But even if I were having an unhealthy meal by myself in my own home, I would not put this combination of food together. I don’t think it is a particularly small meal if it were large pizzas, but it is odd. I am wondering if the host, didn’t actually know they would be hosting.

QuickNameChangeForMeToday · 09/04/2023 10:10

L3ThirtySeven · 09/04/2023 08:56

As are many of the comments directed towards me. 🤷‍♀️
Be a dick to me, and I’ll be a dick back. I’m not a doormat.

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The thing is you’re not being a dick back as you say, you just sound a bit stupid.

Blondeshavemorefun · 09/04/2023 10:14

AfterTheGoldBrush · 09/04/2023 09:59

I'd also make sure, that if I didn't know what was going to be served at someone's house for dinner, that I made sure everyone had had lunch!

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This is true @AfterTheGoldBrush

traintraveller · 09/04/2023 10:15

It sounds like you weren't invited/expected to stay for dinner. Did you overstay your welcome and they felt they had to share their dinner?

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Klex · 09/04/2023 10:17

We were invited. Family live 200 miles away. We both cater for the other on visits. No salad or anything with the meal.

Relative is not a cook and I don't think her kids know what a vegetable is.

DS is more limited than he used to be due to his autism but still normally eats more veg than them.

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KvotheTheBloodless · 09/04/2023 10:18

A normal supermarket pizza is the 12 inch kind, not the enormous 16 inch thick crust things. A normal supermarket pizza has approx 900kcal*. Waffles approx 100kcal each, and nuggets approx 40kcal each. That makes the total calories on offer per person 350 kcal. That's not an adequate lunch for either an adult or a teenager, unless they are trying to lose weight, a big snacker, very short/thin or have a metabolic problem.

I'm a recovered anorexic, I know the calories in everything*