Easter eggs from Grandparent...

[Owlyhedgehog]

My Mum messaged tonight to say she has brought my DD8 and easter egg but not my other 2 DD's (20 and 16)
Every year we have always brought eggs. I have 2 half sisters aged 23 and 21 and last year brought them both an egg and always have done. This year we hadnt really discussed it.
Mum messaged me tonight to say she has brought 8yr old an egg and no one else. I said ok but then questioned it.
Told her I have brought eggs for my sisters up until this year and hadnt done becuase we havent spoke about it and Mum replied they are adults now I dont see what the problem is.
My problem is she is the grandmother, wouldnt she want to? It's not a massive issue but trying to understand it when one of my friends said her mum had brought an egg and £5 for each grandchild...

I don’t think you grow out of liking chocolate eggs, but I do think you should grow out of expecting them to be provided for you with no reciprocation. And it’s good to lower the number you get as you get older - metabolisms slow down, scoffing delicious treats during holidays should slow down a little too. Moderation helps you keep up with the fun stuff without suffering for it. This is a pretty natural way to do that.

I can see why someone might not want to be locked into buying eggs for their descendants until the day they die. Adulthood is a reasonable cut off, I would probably stop when they were out of school, but 16 isn’t a bad age.

It would have been good for your DM to give you more of a heads up. But she probably didn’t think about it until she was there in front of the shelves and suddenly wondering why she was still buying eggs for a 20 year old. Still, it will be fine. As PPs have said, you kids aren’t going to have a terrible Easter because your 8 yr old got an extra egg. At those ages you can have a great time without treating them all exactly the same.

You give one you give all . Imo you only stop giving someone as grandkids or kids when their own kids come along and you buy fir them instead

She should have given them an egg op, I agree.
Its really tight, unless she was very strapped for cash (and that doesn’t seem to be the case).

Everyone likes to receive an egg at Easter time, no matter how old they are.

No-one is demanding it. OP is hurt and confused that the GP is favouring one GC over the others. As I would be.

MN is usually all over any case of GP favouritism. And that's what this is.

i think yabu to expect eggs to be bought for anyone over the age of 16. Maybe something from the parents but no one else needs to be expending cash.

I suppose. But she could be skint and spent her available money on the one of the three who's an actual child, who knows?

I would just let it go OP, you can see the logic and I doubt a 16 and 20 year old are going to be put out about being one cheap egg down or be bothered that their very young sibling got one.

I think when there are existing issues with family it's very easy to overthink things and make more of them, see things that perhaps aren't there. On this occasion I think I'd have just left it. What she chooses to buy or not doesn't have any bearing on what you can choose to buy the kids (regardless of age) or what you arrange for the family easter - an argument and extra bad feeling isn't going to improve it, nor will highlighting the issue.

They're adults - no big deal. Our family have only ever bought for children if we're going to see them, and never for siblings. My Dad never buys as we don't see him over Easter. DH's Mum will but sometimes she gives a pound instead. As a PP has said, it's not another present buying event!

We used to go to church every Easter (cause, you know, it's a religious festival) but haven't since covid and DGM becoming less mobile. But it's really a non-event now - slam in the lamb, have an egg hunt with the littlies and we're done! I really can't imagine getting worked up over a bit of chocolate either way....

We all get eggs in my family, adults and children alike. It’s a bit of nonsense that most of us enjoy. I don’t think age comes into it really.

Oh goodness, I'm so sorry, what a lovely last memory you have. Some Grandmothers are really special ones, I hope she has the best send off. 💐

My DC are in their 30’s, I still buy them and their partners an Easter egg, and the year I stopped buying them advent calendars, I never heard the end of it.

My late dad bought me an egg every year, as I prefer dark chocolate, mine was often the egg he bought first. He stopped buying his dgc eggs as soon as they finished secondary school at which point he gave them a fiver.

OP stop buying your sisters an egg, especially if you resent it, if you’re worried that your eldest 2 don’t get one, spend your sisters egg money on your own dc.

Whereas I think YABU, and being overly invested in an Easter Egg, I do think that their dgm would have been better to stop buying for each child as they got to 18. It seems unfair that your eldest was bought eggs until they were 19, but your dc2 was only bought an egg until they were 15.

Why do so many people struggle between the words "brought" and "bought"?

I’m with op! I buy Easter eggs for my children and their partners, grandchildren, husband and my sister, brother in law, and niece. I will buy them Easter eggs no matter how old they are! 🐣

Personally as a GM myself I would have bought one for the older girls too. In future don't buy for your half sisters.

Easter is for children and young people who aren’t yet working. As soon as family start working we stop eggs. I’ve only ever bought for my own children anyway and won’t buy for my son once he goes off to university or starts working. If he wants one then he can buy his own! My son gets an egg or gift off his grandparents but I don’t get anything and wouldn’t expect anything. It’s for children!

I'm 54 and my mum and dad popped round this afternoon with Easter Eggs for me do and both dds so I definitely don't think they are just for kids

I buy my mum (78) an Easter egg and a stocking at Christmas and she gets me (42) one too. If my siblings see her at Easter (50,45) they get one too.

Surely OP can buy eggs for her older children? Why are some posters making it sound as though the poor deprived children won't have anything? I love Easter eggs, but if I really want one I can buy it for myself.

I don't remember if my grandparents gave any to me, but they certainly didn't when I was 16 or 20.

As you are asking it's bought. Not brought.

Of course they're not just for kids, but the point here is that OP is talking about GRANDPARENTS buying eggs, not parents. My parents and I exchanged Easter eggs too, but that is different. OP's children will all presumably get some from her, but I don't think GPs should be obligated.

@magicthree yes but as I stated in my post my parents also bought them for my dds who are their grandchildren

My mum bought me an Easter egg every year, when I was well into my adult years! It’s what mums do. Isn’t it? I confess I bought my 32 year old son one This year, as well as his children of course!

goodbye diet tomorrow though, as Mr T has bought me a huge one.

I would think it very weird if my mum did this. She still gets me an Easter egg!

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with stopping doing it. Age 18 is pretty appropriate for grandchildren I think. Age 16 is a bit odd, that's not grown up. And to do it without any sort of heads up when other adult kids in the family are still treated? Odd.