I'm not interested in a career or mortgage. I'm happy making money with whichever jobs suit me at the time of my life, throwing a bit into a pension and using the leftovers to enjoy my life.
I don't think it's a crime to be on benefits if you need to be and I don't view people on it as selfish /lazy/entitled/a drain of tax payers' money.
I can't make my pre schooler stop screaming and acting out by telling her 'she must be feeling really frustrated and mummy understands'. I usually receive a smack in the face for my efforts.
She also equally would not find a day of play dough, puddle jumping and helping me cook, stimulating or rewarding. She'd rather have a play date and be telling me to piss off if I tried to engage that much with her and gets furious if we don't do enough properly fun (but expensive 😔) stuff like bouncy castles and soft play 🤣
I don't believe kids must have amazing attendance at school or they will fail at life. I'm not in fear that they will 'miss out' if they have days off for down time or days out, when they/you need it. I believe schools create that rhetoric and fear, to make their statistics look a lot better for themselves.
We don't have a perfectly orchestrated wind down/bath/bedtime routine. Whatever's going on, I just say "come on, it's bedtime", we go up, she gets a quick story, snuggles until sleep. It works, and she's happy.
I don't pay attention to my spelling/grammar when writing on here, and I don't care to waste my energy ammending it either- it's just a forum.
I don't think I'm a perfect mum and I don't judge anyone else for doing it differently to me