My day versus his day

[Spiderplantweb]

My day-
alarm goes off at 7, I get straight up get ready take the dogs out at 7:30, back at 8:30, feed the dogs water, put kettle on, unload the dishwasher, have breakfast. Go upstairs make beds
9:00 start work at my £85k a year job.
12:30 take dogs out, put hoover round and grab lunch.
1:30 get back to work. Pay a few bills and organise shopping delivery.
6:00 he comes home, we take dogs out. I cook dinner load dishwasher, feed dogs, wipe round kitchen.
8:00 we sit down to watch tv

his day

7:00 gets woken up by my alarm, tools over goes back to sleep until 8:15.
8:30 gets out of bed, gets ready to go to work
9:00 leaves house for £28k a year job he loves
17:00 comes back home and sits down to watch tv until I am ready to go out.
1800 accompanies me on the evening walk and then watches tv until dinner is ready
1930 joins me for dinner and then goes back to watch TV.

Im an absolute bloody mug aren’t I.

@Eyerollcentral is spot on, in my opinion.

This response is really weird. WTF?

I want your job. Its a chilled day for ou both. You married him so why are you complaining? Have you talked to him about cooking a few times a week? If you are on so much money, get a cleaner. OR ask him to have a rota, he does dishwasher on a few days and you do the rest.

I missed he wanted to go part time!! Haha, God love him. You wouldn't be the first women to put up with a man be a lazy shit but you would be an absolute fool to agree to this. These men eh?

You're on £85k?
Have a dog-walker, cleaner, gardener, and have your groceries delivered.
No massive problem

Because men should just be an expensive pet with no expectations to pull their own fucking weight? Jesus Christ…

@Eyerollcentral You don’t seem to have that much to complain about.

Really? A man who does fuck all around the house, is bankrolled by OP, who wants to go part time on her dollar, whom she can’t face having kids with as she already does everything - is not much to complain of?

The expectations of women on this forum are barrel-scraping.

This was my first reaction!

What an easy life you lead with ample time to do whatever you like !

Not as much as her partner does though ey? He has an even better, even easier life. Why is that not worthy of comment?

He's not the one complaining about it though is he!

No point in asking, they never come back to defend their view.

Out of interest, Is his job harder physical work and/or more danger than yours? Are you of equal intelligence and capacity?

This makes a massive difference because there are plenty of people doing jobs for not much money who are working to physical exhaustion and risking their lives on the regular, and plenty of people getting a lot more money for less work because lf their skills and qualifications.

Unspoken resentment always raises an eyebrow for me, because so often the reason it is unspoken, is that the complainant knows their complaints are not legitimate in some way.

'feed the dogs water'?? surely this isn't a job and they have a permanent water bowl available? I'm sorry but your day seems a doddle. Ask DP to walk the dogs after work then you don't have to do that one and then split the week to share the cooking. Done.

No they don't because no one is stupid enough to say its because he's a man therefore as long as he works, he shouldn't have to do anything else. I wonder if that's how they think of it in their own head? Or if they do mental gymnastics to make the woman at fault and don't even realise they are doing it? I stand by my theory that most of them expect nothing from their partners so resent other women trying to better their own lives. Its fascinating.

Either a. Posters are so bedazzled by OP’s salary and decent lifestyle that they think she can’t expect a decent partner as well. b. They think his lazy sponging is perfectly ok.

Well he wouldn’t would he?

He’s living there life of Riley.

SkyandSurf · Today 15:18
Appreciate what? A man with no ambition and too lazy to make the bed or pop the kettle on

How do you know the man has no ambition? He could be in the police, a nurse and so on. Just because he’s not on mega bux dosent mean he has no ambition. What a silly comment.
I agree he could be doing more about the house.

I stand by my theory that most of them expect nothing from their partners so resent other women trying to better their own lives.

I think this is it in a nutshell.

OP I have no idea WTAF has happened here, we should change AIBU to Handmaiden Central. Probably people just interested in your salary. But anyway, thank god you have put things in motion to leave. Next time you want to post about it try Relationships or Divorce/Separation thread. And well done for walking the walk - get rid.

It's that 5-6pm window which he should be using to prepare dinner for you, or walking the dogs on his own to give you a break later, which I would find so annoying.

He has only himself to blame for you wanting to leave. Are you married?

@Spiderplantweb I'm glad you're making plans to leave. He is outrageous.
I do 90% of the housework here, we have one dc, school aged.
But I only work 1-2 days per week, self employed.
He works full time. He pays all of our bills. I pay our saving, groceries and day to day bits for me and dc.
He works his hours over 4 days so one day I'm working he is off and does school pickup and the house is almost always tidy when I get home.

We're pretty evenly split and there is no resentment.
Your OH deserves the shock he's going to get.

"I stand by my theory that most of them expect nothing from their partners so resent other women trying to better their own lives."

Don't know who said that as its pasted from another post but by fuck that is so true. I'm currently leaving my H of 34 years even though we are in our 60s and the reactions are bizarre, but mostly about how men shouldn't really be expected to "help" with housework or child rearing etc., why would I leave a nice cosy home at my age just because we "dont get on" and so on. I could go on for pages.

I think if you want more from your life, if you are trying to be independent, it threatens others who have "settled". I'm leaving a relationship that seems very similar to that of a number of friends, therefore they infer that I am saying those relationships aren't acceptable and they need to put me down. Like what's happened here today.

Well what the fuck has he got to complain about? He just goes to work and watches tv, doesn’t even have to cook his own dinner. Why should OP have to do it for him?