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Easter eggs from Grandparent...

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 21:26

My Mum messaged tonight to say she has brought my DD8 and easter egg but not my other 2 DD's (20 and 16)
Every year we have always brought eggs. I have 2 half sisters aged 23 and 21 and last year brought them both an egg and always have done. This year we hadnt really discussed it.
Mum messaged me tonight to say she has brought 8yr old an egg and no one else. I said ok but then questioned it.
Told her I have brought eggs for my sisters up until this year and hadnt done becuase we havent spoke about it and Mum replied they are adults now I dont see what the problem is.
My problem is she is the grandmother, wouldnt she want to? It's not a massive issue but trying to understand it when one of my friends said her mum had brought an egg and £5 for each grandchild...

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iminvestednow · 08/04/2023 22:00

You have adult children, are they so sensitive and devoid of normal emotions that they would genuinely be offended by not getting a crappy £5 Easter egg?

MuffinToSeeHere · 08/04/2023 22:00

If I had grandchildren I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable doing that

But surely you wouldn't just buy them an egg forever and ever? I'm sure the 16 and 20 year olds wont be the slightest bit fussed.

Angeldelight50 · 08/04/2023 22:01

I don’t think this is a big deal. I could understand if it was their birthday, or Christmas, but Easter doesn’t seem overly important. I’m one of the elder grandchildren who doesn’t get an egg and I’ve never given it a second thought. Also neither nor there that you bought your sisters, that was your choice.

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:01

My mum wouldnt have been happy with that! Its like birthdays now going forward, what do I do? Im a single parent, cant afford to pay out much and my sisters are adults now. They dont get me anything for my birthday or xmas...?

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JaninaDuszejko · 08/04/2023 22:02

Don't think my Mum bought me an egg once I was an adult and has never given my children an easter egg. DH will get in trouble if I don't get one from him tomorrow though.

ThinWomansBrain · 08/04/2023 22:03

MysteryBelle · 08/04/2023 21:45

I believe every person young, old, or in between, deserves an Easter egg! And a Christmas stocking!

so OP buys them one?

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:03

The biggest issue is the sudden end.

It is fine to stop once they are adults but she didn't stop buying the older one until she was 20 so she should buy the 16 to until that she too.

iminvestednow · 08/04/2023 22:04

Don’t get them anything then!

Briallen · 08/04/2023 22:04

Just say oh ok good plan going forward all presents and Easter eggs etc are for under 18s. And then this includes you not needing to buy for your sisters as they are adults.

Poppymil · 08/04/2023 22:04

I'm 30 so don't expect one from my GP's as I'm the eldest GC by about 20 years and have my own child although I did still get one from them. Although I didn't get an advent calendar at Christmas haha

Angeldelight50 · 08/04/2023 22:05

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:03

The biggest issue is the sudden end.

It is fine to stop once they are adults but she didn't stop buying the older one until she was 20 so she should buy the 16 to until that she too.

This is very pedantic for a bloody chocolate egg!

DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 22:06

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:03

The biggest issue is the sudden end.

It is fine to stop once they are adults but she didn't stop buying the older one until she was 20 so she should buy the 16 to until that she too.

Do people really give it so much thought though? I’m 38, I have no idea at what age my grandparents (or parents) stopped buying me Easter eggs. I have no idea if they stopped buying them for me at the exact same age as they stopped buying them for my brother, or my cousins. Never gave it a seconds thought. It’s just an Easter egg.

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:07

Thats my theory. I did buy for my sisters until 20 so she should carry on but at the same time thats not fair on the others. But again if i was grandma I couldnt live with buying 1 egg.

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DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 22:08

Couldn’t ‘live with’ buying one egg? This is all very dramatic for a chocolate egg.

Schnooze · 08/04/2023 22:08

Stop at 18 for everyone. Make it clear before the next event.

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:08

@DanceMonster

Do people really give it so much thought though? I’m 38, I have no idea at what age my grandparents (or parents) stopped buying me Easter eggs. I have no idea if they stopped buying them for me at the exact same age as they stopped buying them for my brother, or my cousins. Never gave it a seconds thought. It’s just an Easter egg.

Some maybe do and others don't. I suppose there are a lot of contributing factors as to how someone would feel in such a situation and while it's irrelevant to you it could be a big detail to this 16 year old.

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:09

@Angeldelight50

This is very pedantic for a bloody chocolate egg!

Is it?

I think the fact it's an egg isn't so important. It's the unfairness of gift giving from grandma.

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:10

Good idea for under 18s.
Xmas presents are similar where im expected to pay out the same amount for presents for my half sisters as my mum does for my children and I need to put a stop to it this year.

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DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 22:10

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:08

@DanceMonster

Do people really give it so much thought though? I’m 38, I have no idea at what age my grandparents (or parents) stopped buying me Easter eggs. I have no idea if they stopped buying them for me at the exact same age as they stopped buying them for my brother, or my cousins. Never gave it a seconds thought. It’s just an Easter egg.

Some maybe do and others don't. I suppose there are a lot of contributing factors as to how someone would feel in such a situation and while it's irrelevant to you it could be a big detail to this 16 year old.

True.

OP, are there any extenuating circumstances which mean your 16 year old will be particularly upset about not getting a chocolate egg?

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:11

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:09

@Angeldelight50

This is very pedantic for a bloody chocolate egg!

Is it?

I think the fact it's an egg isn't so important. It's the unfairness of gift giving from grandma.

yes exactly

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whynotwhatknot · 08/04/2023 22:12

you can get small ones for a pound-my grandad got them for me every year till he died and i was 23

Angeldelight50 · 08/04/2023 22:12

Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:09

@Angeldelight50

This is very pedantic for a bloody chocolate egg!

Is it?

I think the fact it's an egg isn't so important. It's the unfairness of gift giving from grandma.

But it is about an egg. I’d be more concerned about my 16 y/o’s ability to cope in the real world if they were going to be this upset about an 8 year old receiving a bit of chocolate.

thegrain · 08/04/2023 22:13

It's all very overwrought

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Owlyhedgehog · 08/04/2023 22:14

DanceMonster · 08/04/2023 22:10

True.

OP, are there any extenuating circumstances which mean your 16 year old will be particularly upset about not getting a chocolate egg?

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No not at all and maybe I am just overthinking it and being a bitch?
But every year I have bought eggs for my half sisters, her children. Every year I buy presents off their xmas lists and send money for their birthdays.
If I send vouchers mum moans, worry she will moan if i dont send enough money.

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Isanny · 08/04/2023 22:15

@Angeldelight50

But it is about an egg. I’d be more concerned about my 16 y/o’s ability to cope in the real world if they were going to be this upset about an 8 year old receiving a bit of chocolate.

It has nothing to do with the 8 year old. I said it is unfair to buy for one for longer then the other. It's to do with the comparison against the eldest. You are very fortunate if you have never experienced anything that may help you understand what I mean, but the possibility existsZ