To think anyone with 4+ kids must be run ragged

[Peppadog]

How does anyone manage with 4 kids and still feel like they are coping and enjoying life? I'm asking this partly because we have 3 and are considering a 4th. Every Mumsnet thread I've googled seems generally to warn people off, says the children miss out, parents spread too thin etc.
Does anyone have 4 and really love it and think they still get enough time with each child?
This is a bit of a cheek AIBU but there is never much traffic on large families!

@Tinybrother this is such a wise comment and so true

No we never had anyone helping us but when matches / training clashed we would just lift share .
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I'm one of 5. 1st DH one of 5. 2nd DH 1 of 6.
I had 2. I knew that's all I could afford and handle.

I would say my childhood was just ok.
There was a lot of dysfunction in all of the families.

I don't think large families are necessary and are a stress to the planet.

I'm single mum to 4.

It's hard. Very hard and relentless. Expensive. I work full time.

childminder helps.

As they get older into secondary sch it's easier but more expensive.

I work full time and make it work.

I'd think carefully the three to four tipped the balance and probably was a big factor in ending my marriage . He never helped and at the stage of four it's essential to have both parents do their bit

I have four, with a 9 year spread oldest to youngest and one set of twins (the oldest).

I am generally happy with the chaotic life, and thrive on there always being something to do. But I do struggle a lot of the time because I have one child who needs ALL the attention and kicks off when they don't get it. This leads to massive sibling (particularly twin sibling) rivalry and I then get overwhelmed trying to balance everyone.

Having said that, because of the birth order of my kids, I think 3 would be harder than 4. Our number 4 completes the family and brings more calm than he does chaos.

For me, large age gaps (4-5 years) have been important. I am very very tired having had a pregnancy/baby/toddler for over 12 years, but having had twins, I don't think I would have coped well with 4 kids close in age.

I have 5. Oldest is 19, then 15, 7 and 3 & 3. Yes my 'last baby' was a double whammy. We wouldn't change it though we are very happy. It's noisy though!

I’m one of four. It was absolute chaos.

Planning to have no more than one, something DP and I are aligned on.

We just want to be able to give a child the best possible life, and not overwhelm ourselves and end up doing a bad job.

Im from a family of five and have five myself!