to wear my asexual ring

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asexuals often wear a black ring on the middle finger of the right hand edited by MNHQ

I think it would be very useful if this was widely recognised and understood,

Then asexuals could go to pubs, clubs, social events and no one would be hitting on them, friendships started at work or hobbies would not be prone to misunderstandings, and accusations of leading people on, and social arrangements could be made without the confusion about whether it is meant to be a date of not.

asexuals would also recognise each other

I think it is similar to earing a wedding ring to say you are in a relationship, wearing an asexual ring to signal that you are not available for a sexual relationship, even though you may be known to be single

I am expecting a load of hostility and aggression on here, because there always is, whenever asexuality is mentioned, but that wont bother me at all, because some people will read this, and learn to recognise the asexual ring, and that is all I want.

Go on any dating app and say you are only in town for one night.

You'll be knee deep in knobs sharpish.

Most people won't have a clue what it means. Wear what you want.

😆

It’s worn on the right hand where I live also.

This, I'm afraid. Some men would think you're only asexual because you haven't met THEM yet.

And, use your words.

Not in Wonderland.

I didn't realise only women or females could be asexual. Every day is a learning day.

😁

Nobody is going to remember from this or give a shit what you’re wearing. Nobody is even going to notice what jewellery you’re wearing.

Wedding rings are noticed because they are rooted in centuries of history.

A random black ring on a random finger is not and means nothing. If you’re secure and confident in your choice you shouldn’t need to try and make everyone else aware of it.

I always feel these posts are more about being recognized and accepted - and I’m going to be honest. Most people don’t care.

Just be you. That would be the person we care about.

I had no idea that was a thing.
The ring I mean, not being asexual. I know there are a lot of people with no interest in sex.

Wear it if you want. Nobody's stopping you.

I don't think it will be very helpful though tbh. Most people won't even notice your ring.
Of those who do, most will vaguely register you are wearing a ring and then forget all about you.
Of those who notice your ring, only a very very small number will know what the ring means.
Of those, very few will care.

Also, if you think that wearing a ring will protect you from blokes hitting on you in pubs and clubs you are staggeringly naive.

In fact, as pp have pointed out, it may well have the opposite effect with some men.

Like the ones who see lesbians as a challenge. 🤦

Wear the ring, it can't hurt. But I'd suggest you work on assertively saying not interested as well because a black ring on your finger is not a forcefield.

God I wish it was. That'd be great!

Does everything need a ring, badge or ribbon nowadays?

Do as you wish but most people just use communication to express their lack of interest in someone, it's quite easy really.

Wear whatever you like. Don't assume that people will know what it signifies, however.

I think you definitely should wear it.

Just say you are not interested. Most people that are not asexual are in the same boat as you. They do not want to be hit on by random men. Also, as other people said, I don't usually notice what other people wear, so wouldn't easily spot the black ring.

Myself I feel they are more about someone starting up a boutique business flogging rings and are "generating a buzz" as some marketing genius has suggested.

Maybe I can be too cynical

I'm not asexual and I don't wear any rings. No-one ever hits on me!

Being invisible to men is one of the joys of middle age!

The vast majority of people have no idea what the ring symbolises and would look at it (if ever) as just a bit of jewellery. I didn't until I read this post. Wear what you want.

Carry on. I have to say I either wouldn't notice, or I would probably ignore it.

You might be right there.

I wear a wedding ring - I’m married. Doesn’t stop men chatting me up.
We cannot control the actions of others. Only our responses to them.

Unfortunately unwanted attention, avoiding misunderstandings, and men not taking no for an answer is an issue that all women seem to have to navigate, whether asexual, in a relationship, not looking for a relationship at the moment, not attracted to the particular person or whatever

When I was younger me and my friends used to resort to all kinds of lies to try to deter men, who just couldn't accept that a single , heterosexual woman wouldn't be into them.

Sometimes solo women travellers are advised to wear wedding rings to deter unwanted attention and I think sadly the only reason this sometimes helps is that some men won't respect a woman's own wishes, but will be afraid of another man appearing to defend his 'property'

So I'd be surprised if wearing your ring has the effect you desire OP, even if is was a more widely-known symbol

You can wear what you like but I’d still have no idea!

My male boss wears a black ring on that same finger but he’s married with DC, maybe I should tell him what it means?!

Yes. I get the impression that people who identify as asexual think it’s a lot more interesting than it actually is. When I meet people, I’m really not wondering whether they have a sexual life, or what kind of sex they have with what kind of people. The sort of activities they do (or don’t do) with their genitals is none of my business and not something I want to spend any time thinking about.

I will put this on the never ending list of items that I "should" know but really don't care about.