Easter eggs from Grandparent...

[Owlyhedgehog]

My Mum messaged tonight to say she has brought my DD8 and easter egg but not my other 2 DD's (20 and 16)
Every year we have always brought eggs. I have 2 half sisters aged 23 and 21 and last year brought them both an egg and always have done. This year we hadnt really discussed it.
Mum messaged me tonight to say she has brought 8yr old an egg and no one else. I said ok but then questioned it.
Told her I have brought eggs for my sisters up until this year and hadnt done becuase we havent spoke about it and Mum replied they are adults now I dont see what the problem is.
My problem is she is the grandmother, wouldnt she want to? It's not a massive issue but trying to understand it when one of my friends said her mum had brought an egg and £5 for each grandchild...

My dad is in his nineties still buys us children ( in our sixties) chocolate at Easter! As well as grandchildren and great grandchildren! I buy for my children and grandchildren . I thought that was the norm. Seems like we're in the minority here.

Maybe she's trying to treat the 16 year old as one of the grown ups, in her effort to taper off the egg buying obligation?

I think it would be weirder to only not buy for the 20 year old but to get one for the other 2, especially as 16 and 20 are much closer in age than 16 and 8.it would seem mean to exclude one of them, but this way she's treating the older 2 as adults. Seems fair. I doubt the 16 y o would be calculating and comparing how many years of eggs they were owed.

You cant expect other people to make the same decisions as you. Do what works for you and let your mum do the same, don't try and make all gift giving a contractual obligation.

Eh? Easter eggs are for any age.

That’s just weird. I would make sure it’s only the younger one around when given the Easter egg, or get her to leave it with you and don’t actually give it to her. You don’t want the kids to resent each other.

So? She’s hardly likely to go back after the holiday and tell her friends she had a terrible Easter cos her Nan didn’t buy her an Easter egg!

Well yeah, of course anyone can eat egg shaped chocolate, but generally it’s only young children who expect to be bought them by friends and family on Easter Sunday isn’t it?

I get all my grandchildren Easter Eggs, 25 yrs - 10yrs. It's just a little present between Christmas and birthdays. I like buying them, they like eating them, even the 25 yr old.

I think it’s fair enough to make a cut off point and be clear about it.

My parents always bought their grandkids and great grandkids Easter eggs. DD was the only one who didn't live close enough to get an egg, so my parents would ask me to do a bank transfer and they gave me the cash ( they refused to do online banking as they didn't trust it). They insisted that the reference I used when putting the money into DD's account was "Easter Egg".

But she's not being kicked out of home and made to get a job 🙄

She's just not being treated like one of the little kids. I know what I would have preferred.

If she's really going to resent her kid brother who is 8 years younger getting an egg, perhaps there's more going on here than meets the eye....

My sister and I both want to be the parents that keep doing Easter egg hunts, birthdays and Christmas for our kids for as long as they are alive. My sister bought me a Easter bunny this year 😁 I'm 33. Why can't adults have fun too! We did an Easter egg hunt and tie dye shirts with the "little" cousins ages 2-14 and they all had fun, and I think one of my adult cousins even brought socks to tie dye for herself. It was great. I want to be able to have a place big enough that I can host events like this and if kids have time off then it can be a long weekend thing for 3-5 days of fun and family. There were 28 people in the house and he basement had been flooded so we were all upstairs but it still worked. My grandpa had been getting us kids Easter bunnies up until 3 or 4 years ago. My sister and I have a dream to be able to do a kid Easter egg hunt and an adult version.

My grandad bought me an Easter egg every year til I was 29 and he passed away.

I am trying to get my daughter their house aster eggs to them but they are not speaking to me and I need to get my grandson his Easter what will I do.

Yabu, lots of people stop buying gifts, Easter eggs etc for adult kids, often driven by the costs. Some don't but your mum should be allowed to decide. My parents told dc that they would stop buying birthday and Xmas gifts when they left full time education and started work. The DC are all aware and understand

I buy for all of my grandchildren and the eldest is almost 19. I don’t get them for my children except for my youngest who’s 33 and autistic. Theres still a huge part of him that’s a wee boy. My children send me flowers for Easter and I know there’s an Easter egg waiting at my brothers green I arrive in the UK next week. I’m 66 and he’s late 50’s

I'd be tempted to switch this to my own advantage and say to her that, on reflection, she's right. That you both need to be conscious of money now that youre all mostly adults and the sensible thing is to cut back to just kids and stop buying for adults and you agree with her that now seems a sensible stopping point. Give the eggs you've bought for your sisters to your own older children and stop buying for your sisters bdays/easter etc. And if anyone complains then ultimately you can say it was her idea!

Old thread....start a new one!

My DM has bought eggs for my DS(24) and DS(16) and both their girlfriends.

I have a sil who didn't buy my stepson an easter egg when he was 17 because he was "too old". Fine, doesn't matter. Fast forward to her eldest being 17 and she had the biggest shit fit about us not buying her an egg! There has to be a cut off

Send them in the post/courier

18 is the age when the extended family stop buying here. I bought my dc an Easter egg until the day they moved out. I wouldn’t expect anyone else to buy an egg for an adult aged 18 and over. I buy my dh an egg and he buys me one.

If you want to buy presents for your adult sisters, and other relations, that’s your choice OP. Just because you do it doesn’t mean everyone else has to.

Your mum has decided to stop buying at age 16. That’s her choice. I’m sure your older DD’s won’t go without an egg because their mum will buy one and if they carry on your tradition of buying for siblings they’ll buy an egg for each other.