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Owlyhedgehog · 2023-04-08T20:26:53+00:00

My Mum messaged tonight to say she has brought my DD8 and easter egg but not my other 2 DD's (20 and 16) Every year we have always brought eggs. I have 2 half sisters aged 23 and 21 and last year brought them both an egg and always have done. This year we hadnt really discussed it. Mum messaged me tonight to say she has brought 8yr old an egg and no one else. I said ok but then questioned it. Told her I have brought eggs for my sisters up until this year and hadnt done becuase we havent spoke about it and Mum replied they are adults now I dont see what the problem is. My problem is she is the grandmother, wouldnt she want to? It's not a massive issue but trying to understand it when one of my friends said her mum had brought an egg and £5 for each grandchild...

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:27

Any family complex enough for this sort of angst to be generated over a chocolate egg needs family therapy.

I mean I wasn't suggesting the egg would be the root cause. I thought that was obvious.

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DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 22:28

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:27

Any family complex enough for this sort of angst to be generated over a chocolate egg needs family therapy.

I mean I wasn't suggesting the egg would be the root cause. I thought that was obvious.

The OP said her children wouldn’t be upset. She’s the one who is bothered.

Dinkied · 08/04/2023 22:29

Now you mention it, not sure I received an egg from my own mother after the age of about 10…

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:31

I am sorry but the comments about my spellings and meanings are not very kind.
There are other complex issues too between my mum and me and ive had to take a step back since xmas but she still doesnt understand it

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NadjaCravensworth1 · 08/04/2023 22:31

Do you think it's going to be a big problem for your adult (and near adult) child to not get some chocolate tomorrow? If my 20 year old seriously cared about not getting an egg from their grandma I would be a little concerned. On the other hand - you as their mother can buy them 10 eggs each if you think they're missing out?! Or maybe you could go and hang out with your family and have a nice time and cherish your older children's teeth 👍

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:32

@DanceMonster

She said that after my initial comment about it, so yeah that's great they won't be but I was just responding to posts.

NadjaCravensworth1 · 08/04/2023 22:33

Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:01

My mum wouldnt have been happy with that! Its like birthdays now going forward, what do I do? Im a single parent, cant afford to pay out much and my sisters are adults now. They dont get me anything for my birthday or xmas...?

We only give young children christmas or birthday gifts in our family, it's not a big deal. You're missing the whole point of all these occasions. Make it special for your 8 year old but adults don't need gifts

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:34

NadjaCravensworth1 · 08/04/2023 22:31

Do you think it's going to be a big problem for your adult (and near adult) child to not get some chocolate tomorrow? If my 20 year old seriously cared about not getting an egg from their grandma I would be a little concerned. On the other hand - you as their mother can buy them 10 eggs each if you think they're missing out?! Or maybe you could go and hang out with your family and have a nice time and cherish your older children's teeth 👍

It it is no problem at all for the girls. I told them earlier. Ive got them a couple of eggs.
I think its me with feeling a bit hurt that shes only got an egg for DD8 but at the same time it is just a bloody easter egg

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DiddlySquat52 · 08/04/2023 22:37

I think buying one for the 16 year old is fair but really once your children get to about 18, I wouldn't expect anyone to buy them an egg.

I might still buy for them but that's a parent's job.

My friend's family member got the right hump a few years ago cause they didn't buy one for the 22 year old son just the 2 little ones. I think that's really weird! They're adults! They can buy their own eggs if they really want one.

toomuchlaundry · 08/04/2023 22:40

Have you got her an egg?

Oopsadaisysgranny · 08/04/2023 22:40

I’m with you I’ve bought Easter eggs for my husband children eldest is 32 down to my granddaughter who’s not yet one !!!!

NadjaCravensworth1 · 08/04/2023 22:42

OP, you're good, it'll be fine. I sense your relationship is strained and I'm sorry about that, but some things just can't be as you'd maybe hoped they would. Cherish your children, maybe do an egg hunt for your 8 year old? I'm sure the older kids would help and nobody will give a second thought to who grandma bought an egg for. And if you have to explain - use at as a teaching opportunity for your older ones that they can't always expect nice things from everybody. Try and have some perspective, you have 3 wonderful children you will be spending Easter with. Have a glass of wine and don't give the eggs a second thought x

Mariposista · 08/04/2023 22:42

I am 32 and lost my beloved grandmother last Wednesday. I was looking through one of her kitchen cupboards for teabags when the vicar came to discuss her funeral, and found an easter egg she had bought for me probably back in February when she would have last gone out :( In her eyes I was never too old for an easter egg and she loved giving them.

DiddlySquat52 · 08/04/2023 22:42

No, I don't think that you should buy your adult sisters Christmas and Birthday presents if you're a single Mum, can't afford it and they don't reciprocate.

Ignore anyone telling you otherwise.

Flowerly · 08/04/2023 22:42

Easter eggs are for children OP. Why on earth would anyone over the age of 10 want a bloody Easter egg?

Seeingadistance · 08/04/2023 22:43

I've stopped bruying an Easter egg for my DS now he's in his 20s.

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:45

NadjaCravensworth1 · 08/04/2023 22:42

OP, you're good, it'll be fine. I sense your relationship is strained and I'm sorry about that, but some things just can't be as you'd maybe hoped they would. Cherish your children, maybe do an egg hunt for your 8 year old? I'm sure the older kids would help and nobody will give a second thought to who grandma bought an egg for. And if you have to explain - use at as a teaching opportunity for your older ones that they can't always expect nice things from everybody. Try and have some perspective, you have 3 wonderful children you will be spending Easter with. Have a glass of wine and don't give the eggs a second thought x

Thank you so much for your kind message.
Yes I have a little one planned and it will be fine. I feel like I do so much to please other people at the mo but thats another story! x

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saraclara · 08/04/2023 22:46

I still give my daughters eggs, even though they're in their 30s. And they buy me one.

The shops are full of eggs for adults. How come so many people on here think it's children only?
I certainly don't intend differentiating between my grandchildren when they're older. Just as with Christmas, eggs, like gifts, are for everyone.

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 08/04/2023 22:47

YABU

Adults and older teens don’t need Easter eggs. I wouldn’t even dream of being so petty with my mum

ReadersD1gest · 08/04/2023 22:49

saraclara · 08/04/2023 22:46

I still give my daughters eggs, even though they're in their 30s. And they buy me one.

The shops are full of eggs for adults. How come so many people on here think it's children only?
I certainly don't intend differentiating between my grandchildren when they're older. Just as with Christmas, eggs, like gifts, are for everyone.

But you can't demand them of anyone. It's a choice to give people any sort of gift, Easter eggs included; not an obligation.

LuckyStone · 08/04/2023 22:53

OP dont worry about it. Just stop buying eggs for your halfsisters, also stop buying them presents if they dont buy you any! They are old enough! Tell your mohter to shove it if she complains. Your mother has ridiculous double standards. Stop catering to them

IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls · 08/04/2023 22:56

Tbh i think its miserly not to buy for all children / grandchildren regardless of age.

UndertheCedartree · 08/04/2023 22:56

I have always only bought eggs for children so that sounds pretty normal to me. Although I'd buy for a 16 or 17yo.

MattTebbuttsDenimShirt · 08/04/2023 22:57

14 year old has one egg with some cash.

25 year old just has cash as I'm sure he'd try to pawn his egg if he didn't 🙄🤣