Easter eggs from Grandparent...

[Owlyhedgehog]

My Mum messaged tonight to say she has brought my DD8 and easter egg but not my other 2 DD's (20 and 16)
Every year we have always brought eggs. I have 2 half sisters aged 23 and 21 and last year brought them both an egg and always have done. This year we hadnt really discussed it.
Mum messaged me tonight to say she has brought 8yr old an egg and no one else. I said ok but then questioned it.
Told her I have brought eggs for my sisters up until this year and hadnt done becuase we havent spoke about it and Mum replied they are adults now I dont see what the problem is.
My problem is she is the grandmother, wouldnt she want to? It's not a massive issue but trying to understand it when one of my friends said her mum had brought an egg and £5 for each grandchild...

I'd deffo have the chat around Xmas gifts ect, before I had my DD my auntie would just buy for me and now I've said not to bother and just buy for daughter and I'll just buy for her kids as in our family the adults don't really get anything just the kids from like aunts/sisters ect if that makes sense

I didnt say my 16yr old would be upset about not receiving an egg...

It's a running joke with DNie & DNep that I buy them a Freddo/Buttons £1 egg every year. DNie new husband now gets one too.

My sister forgets to buy my younger children an egg every flipping year! Always turns up with a bar of dairy milk each a week late. Which is now their running joke too.

Ain't nowt like families, eh?

Do what you want OP and let grandparents do what they want. If the older children without eggs have a problem, then parent them through finding a solution they're happy with.

Yet you are...

The 16 year old isn't an adult but I don't see the issue with the 20 year old.

You buying your sisters eggs is irrelevant.

If they all live at home with you then she should’ve got them all one. Even a little one each OR none at all.

I can understand maybe the 20 yo not getting one but the 16yo isn’t an adult and is in that weird still wants to be a child but also grown up stage so would’ve probably rolled eyes at the egg but enjoyed it anyway 🤣

im over 30 and my grandad would still get me an Easter egg if he was seeing me at Easter. Usually just a Cadbury crème egg but it was still an easter egg

Am I? how? How am I saying 16yr old is upset but 20yr old isnt?

It would be better if no one did eggs if it causes all this much hassle

They're adults and it's bought , bought an egg

You are upset

My gran stills buys me Easter eggs now in my 30s which I think is cute of her but I'd absolutely understand if she'd stopped when I got into my teens / early adulthood. My parents haven't bought me one since I was about 16 I don't think.

As I mentioned, I am one of the elder grandchildren who doesn’t receive an Easter egg and I have no idea if I got any less/more than my siblings, thankfully I don’t seem to have been scarred by all the egg buying madness…

Sounds like your real issue here OP is you feel aggrieved you have made the effort with your sisters and the effort is not being returned to your DC’s.

what about buy?

I buyed a sweet for my friend but didn't buyed for the other 🙃

@Angeldelight50

As I mentioned, I am one of the elder grandchildren who doesn’t receive an Easter egg and I have no idea if I got any less/more than my siblings, thankfully I don’t seem to have been scarred by all the egg buying madness…

I know what you mentioned. I merely suggest that families are deeply complex and your experience isn't everyone's experience.

Where would you like her to ‘bring’ an egg from OP 😜

Also if they can't buy for one without buying for the others when does this stop?

Can they stop when the 8 year old is 20 in 12 years? Or will that then be unfair because the 20 year old got eggs until they were 32 so they must continue on and on so no grandchildren got eggs for longer than the other in some neverending cycle.

You have children with an age gap meaning your youngest will get things that sometimes the eldest ones don't or already had when they were that age. It's fine.

You also have no idea that the OP’s family is ‘deeply complex’ and that there are particular issues meaning the 16 year old would be upset. In fact the OP has said herself that her children wouldn’t be upset. So it feels like you may be projecting a bit.

Your children should not expect Easter eggs from anyone. If you get them for your kids, great! I’ve got a really amazing family and brilliant in-laws and would never expect them to buy eggs for my kids. Grow a pair and stop being so whiny.

Any family complex enough for this sort of angst to be generated over a chocolate egg needs family therapy.

am checking my dictionary, how about just giving people a break?

Wow I find this very odd! I don’t recall getting an egg from my Rents in adult hood, and my kids get that much chocolate crap from friends etc that I don’t even buy them any.

guess it even means something to you or it doesn’t. My parents gave my pre-teen kids £10 to spend on their Easter break this year and no egg - no shits given by anyone.

You buying your sisters eggs is irrelevant

To be honest it actually seems like this is the reason the op is most annoyed. It's like some silly tot for that nonsense that her parents should buy her kids eggs because she buys her sister's eggs. If the OP had stopped buying for her sisters years ago and her parents had just decided to stop getting her eldest 2 eggs this year I doubt she would be even remotely fussed. It certainly comes across that the OP thinks her kids are due eggs in a reciprocal agreement because she buys them for siblings.