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Easter eggs from Grandparent...

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 21:26

My Mum messaged tonight to say she has brought my DD8 and easter egg but not my other 2 DD's (20 and 16)
Every year we have always brought eggs. I have 2 half sisters aged 23 and 21 and last year brought them both an egg and always have done. This year we hadnt really discussed it.
Mum messaged me tonight to say she has brought 8yr old an egg and no one else. I said ok but then questioned it.
Told her I have brought eggs for my sisters up until this year and hadnt done becuase we havent spoke about it and Mum replied they are adults now I dont see what the problem is.
My problem is she is the grandmother, wouldnt she want to? It's not a massive issue but trying to understand it when one of my friends said her mum had brought an egg and £5 for each grandchild...

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paintingmakesamess · 08/04/2023 21:29

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MuffinToSeeHere · 08/04/2023 21:29

I don't think it's weird that she only brought for the 8 year old. The 16 year old and 20 year old presumably got eggs when they were younger?

TomatoSandwiches · 08/04/2023 21:32

I think it's fine, however she should have given you a heads up.
Perhaps she is feeling the strain of the COL?
I wouldn't cause an issue over it, just amend who you buy for next year.

pinksquash13 · 08/04/2023 21:32

I think it's fine. Buy your older kids an egg yourself. Surely the 16yo and 20yo can understand that kids get the eggs. They can buy their own as well.

Ohmy88 · 08/04/2023 21:36

Personally don’t think of a 16yo as an adult but can totally understand not buying for a 20yo. This will be the first year I have bought our nieces & nephews a very small choc bunny instead of proper Easter eggs. Tbh I feel a bit bad about it but there are a lot of them and we can’t really justify spending £20+ on Easter eggs 👎🏼

DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 21:41

Well, I generally see Easter eggs as being for children really. Will your 16 and 20 year olds be bothered?
Is she struggling for cash?

Franklin2000 · 08/04/2023 21:42

I’m with you op, never too old for Easter eggs. My MIL buys all grandchildren eggs, and the oldest is 23! My mum and grandma buy me one and I’m 40. It’s like advent calendars and the dirty look DS (18) gave me when I asked if he still wanted one! I can see why if there’s money issues and there are several grown grandchildren but if it’s just 2 she’s leaving out seems odd to me.

AgrathaChristie · 08/04/2023 21:43

I can’t imagine my older grandchildren being at all interested in a chocolate egg. A bottle of Prosecco, now you’re talking.

MysteryBelle · 08/04/2023 21:45

I believe every person young, old, or in between, deserves an Easter egg! And a Christmas stocking!

MysteryBelle · 08/04/2023 21:45

AgrathaChristie · 08/04/2023 21:43

I can’t imagine my older grandchildren being at all interested in a chocolate egg. A bottle of Prosecco, now you’re talking.

LOL 😂

Tandora · 08/04/2023 21:46

Surely a 20 yr old who wants an egg that much can buy their own?

Isanny · 08/04/2023 21:47

She is being unfair really as one DC has had eggs for 19 years and the other for 15

Oakyloaky · 08/04/2023 21:50

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Ermm what was the point of your post?

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 21:50

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Thanks for that!!

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OnaBegonia · 08/04/2023 21:51

Plenty folk stop once they're adults.
She bought egg unless he's already brought it to your DC.🤷🏼‍♀️

Oakyloaky · 08/04/2023 21:52

My children are in their 20s and will definitely feel really sad if they don’t get an Easter Egg ..it’s called tradition.

DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 21:54

Oakyloaky · 08/04/2023 21:52

My children are in their 20s and will definitely feel really sad if they don’t get an Easter Egg ..it’s called tradition.

I’m sure the OP is still maintaining the tradition with her adult children. Doesn’t mean their grandparents have to continue buying them for eternity though!

RideACockHorseToSunburyCross · 08/04/2023 21:54

"Ermm what was the point of your post?"

Probably couldn't think of anything else, I couldn't either. Still don't know who bought who an egg 🙈🤣

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 08/04/2023 21:54

Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 21:50

Thanks for that!!

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Don't give posters like that the satisfaction, OP. They can't stop themselves, best ignored.

Back to your post though, yes, you'd think a grandmother would want to buy eggs for all of their grandchildren if they're going to for one, It's an Easter egg, no age limit.

Kitcaterpillar · 08/04/2023 21:55

Surely all grandparents stop buying eggs at some point? I'm in my 30s and would be bemused if my grandmother bought me an egg, I imagine she stopped when I was 18?

JudgeRudy · 08/04/2023 21:55

I think it's perfectly fine to just buy for the children. I didn't buy my grandchildren an egg. One is a teen the other is younger. If I was seeing them at Easter I might have done but wouldn't have felt obliged. Pretty sure there's no one buying me one. I refuse to let Easter become another gift buying 'must do something' occasion. Next thing we'll be buying May Cakes.
(I don't buy gifts either because I've been on holiday)

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 21:56

I just wanted to see what everyone's opinions are on brought or bought eggs!
If I had grandchildren I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable doing that.
Well she has said they never have money but my mum ans step dad have been out for 3 lunches this week with a trip to london and a chinese tonight.....

Sorry, think all my spellings and punctuation are correct 😂

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Hiddenvoice · 08/04/2023 21:57

My gran always bought my siblings and I an Easter egg but once the oldest two were 18 and 16, she stopped as they were growing up and weren’t interested.

I understand you’re upset as it looks like they are missing out but they have grown up now and she might be trying to save money. £10 for two eggs is fairly expensive

Sceptre86 · 08/04/2023 21:59

Sounds like you feel a bit put out because you didn't stop buying for your half sisters once they became adults yet your mum has now your kids are older. That was your choice though. I'd let it go.

DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 22:00

Hang on, have you bought them for your half sisters this year?